thread to get over a breakup

wth is a buss fuse?

http://lighting-electrical.org/_cache/Fuses/img/Buss_Fuse_0.jpg

Are those the old-style screw-in fuses that someone might have instead of circuit breakers?

Burn it down and salt the earth.

― Back up the lesbian canoe (Laurel), Friday, April 29, 2011 10:26 AM (2 weeks ago) Bookmark

this is the best advice imo

I want an answer to the fuse question.

it was re friends after iirc also otm

so. broke up with the girl 7 or so months ago. currently very much single and miserable - now i see on facebook the ex is seeing some dude. i feel like i lost. wtf. i shouldn't care but i do.

That feeling goes away

but it's ok to feel shitty over it for the time being too iirc

it's not like i want her back either. i think i feel like i failed because i'm still single maybe.

but... you broke up with her?

yup. i know.

do you want to be in another relationship right now?

i'd like to be at this point.

of some kind.

seriously, when they're with someone else for the first time after, logic doesn't come into it, you're gonna take a hit

have you been dating?

not for a while. went out with a few girls a few months ago. never went anywhere tho.
i've been shot down by a couple of girls i know that i'd liked for a while (years) aswell. so that helps make everything awesome.

thermo imo what you're feeling is totally normal. but forks otm it goes away.

i think i feel like i failed because i'm still single maybe.

this is totally the thing and reasonable to feel. but even though it feels that way, it's not a race and you haven't found the right person yet, that's all

or "a suitable person" -- i think the idea of "the right person" is kinda unhealthy

what is the difference?

mookie otm...you can feel bad and it fucking sucks, but dont let it be about success/failure. don't do that to yourself.

right implies one. suitable implies 'workable' imo. i dunno... 'suitable' seems like a cop out to me.

nah suitable doesn't limit you to looking for a perfect one that prob doesnt exist

right doesn't have to mean perfect. it could mean best.

"soul mate" is pretty loaded. finding someone "right" sounds perfectly doable.

unless you're me, obv!

anyways - you can get something right without getting it perfect.

re-writing my PoF profile right now.

The whole soul mate concept is total BS imo.

some day my princess will come

lol

right person, right time. just because it is simple doesnt make it easy. it'll come.

i'm also worried that, while i wasn't completely happy with her, that she was the best i could do.

oh dude, no. dont do that

eh

There's a little to be said for that tbph

Issue is, are you bummed out because she has moved on, or are you bummed out because you want her back?

One is you needing to focus on your life and be content and the other is because you may have made a mistake splitting up.

I'd like to know why the feeling of getting over a breakup is like bereavement? Is it the same chemical in the brain that we use for coping? If so it sucks.

it fucking sucks.

It sucks so fucking much.

fuck.

Feeling ya.

It sucks so fucking hard.

It sucks slightly less hard now than it did 3 weeks ago. That doesn't mean it doesn't suck hard now. It just means I'm not trapped under my duvet. But at least something has changed.

i'm over my past exes and have been moving on, had been flirting with this new girl who is just flat out amazing, but yesterday kind of pulled out the "I'm not sure what I want right now" card because of past experiences.

*sigh*. not a death knell I know, but patience is a difficult trait for me in situations like this...however, old dogs must learn new tricks.

she did say she liked me too, so it was more like a 'i want this, but just not sure right now' type thing

I can hardly imagine dating ever again, but I'm so horribly, physically lonely atm I'm having to remind myself not to scare friends and acqaintances with over-hugging.

i can't speak for everyone but as a friend w/ someoen i've cared about i've never felt overhugging was a possibility, even on the receiving end

hugging is the best

I miss hugs

*hug*