thread to get over a breakup

don't worry it get's worse, then better, then worse, then better

wish i could turn my heart into anything else, really

― jeff, Wednesday, October 27, 2010 8:45 PM Bookmark

To paraphrase an ilxor's mother's ex-boyfriend, you can't make your heart turn into a face.

ex-husband rather, and if you have not read this thread, it may cheer you up a little. Read it when you feel like you want something of that sort:

My mother's incredibly stupid ex-husband

^ kind of sad but mostly lol

yeah, i was referencing that. will reread when i'm able to focus better. trying to find some good music to listen to but everything feels so cliche.

thought i could cheer myself up and took my dog for a long walk earlier today. it was too hot for her and i had to carry her the whole way. it was pretty sad and pathetic. got really choked up thinking about how i figured that i'd have to deal with her dying at some point but the reality now is that i'll be gone and she's just going to forget about me.

Jeff, it gets a he'll of a lot better. I know when I've recently broken up, I feel antisocial and my world shrinks. Really, you have to force yourself to interact with family and friends, exercise some good habits, and go through the motions of a person who is functional. In my limited life experience, I'd say that acting like normal is the best thing to do. And when you can, go somewhere new and do something fun on your own, as a reminder you can.

He'll -> hell

I had a bit of a setback thinking about my most recent ex this morning and it made me feel shitty to think I still really miss him a lot. We had a very close friendship we lost thanks to turning it into a relationship and then breaking up - we're still friends and still in touch but it'll never be the same, and sometimes I get so sad.

yeah, went thru this about a month ago. keep strong, lean on good friends for support.

thanks dude. trayce, i feel you. for me, this is more about losing a best friend than just a girlfriend. i have other people to talk with but i don't think there is anyone who can truly comfort me. listening to promise ring and jimmy eat world now ffs.

sorry, that was meant to say "thanks dudes".

when there's such extant strength of feeling it never fails to bewilder and utterly sadden me that something can be torn so utterly asunder

you can still be friends, but it takes time and distance, and the friendship is different. and no, there really isn't anyone who can truly comfort you - distract you, yes, but you have to work through it by yourself, which is almost the worst part, because you feel lonelier.

http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_4qCmg4q7TQ0/S7_Bfuet3II/AAAAAAAAA4c/wLBOefXicuA/s400/Knapsack_Day_Three_Of_My_New_Life.jpg

lol had this on blast after my last breakup

might have to give that a spin soon. had completely forgotten about them.

i have other people to talk with but i don't think there is anyone who can truly comfort me.

Ach yeah, this. The one person you want to turn to is the one person who's just ripped out yr insides and dropkicked them across the room :/

sorry jeff, sorry buzza, that really sucks guys

listened to j.e.w. and pinkerton nonstop last time i was havin girl sads

not very weezer/promise ring/knapsack-esque, but very helpful in a love bummer-esque way. last big break-up i had my immediate response was to take three hour baths with this on repeat:

http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_o6mJh27JxV8/TEtFB0QyizI/AAAAAAAAAhk/vgGJ4PUPxD8/s1600/hot+buttered+soul.jpg

'by the time i get to phoenix' heals all

Sorry to hear you guys are facing these struggles, jeff and buzza. I usually rely on Burt Bacharach tunes and https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vZZngTkp54I

I just realized today that my most recent breakup didn't hit me as hard as I thought it would b/c in a lot of ways I'm still shellshocked from the one two years ago. It's pretty distressing to know how long some pains can last. It makes me question how strong of a person I am to still let my life be so deeply affected by someone who has long since moved on.

1. She and I agreed to be just friends 3 days ago. Things were too frequently turbulent, too strained, and commitment was too much of a problem.

2. We spent 3 wonderful days with each other, undefined as a couple but very much in league.

3. Tonight, I have been friend-dumped. I am not going to go into specifics, save for the fact it concerns a poetry-reading, some old university friends of mine, and my inability to deal with my emotions. I think she is a genius and I cried more than I have done at any other stage in my post-infancy life.

4. I am a fool.

5. Fuck.

6. I hope I learn.

7. I hope she and I meet again.

8. Cambridge is a poison.

9. Always fight for the one you love.

10. Self-control.

aw man

11. Don't give parasites an inch or they'll drive a wedge. Even if you have been friends with them for 5 years.

12. Self-control.

:( for you atm

Aw, man, I'm sorry, LJ. :(

thanks fellas

l jagz i str8 up n/j admire how u live lyfe

Condolences, acoleuthic.

damn LJ. :(

why the fuck am i missing you now?

when i said i was sad that this would be the first birthday i haven't spent with you since 1996, you just made a dumb pouty face. You are almost 38 years old, you can do better than a dumb pouty face.

oh louis.

i'm sorry.

you can do better than a dumb pouty face

God, I KNOW that dumb pouty face. It's been given to me before. I wanna smack it.

Lamp OTM, sorry you're going through this LJ, but you're a top-notch guy and even if this is the last you see of her, there's more amazing women in store for you down the road.

louis dogg now is the tyme to write some poetry that u will be very embarrassed by in about 2 years

oh i hope louis will never be embarrassed by any of his poetry!

take care of yourself, dude. xx

bad luck LJ... did you get to NZ?

aw LJ.

again thanks fellas...max i am on it, but it's between her and i

nice email received today, explaining the need for space but forgiving me to a degree...feeling much better

ruh-roh

forgiving you for what?

if details ain't for thread then fair enough obv

look for christ's sake we had a falling-out ok, don't pry

also can a mod delete d-mac's post, it's fucking horrible

sorry man, it wasnt meant so harshly as that.

kid glove treatment, d - the breakup is pretty fresh

if details ain't for thread then fair enough obv

not getting into it any further, apology is genuine

hahaha that was quick

we've basically patched this up :) and had a great long chat about poetry

but on the proviso that i take anger management classes

you know me etc

O_O

I'm sorry this all happened to you and her. I hope things turn out well in the future.