thread to get over a breakup

ex gf otm tho

oh dude, ZZZZZZ

:)

^ self portrait, est. €7m

stfu

He's finally moving out. Looking forward to living alone for the first time ever.

good luck!

i'm getting tough!

question for everyone: is it reasonable or unreasonable to ask that your ex's new partner with whom said ex was cheating on you not be allowed into your place to help the ex move, even if you aren't there? I've gotten conflicting opinions on this.

nah she can go fuck herself imo

i think if you are not there it is fine

it is maybe a bit unreasonable but it's your place now so he has to deal. she can carry the boxes from the front door to the truck imo

say ok then shoot her, isn't that safe in the US?

(disclaimer that is not my actual advice 2u)

too late

xp - if I shoot her, then I won't get to enjoy living alone in my awesome apartment.

cmon she can't even have locked and loaded before i rescinded, i'm not takin the rap for this

xp phew

i think it's not at all unreasonable to not want to have her in your home when you're not there.

congratulations to your ex for finding someone so insensitive to share his life with though.

agree that it is not unreasonable. also you have been pretty damn reasonable about everything else, so he should maybe try being a little bit sensitive on this issue.

the hussy goes not inside.

this is law.

is your right to be unreasonable, in the constitution it says

i'll tell him a lawyer told me so!

ok! does anyone else want me to tell them something

it was apparently too much for you to ask, "I am taking this chair downstairs to the dumpster unless you want it."

I have your keys now. You are gone.

yay!

good riddance imo

it was a serious lol when I locked him out - accidentally - on NYE

<3

i'm not gonna presume that people want to hear the story, but if you do, i will post about it.

i always want to hear about drama tbh

i do too, i <3 trouble, it's my fatal flaw.

http://filmsnoir.net/wp-content/uploads/2009/03/ilovetrouble.jpg

l-r: estela, trouble

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my NYE story:

I told him I would help him move a load of stuff over to his new apartment, which is only about 15 blocks away from where I live, but he had to carry all the boxes, I would just drive. He doesn't drive. I sat in the car and texted a friend the entire time he was carrying boxes to and from the car.

Before I left, he asked me what my plans were. I told him I was going to a private party at some friends' house to which he hadn't been invited, even though they are mutual friends.

He said he might go to this other big warehouse party. I said I might stop by that party later. He said, "I'll see you later." I left.

After 4 glasses of wine, a big meal, and three glasses of champagne, I get home at 2:30am. He isn't there. His bed is disassembled. I had told him the week before that I thought it was fair if he paid pro-rated rent for any days in January his stuff was still in the apartment. This came as a shock to him, but he had accepted this, and had said that he would try to be out by December 31, then.

I assumed that he was not planning on sleeping at our apartment, so I put the chain on the door. I woke up at 10:30am and there was a voice mail message from him on my cell phone from approx. 4:30am. Why he didn't call the landline which has a very loud ring and would probably have woken me up, I don't know. The first sentence, "So...are you trying to tell me something?" Then he said something about not going to the big warehouse party because I had said I might stop by with the obvious intent of making me feel guilty, though the party was being thrown and performed at by mutual friends, and I had said nothing about wishing he wasn't there if I were there. There was more to the message, but those were the highlights.

i would say 'yes, i am trying to tell you something: GTFO OF MY LIFE'

ha ha ha - felt like calling back and leaving a message that was just laughter and "Whoops!" But I politely apologized and said that I thought he was sleeping at his new gf's place.

your method of combining irreproachable actions with inscrutable thought bubbles is to be commended.

you have maintained your dignity and behaved with honour and that is to be commended also. now i hope you have a very nice new life.

that's for sarahel just in case it sounds like i'm breaking up with someone and showering them with compliments while i do it.

Congrats on finally getting him out. I just gotta say though:

question for everyone: is it reasonable or unreasonable to ask that your ex's new partner with whom said ex was cheating on you not be allowed into your place to help the ex move, even if you aren't there? I've gotten conflicting opinions on this.

AND

I told him I would help him move a load of stuff over to his new apartment, which is only about 15 blocks away from where I live, but he had to carry all the boxes, I would just drive. He doesn't drive.

Did he not have friends? Couldn't rent a Uhaul? It is either SAD or COLD that he had to rely on his ex-girlfriend or new girlfriend to help him move. Sorry Sarah. I'm just astonished by this guy. What a fucktard.

I have to say, the door chain incident is an awesome touch, unintentional though it may be.

lol sarahel i am so glad this guy is GONE from yr life - i dunno, if i had done the shitty thing he had done, i'd be feeling pretty shitty about myself and would be walking on eggshells around you, not acting like a self-centred prick like he is!!

what i think is funniest is that you are being outwardly v calm and collected and adult, while he seems to be ~trying~ to create emotional drama. maybe he is upset that you didn't kick up more of a fuss about the breakup!

thanks guys - yeah, i think a lot of the tension has been that he wants to be angry and resentful, but he isn't a total asshole and realizes that those feelings are totally unjustified, so he just feels shittier.

xxp - he did get a friend to help with the heavy stuff - this was after I suggested to him that he should rely on people other than those he is/was screwing, especially considering one of his complaints in the relationship was that he wanted more independence and so much of what he did involved me, not that he ever said anything about this being a problem while we were together.

i've always found it ridiculous when people's only friends are current or former sex partners -- this may/may not be related to what's being discussed. drnkkkkkkkkkkkkk

it is related. he has other friends. he has trouble asking people for help, even when he is fucking them. Uh, not to be confused with while he's fucking them.

his communication skills in bed are comparable to his communication skills outside of bed - the problem with this, is, when having sex you have just one common goal - outside of bed, it could be anything. not sober, btw.

lol

hahah

i've always found it ridiculous when people's only friends are current or former sex partners

quoted for truth

I hate when a partner forgets that she has a) friends b) ambition c) talent. But I've come to terms with this, realizing that maybe, biologically, there are gals who "clear their plate" when getting into something serious because their body is getting ready to take care of a baby 24/7.