thread to get over a breakup

This is the bastard part of that just after a breakup bit innit. I dont know how long ppl expect you to walk around in sackcloth and ashes but its never enough for some ppl.

Either they trusted you while in the relationship and will know that, or they didn't and the relationship wasn't built on trust anyway. People will try to believe all kinds of bullshit to remind themselves that a breakup was warranted and it's not your job to prove them right or wrong.

I'm usually the one being dumped, so its not come up that often for me, ha. :(

i remember an ex that dumped me getting all sad and butthurt when she saw me out with someone new a full month and a half later. i didn't feel any sympathy whatsoever.

six weeks clearly wasn't enough of a mourning period.

if you're the dumpee approx 10 seconds is enough mourning imo

Hahaha totally OTM. Fuck em.

My ex is already like "oh well I'm fed up anyway hey btw i gave this cute girl my # on the weekend lol" ... so yeah, he hasnt changed a bit :|

My crazy ex-fiancee from a few years back was banging the bartender at our favorite establishment within two months, and married to a dude she used to date within like... six?

I am pretty chill with all of that tbh

People gotta get on with their lives hey.

I think I find it more weird when someone's still hung up over a person 2 or more years later. Thats just... odd.

Hung up on/still miserable/not seeing anyone else, i mean.

Can't argue that. I've been in a similar situation, where a girl I was mad about dumped me FOR another guy and embarked on a relationship that quickly fizzled. So I became interested in someone else and things were going great and then she calls me crying and sad and I really didn't have a whole lot of sympathy at all, considering she'd already started up with this other fella behind my back.

That all happened about six years ago, but we're best friends now (or, more accurately, like Jerry and Elaine from Seinfeld).

yeah :( and i know a very very good example of that

intervention from friends is imminent

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That all happened about six years ago, but we're best friends now (or, more accurately, like Jerry and Elaine from Seinfeld).

Hahah oh shit that sounds like me and Nick.

yeah :( and i know a very very good example of that

intervention from friends is imminent

Hm, curious, anyone i kno?

not really, an ex of mine from maaaany years ago. needs a huge kickstart to get over her cunt recent ex

ex texted me AGAIN yesterday. flat out ignored it. not gonna be your scratching post when YOU dumped ME!

Good for you *nods*.

Good luck Mooks.

Breaking up sounds awful. It's been soooo long since I've had to endure it that sometimes I forget how tough it is.

Yeah not something I care to go thru again in a hurry, esp the "oh god you mean I have to start again!?" kind where its been years. Ugh.

Doesnt make me feel any less lonely mind u.

I'm worried about dating again when I lose Lloyd. (He's old enough that even if he does die a natural death, I'm still going to outlive him by 20-30 years.) I'll get to make all of the relationship mistakes that you all made in your late teens or early twenties, but I'll get to make them with people in their forties, fifties, or sixties--people (I'm assuming will be) less tolerant of that kind of thing.

people in their 40s, 50s and 60s are probably a lot less nitpicky and bullshitty i would hope

I'm worried that I'll look less like Woman With Very Little Relationship Experience and more like Crazy Girlfriend to them.

why are you even thinking about this? there's really nothing can be done about that pesky process called "aging" w/r/t looks, but you're in control of how you approach life
just live well now, it will make you feel better when you're old
sorry to get all self helpy but it's true

watch a lot of golden girls and study their behavior. you'll have it made.

Good advice in any situation, actually.

Dear T*** (my ex-ex),

It is unfair that even though it's now been 1 year and 3 months since we broke up, I still miss you a lot, and that you seem to get more attractive as time goes on. Also it sucks that today is the two year anniversary of our Valentine's Day dinner at C@rmela's, the first of many Italian restaurants we visited together.

So pathetic is it that I think of you more now than my most recent ex, and can't find excuses to hate you anymore like I used to be able to.

*sigh*

Yours truly,

R0b

you're posting that here instead of actually sending it to her, right?

Lol of course

sure hope so

I don't send pathetic emails to people, ffs!

aw

five years ago this moment, i was getting married

:(

*hugs* mookie x

aw

<3

*comforts MP*

oh mookie...

<3 <3

aw mookie :(

We're here for ya, pal

mookie, five years from this (that) moment there will be wonderful people/things in your life you don't know anything about yet because they are a surprise <3

^^^^^^^^

in my phone i have made an entry for feb. 18, 2016 that says "bitch at estela"

i'll be long gone by then.

noooo

just a bit of magical thinking, so let's be cool.

<3

thinking of making this thread into a self-help book, anyone object?

Fwiw & apropos of nothing, my first (and hopefully last) serious ex got married a fortnight ago. Spent almost a whole day in a navelgaze funk before remembering that it's six years since we broke up and i've spent five of them with the current ms mac and we're stupidly happy. Exes and breakups, though. Strange.