Husband hates wifes best friend!

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Mind if I get your wifes number. She deserves some strange too doesnt she

jodestar

Hi my husband and i got married in december2004 but before then in april 2004 he cheated on me with my best friend( they kissed and he did oral sex to her, there was no sex) when she stayed over and had a few to many drinks( my husband does not drink). It never crossed my mind that they would do this to me. I got married not knowing he cheated on me and she was even my bridesmaid. We had four children at the time. I found out New years eve 2004 when she got drunk and blurted enough for me to start asking questions, i asked my husband and he told me everything. He said he did it because he wanted to experience being with a thin woman as he has only been with two large women and that it would not happen again it was a mistake and that he knew he hurt me. The next day i found out i was pregnant with our fifth child. I was so happy and so sad all in one. I had lost trust in him, I did not know what to do as I had been with him for eight years and he was always honest with me. I forgave him and my best friend after months and months working at it. I never trust them again in the same room and they understood and never put me in a position to worry. Then in november 2005 i started to regain there trust everything was great and she suggested a drinking night i was against it as we had not had one since what happened in 2004, but for some stupid reason i gave in. Anyway the night went fine and i thought i can trust them. Anyway we decided wei wanted some chips later on in the night and she does not driveand i dont either so my husband took her. Anyway i was tiding up and did not realize they were gone a little longer then it would take. When they got back i never suspected nothing. The next day we took her home and i was happy. Then i called her the next day saying it was a great night and i can trust them and then she blurted out what happened in the car they kissed and he did oral sex to her again but no sex. I could not believe it,i am having real trouble coping this time its more then a mistake this time, once but twice no way, i am angry and feel so lost and so betrayed. He said he does not have an answer for this time it just happened. I am torn between this girl being my best friend and the girl my husband cheated with. I know this is the only two times as my husband and i are with each other 24/7 . I am losing my love for him, i dont respect him. He knows all of this and he hates my best friend now and does not want her in our lives as she betrayed him and told me the truth when he wanted to tell me himself. She said that she was drunk and did not know what she was doing, but i dont know if i can trust that. I love him enough to stay and work it out but it is so hard to get over it this time, I dont know what to do?

This is driving me crazy. My best friend and I have worked together and have been friends for 12 years. My best friend met a guy about 7 years ago and naturally they fell in love - bless. I was always supportive and tried to help in any way I could due to the fact that they started a long distance relationship and my friend did not drive. Nearly two years ago he moved down and they moved in together. He also got a job at the firm I work. I knew he was a shy man and I therefore never pushed myself upon him as "you're girls best friend" and let him settle in. However, over the last year it has become apparent that this man cannot stand me. He does not talk to me AT ALL even when its a group conversation. He will nto look me in the eye. Even when I try to start a conversation with him I get a one word reply. When I try to talk to him about work he is aggressive. I no longer see my friend socially and now the tension has reach a point where I cannot talk to her if he is in the room. This has put such a huge strain on our relationship that it is now really starting to affect it. I am now having to look for a new job because of this guy. I have tried talking to my friend, but she, understandably, makes excuses and offers to have dinner with myself and my husband to "break the ice", which never actually happens. WHAT THE HELL DO I DO?