bereavement music

turn the music off, maybe.

Expected to feel this way, but don't. Even bring my ipod with me everywhere, which i didn't usually.

cocteau twins
eno
Gorecki

sound like excellent recommendations. Iron and Wine are perhaps too sad right now. I have been listening to droid+slugs epic ambient mixes, Schwantology 1&2, and they have been helping a lot, also a little ambient mix called "a room without edges" by jupe. Also Illmatic by Nas, why i can't quite figure out. Escapism probably, since my life is geographically and metaphorically thousands of miles from the ones he is talking about. Also the distance in time, the sound gives rise to a funny sort of nostalgia i find comforting, i think. x-post

Daniel, I have Blue Train, and feel sure you are right. Will give it a try.

Appreciate the answers.

you might find some helpful stuff on this thread.

Expected to feel this way, but don't. Even bring my ipod with me everywhere, which i didn't usually.

you are right. i guess i was inserting personal experience. you know what else i found cathartic? Elmer Bernstein's score from "To Kill a Mockingbird"..but once again, that might not be applicable to your situation.

best of luck

Making my way through most of the things you mentioned.

[i]It's an instrumental for starters, so no cringing.[/i] = OTM, have the iPod loaded with droid+slug, jupe, Blue Train, Holger Czukay & David Sylvian's Flux + Mutability, Gorecki's #3 [the Naxos one (with The Scream on the cover, oh the emo!)] and a podcast of instrumental stuff by someone called Shane Shirley. I have been playing Stina Nordenstam (ASCHE, Dynamite, The World Is Saved) and gave Songs For Drella a satisfying spin. Cocteau Twins work, as does "Hold On", but I don't think I could take other Waits. I do remember once toying with having Anywhere I Lay My Head played at my own funeral - it's somewhat of a dirge that turns on a dime into a jazz funeral type celebration.

I wonder what the Dirty Dozen Brass Band's best record is? Closest I have to something like that is some Sidney Bechet that doesn't really fit the bill, and the instrumentals on Music For The Knee Plays.

Thanks again.

Oh, and "Find the River."

The Samples, "Nothing Lasts for Long"
Waterboys, "Fisherman's Blues"
Cat Stevens, "Sitting"

- i think i'm going to send him 'Hurt' by Johnny Cash

ilx - is this mawkish? it seems appropriate but... your thoughts please.

On 'Hurt' the answer would be slightly, obviously it's difficult to know what to do/say in those circumstances and the sentiment is well meant - if the guy is wanting a good "greet" then I would say yes, but to try and lift them a bit then, no.