Do You Like The Music You Make?

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No, it's not a parody thread.

Have you ever been in a band that you didn't care for, musically? Perhaps it was a band you'd outgrown? Perhaps it was paid session work? Perhaps you were just sitting in to help out friends?

How did you handle the disparity? Do you *need* to make music that *you* love? Or can you find something of interest (or even learn something) from music you dislike?

Paranoid Spice (kate), Monday, 17 October 2005 07:07 (nineteen years ago)

Great question, Kate! I will be very interested to read your own answer.

I have never really sat in with a band just to help out, so that doesn't come into it. I have mostly been in bands where I've been full-time in the band and writing/arranging at least some of the material. I couldn't get that interested in playing stuff that I didn't like, but I do think that there might be something to be learned in terms of song construction or technique etc. Maybe I should try.

I have often been in the position where I the band I'm in has a couple of songs in the set that I don't like, perhaps written by someone else. I generally grit my teeth and play them anyway if the rest of band likes them, and maybe try and add parts to improve them, but sooner or later I have to give my opinion! I find it hard to play even one song that's not *right*, so I doubt I'd hack it playing in a band where I didn't care for most or all of the music.

Dr. C (Dr. C), Monday, 17 October 2005 08:13 (nineteen years ago)

i love the music my band writes and plays.. in many ways i'm in my favourite band. of course this just increases the level of incomprehension and irritation that most of the rest of the world doesn't see what i see in it.

vacuum cleaner (electricsound), Monday, 17 October 2005 09:24 (nineteen years ago)

having said that, i've never been ecstatic with anything we've recorded, and i'm largely unhappy with how our latest album turned out. it came out today and i'm just not excited about it.

vacuum cleaner (electricsound), Monday, 17 October 2005 09:25 (nineteen years ago)

i've been in a band i outgrew and in one to help a friend.

it became near unbearable to play in the old band, i started to hate what i was doing and gave it way too much time before calling it quits. the gigs with a friend were easier because, while they werent music i'd normally play or probably even listen too, it was still fun to do, educational, and it wasnt a weekly rehearsal thing. that is, not a *band* i'm continually a part of.

but in terms of the songs i write myself, yes I feel that I have to like it. If I don't like it, it's not worth my playing, and I'll refuse to play it if it's not "right".

AaronK (AaronK), Monday, 17 October 2005 11:35 (nineteen years ago)

I like the music I make, I'm my #1 fan.

Almost all of the bands I've been in, I've been part of the songwriting process. So if a song is going somewhere I don't like or needs some fixing, I say something about it. And if I still don't like it, I'm fairly aggressive about scrapping it. Fortunately, I've managed to be in bands with likeminded people, so there isn't usually a lot of argument. I played bass in one band where I told a friend of mine whose songs I liked that if he put together a band, I would be in it and would play whatever he told me to. But since I knew I liked his songs, it turned out good too.

n/a (Nick A.), Monday, 17 October 2005 13:29 (nineteen years ago)

where do you find people like that? you're very fortunate.

AaronK (AaronK), Monday, 17 October 2005 13:36 (nineteen years ago)

Well one of them is my girlfriend. So yes, I am fortunate.
I don't know. I mean, in college I was in a band with a guy who wrote some of the songs, and he would write really pretentious lyrics. They weren't bad, they were just really pretentious. And I would get kind of embarassed about that sometimes, but since he was the one that sang them, I figured that he was the one who would get saddled with that pretension, and I still liked the songs. But I guess I tend to usually be the dominant one in the bands I'm in and force my opinions on others. Pure democracy doesn't work in bands.

n/a (Nick A.), Monday, 17 October 2005 13:56 (nineteen years ago)

Well, I shouldn't generalize like that, democracy CAN work in bands. But it usually doesn't.

n/a (Nick A.), Monday, 17 October 2005 13:56 (nineteen years ago)

I don't mind assuming that "session pro" mentality (even though I'm not) to get through things. I've done enough wedding gigs and subbing that it's not a big deal. However, I've made up my mind not to join bands that I don't like or don't think I'll have fun playing in - shit just takes up too much time and energy to not love it.

Jordan (Jordan), Monday, 17 October 2005 15:11 (nineteen years ago)

I like the music I am coming up with these days, but I have yet to figure out a way to put it all together.

Finding people that have enough common ground to do a band is pretty much impossible without having to drive forty five minutes to an hour each way to rehearse. I did that for fifteen months or so and the drive really got old and the gas money added up.

In the mean time since my last band went kaput, I have been trying to find some people closer to home. I did a bunch of recordings for some friends around town, but the same thing happened as a few years ago, I end up doing the recordings, but once their stuff is done no one has any time to do some more playing.

I'd be cool with doing just some sort of recording project, but I do not know if it would sound good enough trying to pull it off with sequenced drums, as the stuff I am working upon is pretty rawk. I've gotten serious about playing guitar in the past couple of years and feel that I can get the bass and guitar all done on my own. I can sequence drums pretty good, but outside of Big Black and some industrial music, I don't think the heavy guitar and drum machines have worked out all that well.

I've been playing bass on the side with a cover band for almost a year with these older guys. My punkindie self from ten-twelve years ago would be agahst with doing such a thing, but it has been more fun than I want to admit. It doesn't take up but a couple of practices a month and when we play a gig, I have been suprised by the cash. I would not want to do it more than I am now, but it is good to be playing some bass with a band. Doing some vocal harmonys for these tunes has helped my singing quite a bit.

earlnash, Monday, 17 October 2005 15:15 (nineteen years ago)

i need to find bandmates who will let me boss them about.

ken c (ken c), Monday, 17 October 2005 16:09 (nineteen years ago)

ho hum. a dangerous question to ask a passive meglomaniac. how long have you got?

if you're asking: 'do you like all your ideas?' then no obv. my strike rate is about average ie 9/10 things i try are either mediocre , derivative or just 'not working somehow'. you get quicker at rejecting so-so ideas, but if the core idea is good then you gotta hang in there - if it's not good bin it keep looking. nothing worse than ending a day feeling like a truffle pig in the ninth circle of suckitude. on repeat.

however, if you're asking: "do you like your stuff by the time it 'leaves the house?'" then yeah, i do. i stand by every committed second of our sound. if you can't hear our nano-cult repertoire for the clearly legendary canon that it is then i pity you fool. that's right YOU bub.

would i listen to it everyday? nope. do i like all of it equally? no.
is there room for improvement? weeeeeeeeellllllllllll if you can improve on *perfection* then i suppose there might be a little give in the gussett. :P

john clarkson, Monday, 17 October 2005 18:50 (nineteen years ago)

a lot of the time, no. i find that i wind up in bands that dont have a very set musical direction, which is irritating. my biggest problem is that i play with a lot of women who dont want to rock the boat musically speaking. everything's very pretty and the lyrics are meaningful and well, its pretty boring for me. also, most of my bandmates play in about 5 other bands, which can be frustrating.

maria tessa sciarrino (theoreticalgirl), Monday, 17 October 2005 19:17 (nineteen years ago)

the gigs with a friend were easier because, while they werent music i'd normally play or probably even listen too, it was still fun to do, educational, and it wasnt a weekly rehearsal thing.

OTM. I actually want to do more of this.

Obviously I like my own band rather a lot.

Casuistry (Chris P), Monday, 17 October 2005 21:08 (nineteen years ago)

Sorry, it's been a while and I've not even answered my own thread.

Obviously, there's a huge difference between music that *I* write, and when I play other people's music, either session work or for friends.

Music that I write, I have to like it. It has to be stuff that would make me prick up my ears if I heard it in a shop. Towards the middle of the Lollies, I got very frustrated, because I felt like I was writing music for other people's expectations, rather than because I love it. And I got sick of twee girlypop. So I stopped writing for a while.

With other people's music... even in session work, I found it very hard to actually even *engage* with the music well enough to play it unless I found something interesting about it. So it was more a question of picking wisely, which ended up mattering more than getting paid. Bands I started as session work I'd sometimes end up as full members if I ended up caring about their music enough. I've even spent time playing music in a genre I hated because I wanted to learn something from it. (I spent the summer of 2002 playing bass in a reggae band because I thought reggae basslines were amazing and wanted to learn how to do it.)

The problem for me has often been *friends'* bands. That's where it gets a bit... "Err, well it's a mate so I've said I'd sit in to help them out or whatever..." and you end up with creative differences. It's bad on both levels - if it were a stranger, you'd just say "that song is lame" and not worry about it. But you don't want to offend your friend, either. I guess I've learned to take the tack that if it's something I could learn from, if I can challenge myself and expand my abilities, I'd be far more likely to say yes, even if I wasn't crazy about the music. But otherwise it's not worth testing the friendship.

Paranoid Spice (kate), Tuesday, 18 October 2005 10:06 (nineteen years ago)

I'm usually upfront with friends - I don't give a shit wether they like my music or not, and knowing most of my friends' tastes, I kind of assume they won't like it anyway. I usually avoid playing stuff to friends, really.

I like the music I make a lot at the moment. Transferring it over to the new computer, I'm enjoying listening to it a lot. Kind of fortunate, eh?

Pashmina (Pashmina), Tuesday, 18 October 2005 10:18 (nineteen years ago)

On the whole, yes, but sometimes I worry that we have nothing to say.

Roxymuzak, Mrs. Carbohydrate (roxymuzak), Tuesday, 18 October 2005 16:50 (nineteen years ago)

It's perhaps more important how you say it.

Casuistry (Chris P), Wednesday, 19 October 2005 02:48 (nineteen years ago)

i yell it, seems to do the trick.

g-kit (g-kit), Wednesday, 19 October 2005 08:41 (nineteen years ago)

I'm my biggest fan and critic at the same time, so I love my songs but wish I could write songs the way I think they should really sound if that makes any sense. On a good day I just love my songs and it makes me happy...

Probably more than half the fun for me is just playing. A lot of times I get asked to help out as an engineer or pseudoproducer. Like, yes we'd like to borrow a bunch of your effects pedals and amps (and I have a -lot- in my collection), and we'd like you to help us get such and such a sound we have in our heads. And I'm proud to be able to do that kind of stuff relatively well, but sometimes I'd just rather be playing, no matter what kind of music it is.

Obviously, if I'm not actually working on my own stuff, I prefer it when collaborators let me have input too, but there's something to be said for just playing what you're asked. That can be fun and low-stress, provided you can actually hack playing what you're being asked to play. (See "chops" in that other thread.)

martin m. (mushrush), Tuesday, 25 October 2005 16:51 (nineteen years ago)

I like my band a lot, wherein I play drums. It's a sort of prog/indie/country weird hybrid thingie, and I think the songwriter is fantastic. But I kind of want to start my own band, wherein I play a mean guitar (guitar is my better instrument, actually). Anyone else up for it?

Hurting (Hurting), Tuesday, 25 October 2005 19:15 (nineteen years ago)

Mean guitar?? Heavens no.

I prefer the soft/gentle guitar.

Alex H (Alex Henreid), Tuesday, 25 October 2005 19:19 (nineteen years ago)

No, no, I play *a* mean guitar - "mean" in the sense of "base" "common" or "low" -- it's a cheap strat knockoff I got at a yard sale.

Hurting (Hurting), Tuesday, 25 October 2005 19:22 (nineteen years ago)

Ahh, the plebian/vulgar guitar.

Alex H (Alex Henreid), Tuesday, 25 October 2005 19:24 (nineteen years ago)

(not really true though - I have an actual Fender strat).

Hurting (Hurting), Tuesday, 25 October 2005 19:27 (nineteen years ago)

Great question. I will be completely honest... I think of myself as a fantastic lyricist, a limited but inventive melody maker, a generic arranger, a sloppy guitarist, an unexciting live frontman, and a shit vocalist.

joseph cotten (joseph cotten), Tuesday, 25 October 2005 20:33 (nineteen years ago)

Someone's gonna kill me for saying it, but you've just described Dylan.

martin m. (mushrush), Tuesday, 25 October 2005 21:12 (nineteen years ago)

Although I probably wouldn't call him "sloppy" as a guitarist. But everything else...

martin m. (mushrush), Tuesday, 25 October 2005 21:12 (nineteen years ago)

seven months pass...
Hey im 14 & want to start my own band, I can play the Guitar & Bass and Piano & im currently taking Singing Lessons, Im not sure if im to young i dont know, most of my friends can play the guitar & Drums but yer im not sure x\

Jessicah, Thursday, 1 June 2006 07:02 (nineteen years ago)

pics plz

killy ii (baby lenin pin), Friday, 2 June 2006 01:51 (nineteen years ago)

I'm going through a bit of a weird bit lately again. I think I'm my own worst critic. And whatever it is that I'm doing, I want to be doing something else.

My whole life, I've wanted to be in a seriously psychedelic, seriously wiggy, seriously WUBWUBWUBWUBWUB dronerock/spacerock band. That's the kind of music that I love to listen to, and I kind of feel like I *should* be making.

But I have no talent for making that kind of music. I am stuck with the ability to write catchy, throwaway bubblegum pop. And no matter how hard I try, I never seem to be able to write anything as... BIG or as DARK as I really want.

Maybe this is because I still suffer from years of indie self loathing and indie guilt because I love pop and can't recconcile myself with that. Maybe this is because there's a difference between what I am attracted to, and what I identify with.

I still have trouble accepting that I am never going to have a band that sounds big and heavy and psychedelic like Loop or Secret Machines or sunn0))) or Hawkwind - I am always just going to be in a band that sounds like Shimura Curves and that's that. :-(

harmonic generator, haircuts are for losers (kate), Friday, 2 June 2006 08:24 (nineteen years ago)

You sound like Hawkwind to me!

Dan I. (Dan I.), Friday, 2 June 2006 12:12 (nineteen years ago)

That's the nicest thing anyone's ever said to me. :-)

harmonic generator, haircuts are for losers (kate), Friday, 2 June 2006 12:36 (nineteen years ago)

Ha Kate, I was about to start this exact thread.

I am listening to some recordings I made last night with the bass player from our band for a mostly acoustic side project he keeps on the backburner and I keep veering from thinking "Wow, how awesome; me singing 'True Faith' and 'Enjoy The Silence'!" to "OH MY GOD NEVER SING AGAIN YOU FUCKING POSER".

Dan (Paxil In My Future) Perry (Dan Perry), Friday, 2 June 2006 14:04 (nineteen years ago)

I am feeling sort of unfulfilled musically right now. All our effort is going into press, promotion of the single and trailing around the country doing gigs. I shouldn't complain - we're doing well, but musically it's not moving on. I am bursting with ideas and I need to get new songs worked out, but we're just not moving forward musically. So, in parallel, I am getting my old band together for some studio work and a single in the Autumn - it will be simultaneously a lot more experimental and a lot more instant. I want to thrash down 15 tracks very quickly and see what comes of it.

Dr.C (Dr.C), Friday, 2 June 2006 14:40 (nineteen years ago)

Yeah, it's a weird thing when a band start doing "well" and the more you do of the releasing records and touring them, and press and promotion and all that, the less time you have for the stuff you actually enjoy. I'm getting the fear and our first single isn't even finished yet.

This was supposed to be my band "for fun" but now I want to start another band which just does drone jams FOR FUN. Argh.

harmonic generator, haircuts are for losers (kate), Friday, 2 June 2006 15:05 (nineteen years ago)

Exactly!

To me, the next song is always going to be the best thing you've ever done, and I'm naturally impatient, so I always want to get onto it *yesterday*.

Dr.C (Dr.C), Friday, 2 June 2006 15:22 (nineteen years ago)


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