thread to get over a breakup

i just question the functionality/health of a relationship when at least one of the parties is still contending with the damage from a previous one.

eh i dunno that's something you have to work through yourself and obviously YMMV, but really that's btwn you and yourself, not between you and another person that's right for you.

eh my last post was a joek btw pls dont sb me or anything

i mean "right" is totally contextual - someone can be totally "right" for you when you're both drunk and maudlin at the bar, but when you're both sober, not so right.

nah that's not 'right' that's 'you'll do c'mere'

right.

all i'm saying is don't confuse "you'll do c'mere" with "right"

and a lot of rebound situations are really just about "you'll do c'mere"

yeah we're allowing for that in fairness.

just that you have to allow that they're not always 'you'll do c'mere's' either

well, it's often a bit of both, and i think that taints the "rightness" - can it be overcome? Maybe. I don't know.

gf is watching 'the breakup' fyi

Hahah well this thread went in an interesting direction while I was asleep =)

I'm not sure I even wanna sleep with anyone right now tbh, just lookin fwd to fun times finding out stuff about a new(ish) person. There's totally other guys Id'd crack onto/sleep with as well if I could but I'm not sure they are/would be interested (if I could dare ever let on I was! Thats the bit I hate...sigh).

...sometimes, in my bleaker moments, I wonder if R settled with me because I was there for him, and he couldnt have the person/type he really wanted. I wasnt quite it, but I was good enough, and we were good friends.

The minute someone came along who fitted his needs/wants to a tee, he basically didnt hesitate to drop everything and run to her.

Sure makes me feel special :(

just lookin fwd to fun times finding out stuff about a new(ish) person.

that's a good attitude to have - you're an awesome person, and there are a lot of other awesome, interesting, fun people out there, and your ex-bf is a statistically insignificant percentage of that number.

now we're talkin

giving credit where credit is due -- i was merely paraphrasing a much more eloquent estela post from another thread.

i dunno if "the right serious relationship" is possible that soon after a major breakup

― C.H.U.D.D.Y. Chasers (sarahel), Wednesday, June 9, 2010 8:16 PM (1 hour ago)

it def can be, my upcoming gettin hitched is based on a situation that came out of those circumstances

way to up the ante mayne, we're tryna manage expectations in the breakup room if you hadn't noticed.

fair enough, have also gotten stuck in crap relationships due to over-exuberant rebounding

You know, now its the morning, I am even more irritated with what my so-called best friend said to me y'day about this minor, silly passing crush. I wish I'd not said anything now, because he went on a rant about "we need to talk, this is a patter, you have a shit record with this" and now I'm like dude, what in the FUCK? I sit around lonely, isolated and moping and everyone tells me to get off my butt and get out and have fun.

So I get off my butt, get out and meet some awesome people, and admit I might like one of em a little bit. And now I'm "on a roundabout" and "a pattern" and other negative castigations.

With friends like these, etc. They're really overthinking what I'm doing here, surely? I hardly wanna DATE anyone!

this is a pattern, that should read above.

dr. me says "do whatever the fuck you want to do"

Trayce, is the best friend a woman or a guy?

i mean that in a totally empowering way, not a not giving a shit way, to clarify. xpostt

yeah trayce ppl have probably given you enough "advice" at this point--i think you know what you want to be doing

if the dude's good people and you're good people then throw him a gday bounce imo and yknow ur friend'll get over the rejection of the intervention

sara: a guy, and he is ALWAYS REALLY NEGATIVE about everything, I do love him dearly but god he can be a pain in the ass sometimes.

Trayce, does this guy have a crush on you (your best friend that is)?

Oh god no, he's married :) we're just like naggy brother and sister rly.

"this is a pattern, you have a shit record with this"

otm tbf but wth

Yeah sure, I can dig his observation and agree with it, but god, just be happy for me getting on with my life for once, dude jeez.

My ex, N? He was the first to jump in and say "good on you! Go for it, have some fun, you deserve it!". Bless him. I let a good one go, there :/

Crushdude just rang me at work mid=afternoon while "between meetings" to ask me for a coffee (which sadly I had to decline as I'm flat out)

This guy is doing some srs "hey Im interested" legwork here isnt he?

I'm not used to this haha.

'gday bounce' OMG

I feel stupid for not being able to work out wth kind of euphemism that is.

australian tigger

BTW aforementioned dude is totes interested in me, as I found out last night.

Ah still got it *struts*.

With Trayce's moniker on the page, I misread this title as thread to get over a handjob.

Yay Trayce, you go girl!

Went on date last night (well, with other friends), everyone got well trashed, then eventually had the place to ourselves.

Yeah, that was a very successful evening <3 Recovery time is now.

daaaaammmmmnnnn

fucking awe3some

Iknowrite? It really has helped me get past everything. Not saying I'd get involved with this guy, but life is fun again for a change.

Ow my liver, tho.

Bingobango! Congrats, Trayce!

:D

Did you disrespect his property?

Properly?

Bwahaha.

feel so sad. :\ miss her.

*hugs* ian <3

aww Ian sincerely feeling for you xxxxxx

The worst part is seeing someone I knew so well morph so quickly into someone I'd never give the time of day.