thread to get over a breakup

or brillo pad

i mean aside from sock master yada yada yada

ban Cattle Grind

hardly feel like ur in a position to call for other ppls banning

ban plaxico

dude don't even say that

joek

ban l0u1s jagg3r

^

ban em all, let mod sort em out

^free username btw

no thx

already been used iirc

btw ban l0u1s jagg3r ftr

GOD MOVE OUT ALREADY YOU LITTLE SHIT *&%^^$%#%$#

Jesus Christ! This fucker has overstayed by far too long.

Most of the time he's not around, so thats not the prob - its more that poor Nick is waiting, not knowing when he can give notice on *his* old place so he can move in.

LOL i must have cursed the gods right tho cos about 15 mins after that last post R txted me to tell me he got a flat. So there you go.

This whole situation has made me lose all faith in the goodness of anyone, if one of the sweetest and kindest guys Ive ever known can become such a passive, useless, sneaky prat.

'people save their worst till last,' someone said to me once and i think she was right.

Alas even I have been guilty of said :(

every time you say that vanessa williams breaks a fingernail

lol, aw

I still feel like a damn fool

I don't know how to get over a break-up, I have always chain-smoked and hated myself. Perhaps that's redundant.

'people save their worst till last,' someone said to me once and i think she was right.

sucks when you are watching this unfold and people try to make it last past the worst.

Yeah :(

Also Laurel otm :(

I should say, Trayce, that I don't know how the "getting over" happens, but it does. There was a time when I started crying before I got out of bed in the morning and didn't stop until I fell asleep again, and I didn't care who saw me. It was the only thing I had inside, and it had to come out, public embarrassment didn't mean anything compared to the sadness. But one Saturday morning the sunlight looked a certain way and I watered my basil and made some tea or something and realized I was done grieving for the dead relationship. It still made me sad but it was like it had happened to someone else, or 5 years ago -- the immediacy was gone. And that's how it is, at least for me.

Actually I just remembered what happened and I know I've told this story before: I went to a family bbq with some friends and hung out with the host's kids. I think the kids cured me.

Yep. You told that story last summer to give me some hope when I was going through a rough spot and you know what? It did help. :D

Yeah! The morning after the bbq I sat on my fire escape and just looked at stuff, and it all looked different. It will happen, Trayce. But getting the cancer OUT of your life and OUT OF YOUR HOME would be the first step, yes? Just guessing.

Yeah, during my last heartbreak I made a habit of babysitting for a good friend and that little bastard did all sorts of wonders to raise my spirits. And I don't even like kids.

Unless of course one of the stated reasons why your ex broke up with you was because they thought you "would make a bad parent" in which case, being around other people's children is like being stabbed repeatedly through the heart with a glass shard...

or if they never wanted kids...

And I don't even like kids.

what a weird thing to say. whats to hate?

'people save their worst till last,' someone said to me once and i think she was right.

lawyers have a saying: in criminal law you see bad people acting their best; in divorce law you see good people acting their worst. an overgeneralization, but there's some truth to it.

i would never practice family law. it's too heart-wrenching.

I said "don't like", not "hate". I have very little patience for hissy fits and absolutely zero interest in changing diapers. Luckily this kid was potty trained and well-behaved while I was around.

Children are of no use to anybody but their parents until they're able to have a conversation.

um nobody likes children xcept for their parents iirc

but theyre so pure and you can totally fuck with their minds. honestly ive never met an adult who has anything to say that comes even close to as interesting as a 2-5 year old does.

Laurel - thanks, yeah I do feel like I am starting to come out the other side of this, finally. R is technically not living with me anymore (as in, he hasnt stayed in the house for about a week now) and just has to move the last of his few things out. I dont mind that - we're still friendly to each other, there's no major animosity in the immediate sense.

But every time I see him I just start crying. Even though the rest of the time I am fine.

And don't get me started on the new bitch. The very sight of her name makes me tense up and want to slap a ho. Unfair perhaps, but kneejerk.

Still - tonight, I shall gather myself together, meet up with dear N (he has been a rock to me) and go out to a bar/club and hang out with my homies. And have Fun, Dammit.

Kinda feel like you need to get really mad at this guy

Yeah, you should be way more pissed at him than you are at her.

Perhaps. But as the Wedding Present once sang, "why didn't you just say no?".

(that applies to them both, obv).

applies to him a lot more, imo.

But in any case she's not responsible for his shitty behaviour since day one of this.

Kinda feel like you need to get really mad at this guy

― May be half naked, but knows a good headline when he sees it (darraghmac), Friday, June 4, 2010 1:57 AM (12 hours ago)

give her time

well hello

i've just started thinking about dealing with breakups of ltr's like dealing with being sick. It's hard because i'm a horrible invalid - i get too impatient about wanting to get "well" already, and then i end up being sicker longer because i try and go about my life as if i'm perfectly healthy.

thread to get over a breakup (with ILX)

oops I need to change my DN

Trayce just out of curiosity when this happened with you and N and R did N want to slap a ho? Were they friends beforehand and then stop being friends? Seriously not being all YOU DID THE SAME THING (because ive done it myself yo) just curious how guys react.