i love style needs to get their hair did

so my hair appt is for tues but i'm nervous cuz the guy doing it this gay japanese dude who apparently has an 'attitude' according to my friend. hairdressers with attitudes scare me, cuz they always say mean things about my hair (mostly because i wait like two years between haircuts, have uncoloured roots, flakey scalp etc.)

i always feel so judged whenever i go

just kiss their ass a lot and be like 'i'm sure you will do a fabulous job'

and say things like 'i trust you.'

i do that anyway, because i'm so scared they'll do something nasty to my hair!

***warning, long rant ahead, please feel free to skip!****

i'm pretty darn tolerant of haircuts, haven't ever even been close to tears after a cut, and woke up this morning and was so pissed at the cut i got last night that i nearly cried in frustration (stress about moving has me at the edge, to be honest).

i went in, said i wanted edgy but not ugly, told her this was too long for me, that i wanted the back really short, and that i kind of liked having bangs. she said she would take the back up a ton and leave the front a little longer "for interest," and totally restructure the bangs.

well, after a full hour of her cutting, my hair looks pretty much exactly the same as when i left. except flatter, since she thinned it out. the back is a little shorter, but in 2 weeks it will be too long for me, and the front literally is exactly as long as it was when i went in. bangs are a little shorter, but no real difference.

so i'm pissed at myself for wasting 3 hours i should have used packing/cleaning and instead traveled to and from a not-great haircut, not to mention wasting $50. i don't think she's actually bad, she just didn't do what i wanted and i thought i'd asked for, at all. toby thinks i should call and try to go back to have them "fix" it, but that seems really weird to me, and i'm not able to think rationally about it.

any advice?

er, it looked the same as when i arrived. and when it goes behind my ears (which i do without thinking about it), it actually looks MORE mom-ish than it did before.

you should definitely call and ask for the cut to be fixed.

maybe say something like, "perhaps i wasn't clear when i spoke to the stylist, etc etc. this really isn't what i wanted at all, and i'd appreciate it if i could come in for a clean-up."

won't they just blame me for not expressing myself enough, and possibly mess it up more?

talking myself down here:
-- i don't care if they don't like me, i'm moving in a few days (i do care, but don't want to)
-- if it comes down to it, i'm actually prepared to take toby's clippers to my hair and just get rid of it all, and suspect it would be an improvement on this.

xpost-- that's a good way of putting it, when i say "clean up" are they going to schedule me 15 minutes? because this really needs starting from scratch.

yes. people do it all the time!
xpost to collette

god i am so glad i have a non-crazy, non-egotistic, awesome hairdresser. srsly i understand the stress involved when this is not the case, aagh. i am even thinking about going back to short(ish) hair later this summer b/c i trust her to do something great that suits me.

you are the client! they did nothing of note to your hair! if someone owns the place, talk to them, but if the woman who cut your hair is just renting a chair there, i guess things are different. but still, someone's gotta be in charge.

yeah, she's one of the two owners, so there's not really anyone else i could go to. i'm drinking caffeine to steel myself to call her, thanks for the advice, guys!

COLETTE
you can do this
you paid them $$ and they have to fix it
if all else fails, get a pixie!

yes, i will bring you along and say "make my hair look like amanda's!"

Colette, it is very standard for stylists to fix their mistakes. A lot of them even give free bang trims between hair cuts.

What you are describing sounds like a cut I have been seeing a lot lately, which is a thinned out bob with shaggy bottom edge. Sometimes shorter in back like the famous bell labs' reverse mullet pic. I love the cut but my hair would be too wavy to do it.

Now that I got a professional to establish my bangs in the first place, I trim them myself. I kind of do this:

How to Trim Your Own Bangs

The important thing here is that you are making little snips up into the bang, not cutting across. Cutting across may result in "psycho bangs."

colette, i know how you feel! years ago, when i needed a haircut, i went to a salon where one of the girls needed a 'razor' model. she said she would do any style i wanted, it just needed to involve razoring. this was around the time meg ryan had the shaggy kind of cut, so i took in a bunch of magazine cutouts and told her i wanted it shorter (my hair was almost butt-length) but layered etc etc. so a few weeks later i turn up for the cut. she hacks awhile for what seems like hours, and my hair is quickly disappearing. in the end, i had one of those horrible styles that were popular at the time with stupid young redneck girls: a long fringe parted to the side and slicked down, with a fluffy kind of duck tail at the back. i was DEVASTATED. but what could i say? it was free!

this is basically why going to the hairdressers terrifies me and i don't go very often.

repost from rolling 2008 beauty thread:

hair serum! for dry hair! any reccomendations?

god having my hair mid-length is getting soooo oldddddd. even if i dry/iron it straight, as soon as i am in humidity the ends turn up and i look like i've spent hours perfecting a 'flip' that is just not cute. argh. GROW FASTER, HAIR!!!

ugh i am having the same issue. i wish i hadn't cut it! but i knew that was going to happen.

i have no patience with it right now! esp now that it's a color i'm not overly fond of.

hair serum! for dry hair! any reccomendations?
I will fully rep the John Frieda stuff, my hair is super damaged but it makes it nice and glossy :)

I'm sorry about the shitty haircut Colette :( I think if you paid for a super short hair cut you could probably call and be like "okay so in three weeks it'll be too long again, can I expect a free trim?"

Anyone in Toronto should have Miranda do their hair, http://hairbymiranda.ca. She's fantastic and listens and gives the free bang trim when needed.

my Kerastase Concentre Vita-Ciment came in the mail yesterday! it will be interesting to see if it's as magical as it's made out to be (ie here http://www.makeupalley.com/product/showreview.asp/ItemId=70977/Concentre_Vita_Ciment/Kerastase/Treatments)

I will fully rep the John Frieda stuff, my hair is super damaged but it makes it nice and glossy :)

I had good luck with other John Frieda products, so might try this

just stopping in to say that i have the beachiest beachb hair ever right now and you should be very jealous

hint: burts bees rosemary & mint shampoo bar + salt water washing

awwww. this will be me in like, 24 hours!!!

The girl in front of me at yoga the other day had such a good boy's cut and I asked her where she did it and it turns out the same place I used to go when I had short hair. Now I am wishing for 50s-style boy's hair again.

I know this thread is meant to be for the ladies (you have to imagine me grinning in a sinister way and winking as I say that or it doesn't work) but I think I need some sort of haircut, and since I've not had my hair cut by anyone who I didn't live with or who wasn't me in the last, oh, ten years, I don't even really know what to do. I want to get something cool, an actual haircut, but not a "haircut"

suggestions?

^I'm in this same boat, more or less.

Hair's way too long right now, and I can't think of anything to do but trim it. I DO NOT want to have short hair, I tried it once a couple years ago and it was awful. Any ideas for men's long hairstyles?

Here is a hastily taken iSight photo for illustrative purposes.

http://tinyurl.com/4twegt

I want to get something cool, an actual haircut, but not a "haircut"

No idea what this means.

Nicka, you seem to have really beautiful hair but on the non-short side for mens, I got nufffink to recomend.

i said this to ned and i feel like a hairdresser should understand what it means (mine does): you want a 'wave around the head' style haircut. which is like tousled and free but not long

I got lucky on Friday, the hair cuttery around the corner from my house appears to have been shuttered so I ended up spending $36 at a real salon and came out looking awesome. I'm back to my later air force look.

A "haircut" is what fashion students have. It foregrounds the artifice of the cut.

People with haircuts read style magazines instead of fasion magazines and wear vintage instead of second-hand.

nice tom!

ikr you're getting very deep

It foregrounds the artifice of the cut.

I'm calling bullshit on this. I think any short haircut does this, only long(er) and more unkempt 'dos do not say "I am a haircut". It's ALL artifice, after all.

"haircuts"

http://www.koelncampus.com/icoaster/files/sigue_sigue_sputnik.jpg

got my free hair cut today! not a good photo, since i had a long day, much of it spent in the wind. but the dude did a fab job - kept all the length, chopped off the split ends, cut in a few choice layers and gave me a nice sweeping fringe. oh, and i dyed it this morning:

http://farm4.static.flickr.com/3113/2627751004_4bc2db6566_o.jpg

So Nice!

Aww Rubes, that's a lovely photo - I especially like how pleased you are!

you look great!

Ruby you and your hair look great, I wish I were even half as photogenic as you always seem to be.

RRs got some photo friendly angles for sure

i am actually the least photogenic person i know, and used to DREAD having my photo taken. then i bought a digital camera last year, and while playing round with it and getting used to using it, i figured out i have ONE good angle (see above), so pretty much all pics of me are from that angle... totally vain, i know!

whenever i tell ppl how unphotogenic i am, they always say 'but you look so nice in all the photos i've seen!' - that's because it takes about 20 shots to get a good one, and i don't keep the bad ones!!

i need to get my hair cut again, because i hate it.
i have to go to a different person, even though i love my girl, she has just been too distracted and given me two shitty cuts in a row. i'm thinking about trying this place devachan? has anyone heard of it? they are supposed to specialize in curly hair, and it's run by the people that do the devacurl products.

also i kind of want the rihanna haircut...

ohman you should just boot it up here and get your hair cut by janet, my hairdresser who is awesome (and inexpensive!). she's going away for end of july thru august tho :/ she will change yr (hair) life.

wait...janet who was in ny with you?