thread to get over a breakup

so yeah i posted in the wrong thread last night in a mess, but my wife and i are done. im moving out tomorrow. im sad.

i posted in that other thread, but it bears repeating-- i'm really sorry that you are going through something that rough. i wish the best for you, and i hope you take good care of yourself. i've never been married or had a family, but breakups in general even uh, divorced (sorry!) from that context are difficult enough.

Chris....fuck, I am so sorry. (hug)

Chris, I'm so sorry.

So sorry to hear. Reassurances are probably not so helpful a this point, but it you *will* be OK and it *will* get better and life *does* go on in a positive way. People told me this when I got divorced, and damn if they weren't right. Take care.

Oh, fuck, Chris. I knew this was coming. We'll be here for you for whatever happens.

sorry dude. i know the feeling.

i'm sorry chris. kia kaha my friends.

Moved my stuff out yesterday. That sucked. My wife and I are on really good terms and honestly i feel much better. We will much better friends than husband and wife.

*comfort*

Is it too early to ask how the kid situation is going to work out between you? I remember you talking about that a while back. But please: no need to answer if it's too raw to talk about yet.

We are going to do every tues and Wednesday with me and every other weekend which is standard practice. Had him last night and he had a blast. I got him a toy story bed and he almost shit. It's actually really nice to be able to focus all my energy on him and not have to worry about dividing it. Plus it will be nice to recharge when he is with his mother. All in all im doing good

I'm glad for that, Chris. Just sorry that you have to go through it all. <3

Stay strong, Chris. Hope things work out for the best for you and your little one.

hot damn i never got no toy story bed

Brb gonna go riot

Yeah I'm not as upset as I thought I would be. It's been a longtime coming and best that it happened now on good terms than hating one another on bad terms.

of course all the music in the world sucks ass right now

<3 homie

Tuvan throat singing, perhaps? xpost

yo

<3

Well yesterday I got a text that wasn't intended for me by mistake. For another guy. She claims it was a joke and she is flirting. She can go fuck herself

:( chris

Fuck, man. Sorry.

oh god, that is awful. :(

Oh, fuck that, seriously.

Oh dude :(

That really sucks, dude.

Turns out I need a tiny bit of this thread, if there is some to spare. thx

oh no :(

my situation is as nothing compared to chris's. just feeling it a bit at the moment.

sorry guys.

Plenty of room here, grab a cushion or whatever.

I'm trying to pick out a sperm donor at the moment, and it's really shit.

How much info do they give you?

It's actually really nice to be able to focus all my energy on him and not have to worry about dividing it. Plus it will be nice to recharge when he is with his mother. All in all im doing good.

I'm sorry about everything, man, but since this is where you are now: this is exactly what my divorced female friend says about being with her kids, too. They split custody 50/50 and the 3.5 days when she doesn't have her sons, she has a whole other independent life, and when she DOES have them, she has ONLY them, and not a spouse she also has to take care of.

I hope the situation continues to be rewarding for you. Your little guy will surely appreciate your improved friendship w your wife! And probably so will you.

Ljubljana, it depends. They give you very little info at the London Sperm Bank, more with some of the donors at the Danish one (Cryos dk) but in the context of this thread it's shit b/c it makes me really angry with my ex that I'm having to do this.

I might start another thread about the donor insemination thing.

Ah, got it - of course, I was being obtuse, sorry. I hope there are at least some good people there who keep the whole experience positive, and good friends around to mull over the whole experience with. I'd be interested to read that other thread.

Yeah i had a great weekend with my son. Honestly, the hardest part is not seeing him daily. Her, i could really care two shits less about at this point. Yes I was with her 16 years and there are some great times in there, but man the last two have been hell. Oh and she told me she sent that text to me to see my reaction. what a manipulative bitch. just need to keep my head up and be friendly because i dont want this to get ugly for my son.

I'm trying to pick out a sperm donor at the moment, and it's really shit. ..... They give you very little info at the London Sperm Bank, more with some of the donors at the Danish one (Cryos dk) but in the context of this thread it's shit b/c it makes me really angry with my ex that I'm having to do this.

I might start another thread about the donor insemination thing.

This must be excruciating....

Oh and she told me she sent that text to me to see my reaction.

holy fuck

what a manipulative bitch.

I am so relieved to be out of that toxic woman's reach. I can finally be myself.

Do you ever get in the car, turn up your music and just drive around going "WOOOOO!" and launching down the entrance ramp to the freeway? I think I spent a while doing that after getting out of a shitastic relationship. Recommend it.

YES

xxposts: Chris, dude...that whole text thing. WTF. I hope you're not getting tired of me saying "I'm sorry" :/

nah im cool with the sorrys. She is nuts. I just finally started to listen to some music again today, i made a "I gave her my heart, she gave me a pen" spotify playlist and its helping. Im also glad that her and I are back at our respective jobs. stops her from pestering me.

I'm sorry Chris. I'm glad you've got that practical / distance thing going on. It does sound like it had gotten toxic. Here's to a happy future for you and your kid.

I might start another thread about the donor insemination thing.

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vaguely considered (not really) a poll of potential ilx0r donors

but is the world ready for a pi-reciting small child?

pi-reviewing more likely tbh

And pie-bringing.

^^^i am the world is def. ready for this