thread to get over a breakup

roxy can fill jaco pastorius' shoes

Don't fret (groan...)

band break ups :(

at least bands have a way better chance of getting back together than couples

getting back together is never an aspiration with couples for me.

i aspired to this for the first five days, but now i've come to terms with it basically being over.

u r awesome and he is obviously a retard for not appreciating u properly sarahel <3

thanks dude!

freal tho, he will prolly always feel a pang of regret over this

yeah, he probably will. we're talking almost 1/3 of our lives so far have been together, and we've been through a lot of shit. we pretty much agreed that even though we weren't married, it was really like a marriage.

i know it is early days and u need a mourning period but i feel like when u r ready u are strong enough to totally transcend this or whatevs

thanks, because i totally do not feel that way. i'm really fucking scared.

i am totally hugging u thru the internet and I'm not normally a hugger

awww - your tuppence collages are so awesome.

The swallow is building a nest,
Building a nest and singing,
And every time she places a straw,
She remembers her former nest.

Only once before she built a nest,
But she mended it many times,
And then, the last time she returned,
She found the nest in ruin.

But now she is building a nest again,
Building a nest and singing,
And every time she places a straw,
She remembers her former nest.

She remembers, too, the past year,
When, as she gathered food for her young,
The bloodthirsty enemy
Snatched them all from the road.

But once again she is building a nest,
Building a nest and singing,
And every time she places a straw,
She remembers her former nest.

--- Ghazaros Aghayan (1840-1911)

^^^^^ booming poem imo.

I kinda have this snobbish thing going on where I think most of my peers are shallow & naive.

got this going on too, it sucks.

sarahel, you'll pull through! you've always struck me as one of the most down to earth and levelheaded posters here - I'm sure you'll come out of the tunnel fine

thanks!

IKR otm

sarah, i know it's super scary now and there's really no way around that - that's just the way it goes - but just keep reminding yrself that you won't always feel this way. you might even be surprised how quickly you move on.

Hugs and encouragement for sarahel and roxy.

I agree w/ the solo bass star thing! Dudes with acoustic guitars do it all the time, and they're the worst.

roxy why are you quitting the band?

ian that poem is incredible

yes, yes it is.
i did not write it, obviously.
a friend posted it on lolfacebook today; and i thought i'd lost the ability to be moved by poetry.

just sent it to one of my exbandmates tbh

im quitting the band because i am turning thirty and the idea of starting over makes me feel tired. we were at a crossroads where something big was possible, but big changes had to happen, and i realized i cared more about being good than being successful

\(o_O)/

i play in other bands, and for the record i would never do a solo bass thing, because i also play guitar, and when i play by myself i play guitar.

when i play by myself... well..

ok that poem just made me tear up.

yeah i just sent it to a friend in bad times

I just copied it down.

im quitting the band because i am turning thirty and the idea of starting over makes me feel tired

c'mon baby

i cared more about being good than being successful

okay

Poem is slaying me :/

It is some serious shit.
But so optimistic, don't get down friends.

Oh for reals I agree. Man what is it with the last few weeks? Its kicking all our asses.

seasonal change has a lot to do with it for me, and maybe for the rest of us in the northern hemisphere..

it's pretty </3 that poem
sigh

yeah youre right its been a rough couple weeks and i refuse to believe that isn't involved

xp

i always feel uneasy in the fall but usually in the fall i have some new love interest and this fall all i have is memories.

^^^^

Aw tza :( *big hugs*

Heck its late sping here, I have no excuse for being down wtf

And yet.

you don't need an excuse to feel bad, sometimes that's just the way it is.

Oh well at least it is friday and there are halloween parties afoot! cheer up, me. Sorry i'll stop crapping on.

shit is mad stressy over here, can't wait to go home for thxgiving, v much the light at the end of the tunnel

i always feel uneasy in the fall but usually in the fall i have some new love interest and this fall all i have is memories.

I'm pretty much in the same situation. And at the moment I'm kinda too tired and bummed out even to go looking for new love interests. So better get used to living with memories.

yeah :-/

im quitting the band because i am turning thirty and the idea of starting over makes me feel tired/i cared more about being good than being successful

they go hand in hand, trust. "starting over" = changing for $ basically

My last three relationships began in the fall, all during October. This October is the first one in.. five years? .. that I'll end the month single. I don't really have any motivation to go out and socialize at the minute, either.

haha my ex (the one that said "cunt") just sent me an email bossing me not to go to his bar when my BF's band plays. tbh i wasn't planning on going, but now i'm going to bring my entire family

lolll do it. whaddajerk.