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Man, shows can be so much fun and a huge bummer at the same time. Some nights I feel like everything goes awesome, but then when I get off stage there's no one to talk to and I'm just stuck hanging around for a couple of hours. It's even worse on tour. Is there any way to combat this or is it just the life of a musician?

― Hurting (Hurting), Wednesday, 2 November 2005 04:51 (nineteen years ago)

drink up

― john p. irrelevant (electricsound), Wednesday, 2 November 2005 04:55 (nineteen years ago)

That's more or less what the scene is, I'm afraid. For those of us who don't like clubs, even more so.

― Casuistry (Chris P), Wednesday, 2 November 2005 05:03 (nineteen years ago)

Music clubs need a coffeehouse-type back room with board games and books and shit. I'm a nerd. Unless I'm surrounded by a lot of friends and it's a weekend, I really don't feel like whiling away my night drinking.

― Hurting (Hurting), Wednesday, 2 November 2005 05:14 (nineteen years ago)

From the title, I thought this was going to be one of those "check out the spam I got" threads.

― k/l (Ken L), Wednesday, 2 November 2005 05:14 (nineteen years ago)

i usually bring quarters for pinball/foosball/space shooter games

― 6335, Wednesday, 2 November 2005 05:30 (nineteen years ago)

Yeah, no such action at Sin-e, it seems, at least not in the venue part.

― Hurting (Hurting), Wednesday, 2 November 2005 05:32 (nineteen years ago)

watch the other bands?

― nervous (cochere), Wednesday, 2 November 2005 07:27 (nineteen years ago)

Yeah, drink up and make your own party.

It's funny, I get it more on hometown gigs than on tour - maybe because I'm bolder on tour. I used to just walk up to the cutest boy in the room and ask him if he wanted to come backstage. Usually worked!

― We might force K8 to change her name to Marie. (kate), Wednesday, 2 November 2005 08:49 (nineteen years ago)

Hang out with your bandmates?

― Jordan (Jordan), Wednesday, 2 November 2005 14:18 (nineteen years ago)

I used to just walk up to the cutest boy in the room and ask him if he wanted to come backstage. Usually worked!

It's been a while since I toured or played regular gigs, but I used to do something similar... It usually worked for me too. I'd have expected the success rate of a woman asking a guy backstage to be higher, but I don't remember that move failing often.

One of my old bands was usually just me and one non-drinker, so I rarely went the drink-and-make-your-own-party route. But we were kind of the "house band" at one venue just because we played there so damned much, so it was a lot easier to run into friends and other people you'd like to hang out with after a show, at least at that place.

― martin m. (mushrush), Wednesday, 2 November 2005 14:50 (nineteen years ago)

It's much worse at places that don't have a backstage. Cause then you're stuck feeling awkward among a bunch of people who just watched you play (and you have no idea whether they liked you or were even paying attention). Having a room in back mitigates the problem a little because you can duck out for part of the time.

― Hurting (Hurting), Wednesday, 2 November 2005 14:52 (nineteen years ago)

If you want to duck out, go and sit in the van. Your tourmates might have a problem if you invite your ~~groupies~~ tourfriends into the van, as it's more... of a personal space. But it's a good place to chill if you just want to take five.

― We might force K8 to change her name to Marie. (kate), Wednesday, 2 November 2005 15:09 (nineteen years ago)

This is only really a problem if you're opening for other bands, right? My band almost never does, so we can usually get paid and split (although if the bar keeps giving you free drinks, why leave?).

― Jordan (Jordan), Wednesday, 2 November 2005 15:23 (nineteen years ago)

Most of the time in NYC, unless you're REALLY someone, you're opening for other bands. Or unless it's just one of those five or six-band bills with no real "headliner".

― Hurting (Hurting), Thursday, 3 November 2005 04:37 (nineteen years ago)

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