thread to get over a breakup

u did right to get out rox

oh, that makes it sound like i paid for his friends too, i didn't. they got tickets when he invited them. i guess i just wanted it to be just us :(

you never really took to my cats!!!!

you would always loan me the worst of your shirts when i needed one, like shirts that were XXL and had a restaurants name on them

this is why i stole your enslaved shirt that you bought on our first date and i am not returning it, maybe

you have some seriously dumb male friends, but i guess you only consider women airheads or idiots so its not a thing

^this is a little disingenuous actually

ah fuck it

you would never get up and turn off the light!!!

at my house, i would turn off the light.

why would you never TURN OFF THE LIGHT!!!

RUDE

making a face like you have a bomb to drop and then when questioned abuot it "we have talked about enough serious things today" and go write a secret blog entry or something about it. yes, you are the admin of the relationship and you have successfully /banned me, thankig u

feeling better, thanks all

why was i feeling bad for dumping ^^^this man?

hugz

lou has the right attitude about this kinda thing

thanks

(cant see youtube at work, is that sebadoh?!!?!?)

you act like michael amott is a second class citizen!

you never made me coffee even once <<<<<<<<<WTF

when i was puking my guts out you jauntily strolled into the bathroom eating a bowl of cereal

ok that was pretty hilarious actually

you watched family guy, but to be fair you were pretty noncommittal about it

http://images.google.com/images?hl=en&safe=active&rls=com.microsoft:en-us:IE-SearchBox&rlz=1I7ADBF_en&resnum=0&q=noncommittal&um=1&ie=UTF-8&sa=N&tab=wi

you thought i was having an affair with (lol) CORNY PROG FUCK

ever since i came back from new york you acted like you could give a fuck if i lived or died, why

every time i did a project of any type with other people you complimented the other people's contribs and not mine, not even in private

better to be a passionate fan of bullshit than a vacant dead eyed zombie watching whatever bullshit show happens to be on the air! i know plenty of dudes who would kill to be in this ignoramus' shoes. i mean, not now, but before when he was not living in dumptown

the anniversary of our first date, not that i expect you to remember this shit, but you texted me "hope to see you soon"

what the fuck is hope to see you soon

that is fucked up dude

xpost thanks omar

this is dork shit, but i made you a really awesome cd of african tribal chants and shit and you let it gather dust before i forced you to give it a listen then youre like "this is pretty magical!" wow, maybe you could have been interested to hear it at any point

you're too good for this guy. if i ever get to knox i'll give him the ol what for (with my fist).

haw

"how fast could i KO this chickenshit hillbilly?"

haha

i don't wish him ill, yall, im just trying not to focus on the good times here

you made fun of the fact that i said "luda" and "lol" as if this made me a mouthbreathing illiterate or something and then appropriated them for yourself like a week later

youd do the "taking a younger guy under your wing" routine and try to brainwash him into being a fratty asshole

try to remember you were dating the next "mystery"

http://i34.tinypic.com/2mdpafk.jpg

lol

i am going ot punch this dude

― very quotatious (tehresa), Friday, December 12, 2008 2:00 AM (53 minutes ago) Bookmark Suggest Ban Permalink

agreed punchable completely this guy

yeah not so good. tough, but you're in the right.

he sounds like a total douche bag btw and deserves a lot more thank a breakup

man this dude was a prick!

http://i36.tinypic.com/2i9gfmq.jpg

this is prob him he sounds this bad^

cant see that at work for some reason, but ill accept it

its a story abt a russain entrepreneur trademarking this emoticon :-)

u cant tm that only a jerk would try srsly

agreed punchable completely this guy
/zoidberg voice

ARGH ARGH ARGH this guys sounds like such a horrible dickwart! Roxy I am so sorry you are in pain because you rock harder than a truckload of fucking pigs, and there really isn't anything I can do except get out my megaphone and shout DUDE WAS A SINNER, U R THE WINNER like I'm on the pavement at Oxford Circus.

You are such an amazing person, and if dude can't see it, it's HIS FAULT not yours.

Go out, play a show, get drunk, pull some fantastic groupie ass and forget all about him.

^^^otm

haha, thanks kate

this helps me get over EVERYthing:

http://www.sendspace.com/file/pk27si

oh shi

you acted like i was being a baby when you dropped me on my BACK on those metal weights on your floor you DICK

lol

coming to good consensus music picks is difficult, best to have shared tastes that neither of you are that into for a trial period so you don't come to associate anything you truly love with an ex

Cheers to Noodle Vague, diamdonddave85, and others in the long-term breakup-sadness crew. It's coming up on six years since my big breakup, and it's true, the sadness comes and goes unpredictably.

Tonight I've been reflecting, for about the millionth time, on the fact that there are things she could tell me--about what our relationship was really like for her, especially at the end, and how she perceives it now--that could change the way I feel about myself and my life profoundly. But we'll never talk about these things. I doubt she thinks about them at all now, and I certainly don't want to reveal that I do. For better or for worse, I'll never know. Usually I'm alright with that, given that the truth could devastate me. But sometimes the frustration of not knowing is just too much.

where is the bottom

God you think you're alright, you think you're through it, you feel independent and actually find yourself enjoying the mild thrill of all that. Then you decide to take yourself off somewhere one mildly-hungover afternoon when your senses are a bit all over the place and instantly realise that the only time you went there before was 10 years ago when romance was still blossoming and it was with her and suddenly the emotion it's ambushing...

Hugs dude.

I dunno, those feelings are testament to something that was worthwhile and at least that's something. It beats not feeling anything.

<3

Heard a new word the other day 'tabanca', a West Indian term that Google describes as 'a painful feeling of unrequited love, typically for a former lover and causing unbalanced or violent behaviour'.

Discovered the opposite of a seven year itch. In the last couple of weeks I've dreamt about my ex 4 or 5 times - dreams of still being together or of breaking apart. You're not helping, subconscious.

I wonder if it's a "thing" -- i remember going through it around that time. Realized yesterday that I have no logical reason to have a kitchen table, because I drink coffee in bed and eat in front of the tv, though my ex would have his morning coffee at that table, but he hasn't lived with me for 9 years, so I might as well move that table into the room I use as my office, where it would be useful, and then I can have more room for storage where the kitchen table is now.

I'm sure it is a thing. I'm under the weather and depressive atm and I'm dealing with that consciously as best as I know how so this is Probly some escape valve for my brain. The recurrence is unsettling and annoying tho

also winter

Yeah, especially the darkness

when you find things you hate/have no use for/think are ugly but somehow kept hanging around because your ex liked them and they literally became part of the furniture. Getting rid of those things can be very liberating

i haven't directly read or watched marie kondo, but as i understand, you should ask yourself if those items bring you joy, and then say thank you to them before discarding

i definitely did not follow that advice the last time i was getting over a breakup. i believe i just held the items in my hand for a while, crying, before throwing them in the garbage and drinking heavily

i moved the table into my office, moved my music gear around to take advantage of the space left by the table and actually played/practiced. I am accepting that I won't have that romantic domesticity anymore, and I'm just gonna be a single person with space to play percussion and electronics and have a bunch of books and that is fine.

Drifting towards a similar realisation but not quite at the "it's fine" stage most days

heh - it's only been "fine" for 3 days so ... and it's been 9 years since we split. I feel like I suck at getting over breakups considering how long it's been. The other posters in this thread seem way better at it than me.

I'm mostly over the breakup, despite the last couple of weird weeks. I think part of the process of getting over it was recognising how much it was my fault, and waking up to my bad behaviour. I think that's also partly why I'm resigning myself to a single future - it's hard to meet people looking for a relationship as you get older, and I really don't feel like I'm a catch, or trust myself to do the work to become one, :/

you proposed to plax yesterday!

I know but they never replied ;_;

He likes oatmeal iirc

anyway <3 to all obv