thread to get over a breakup

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I'm glad for that, Chris. Just sorry that you have to go through it all. <3

Janet Snakehole (VegemiteGrrl), Wednesday, 10 August 2011 13:52 (thirteen years ago) link

Stay strong, Chris. Hope things work out for the best for you and your little one.

jon/via/chia/pet 2.0 (kkvgz), Wednesday, 10 August 2011 14:00 (thirteen years ago) link

hot damn i never got no toy story bed

Brb gonna go riot

10/11 of a dead jesus (darraghmac), Wednesday, 10 August 2011 14:17 (thirteen years ago) link

Yeah I'm not as upset as I thought I would be. It's been a longtime coming and best that it happened now on good terms than hating one another on bad terms.

Cindy Mancini can ride my lawnmower anytime (thebingo), Wednesday, 10 August 2011 15:09 (thirteen years ago) link

of course all the music in the world sucks ass right now

Cindy Mancini can ride my lawnmower anytime (thebingo), Wednesday, 10 August 2011 20:04 (thirteen years ago) link

<3 homie

markers, Wednesday, 10 August 2011 20:06 (thirteen years ago) link

Tuvan throat singing, perhaps? xpost

Janet Snakehole (VegemiteGrrl), Thursday, 11 August 2011 01:26 (thirteen years ago) link

yo

<3

BIG HOOS aka the steendriver, Thursday, 11 August 2011 05:45 (thirteen years ago) link

Well yesterday I got a text that wasn't intended for me by mistake. For another guy. She claims it was a joke and she is flirting. She can go fuck herself

Cindy Mancini can ride my lawnmower anytime (thebingo), Saturday, 13 August 2011 13:49 (thirteen years ago) link

:( chris

generous loller at dollies (sic), Saturday, 13 August 2011 14:01 (thirteen years ago) link

Fuck, man. Sorry.

BIG HOOS aka the steendriver, Saturday, 13 August 2011 16:16 (thirteen years ago) link

oh god, that is awful. :(

tehresa, Saturday, 13 August 2011 16:56 (thirteen years ago) link

Oh, fuck that, seriously.

ljubljana, Saturday, 13 August 2011 17:26 (thirteen years ago) link

Oh dude :(

Janet Snakehole (VegemiteGrrl), Saturday, 13 August 2011 18:12 (thirteen years ago) link

That really sucks, dude.

Turns out I need a tiny bit of this thread, if there is some to spare. thx

Upt0eleven, Saturday, 13 August 2011 19:02 (thirteen years ago) link

oh no :(

tehresa, Saturday, 13 August 2011 19:04 (thirteen years ago) link

my situation is as nothing compared to chris's. just feeling it a bit at the moment.

Upt0eleven, Saturday, 13 August 2011 20:29 (thirteen years ago) link

sorry guys.

10/11 of a dead jesus (darraghmac), Saturday, 13 August 2011 20:31 (thirteen years ago) link

Plenty of room here, grab a cushion or whatever.

I'm trying to pick out a sperm donor at the moment, and it's really shit.

Also unknown as Zora (Surfing At Work), Saturday, 13 August 2011 23:27 (thirteen years ago) link

How much info do they give you?

ljubljana, Sunday, 14 August 2011 01:52 (thirteen years ago) link

It's actually really nice to be able to focus all my energy on him and not have to worry about dividing it. Plus it will be nice to recharge when he is with his mother. All in all im doing good.

I'm sorry about everything, man, but since this is where you are now: this is exactly what my divorced female friend says about being with her kids, too. They split custody 50/50 and the 3.5 days when she doesn't have her sons, she has a whole other independent life, and when she DOES have them, she has ONLY them, and not a spouse she also has to take care of.

it's not that print journalists don't have a sense of humour, it's just (Laurel), Monday, 15 August 2011 02:33 (thirteen years ago) link

I hope the situation continues to be rewarding for you. Your little guy will surely appreciate your improved friendship w your wife! And probably so will you.

it's not that print journalists don't have a sense of humour, it's just (Laurel), Monday, 15 August 2011 02:39 (thirteen years ago) link

Ljubljana, it depends. They give you very little info at the London Sperm Bank, more with some of the donors at the Danish one (Cryos dk) but in the context of this thread it's shit b/c it makes me really angry with my ex that I'm having to do this.

I might start another thread about the donor insemination thing.

Also unknown as Zora (Surfing At Work), Monday, 15 August 2011 07:40 (thirteen years ago) link

Ah, got it - of course, I was being obtuse, sorry. I hope there are at least some good people there who keep the whole experience positive, and good friends around to mull over the whole experience with. I'd be interested to read that other thread.

ljubljana, Monday, 15 August 2011 11:35 (thirteen years ago) link

Yeah i had a great weekend with my son. Honestly, the hardest part is not seeing him daily. Her, i could really care two shits less about at this point. Yes I was with her 16 years and there are some great times in there, but man the last two have been hell. Oh and she told me she sent that text to me to see my reaction. what a manipulative bitch. just need to keep my head up and be friendly because i dont want this to get ugly for my son.

Cindy Mancini can ride my lawnmower anytime (thebingo), Monday, 15 August 2011 13:04 (thirteen years ago) link

I'm trying to pick out a sperm donor at the moment, and it's really shit. ..... They give you very little info at the London Sperm Bank, more with some of the donors at the Danish one (Cryos dk) but in the context of this thread it's shit b/c it makes me really angry with my ex that I'm having to do this.

I might start another thread about the donor insemination thing.

One of my friends has been going through this for years and I have to say there may not be a field of medicine where there's so much conflicting information floating around. "Expert" physicians are often experts at only one or two aspects of infertility; books about it rarely run through all the choices (medical, legal, financial, and emotional) and so many decisions have to be made quickly to fit preordained time schedules. It's worse in the US since your health insurance (if you have any at all) rarely covers all but the most basic procedures and testing. My friend went through 2 rounds of IVF which were expensive and later learned to be irrelevant since further testing showed it was likely a male factor issue. Then they tried a newer, more expensive and invasive procedure, not ZIFT or GIFT but some other four-letter acronym I can't recall; they basically extract a single sperm and fertilise the egg in the lab, then insert. This has a high rate of success, but it didn't take, and was the most expensive procedure of all. Several years and life savings washed away and still no baby. It's at that point they decided to go the donor route. Even that presents all sorts of choices, and again, this couple went through seemingly all of them before settling on a mutual friend to be a donor. This, she says, was the most emotionally wrenching aspect of the whole ordeal - how do you tactfully ask a longtime friend if he'd be willing to be your sperm donor? Months went by before she worked up the courage to ask. While this was at least free, and means the baby's biological dad won't be a stranger, it's not as effective as what the sperm banks use, since they dispose all but the top 5% of sperm with best motility and such. Anyway, 3 months of this and still no pregnancy.

This must be excruciating....

Lee626, Monday, 15 August 2011 14:21 (thirteen years ago) link

Oh and she told me she sent that text to me to see my reaction.

holy fuck

what a manipulative bitch.

BIG HOOS aka the steendriver, Monday, 15 August 2011 15:17 (thirteen years ago) link

I am so relieved to be out of that toxic woman's reach. I can finally be myself.

Cindy Mancini can ride my lawnmower anytime (thebingo), Monday, 15 August 2011 15:57 (thirteen years ago) link

Do you ever get in the car, turn up your music and just drive around going "WOOOOO!" and launching down the entrance ramp to the freeway? I think I spent a while doing that after getting out of a shitastic relationship. Recommend it.

mh, Monday, 15 August 2011 16:23 (thirteen years ago) link

YES

BIG HOOS aka the steendriver, Monday, 15 August 2011 16:28 (thirteen years ago) link

xxposts: Chris, dude...that whole text thing. WTF. I hope you're not getting tired of me saying "I'm sorry" :/

Janet Snakehole (VegemiteGrrl), Monday, 15 August 2011 16:31 (thirteen years ago) link

nah im cool with the sorrys. She is nuts. I just finally started to listen to some music again today, i made a "I gave her my heart, she gave me a pen" spotify playlist and its helping. Im also glad that her and I are back at our respective jobs. stops her from pestering me.

Cindy Mancini can ride my lawnmower anytime (thebingo), Monday, 15 August 2011 16:40 (thirteen years ago) link

I'm sorry Chris. I'm glad you've got that practical / distance thing going on. It does sound like it had gotten toxic. Here's to a happy future for you and your kid.

Also unknown as Zora (Surfing At Work), Monday, 15 August 2011 22:11 (thirteen years ago) link

I might start another thread about the donor insemination thing.

― Also unknown as Zora (Surfing At Work), Sunday, August 14, 2011 9:40 PM (Yesterday) Bookmark

would bookmark

 (gr8080), Monday, 15 August 2011 23:39 (thirteen years ago) link

vaguely considered (not really) a poll of potential ilx0r donors

but is the world ready for a pi-reciting small child?

mookieproof, Monday, 15 August 2011 23:49 (thirteen years ago) link

pi-reviewing more likely tbh

10/11 of a dead jesus (darraghmac), Monday, 15 August 2011 23:53 (thirteen years ago) link

And pie-bringing.

it's not that print journalists don't have a sense of humour, it's just (Laurel), Monday, 15 August 2011 23:53 (thirteen years ago) link

^^^i am the world is def. ready for this

mookieproof, Monday, 15 August 2011 23:57 (thirteen years ago) link

Oh and she told me she sent that text to me to see my reaction.

This still sounds like backpedalling to me, tbh (as in, yr initial reading was the correct one). Either way, yuck.

Rameses Street (Trayce), Tuesday, 16 August 2011 00:00 (thirteen years ago) link

Yeah neither option really restores yr faith in humanity. Bummertown usa.

Janet Snakehole (VegemiteGrrl), Tuesday, 16 August 2011 02:39 (thirteen years ago) link

Single friend from work just told me she is getting her eggs harvested this week. In the US the process seems to be faster than in the UK. Her chances are slim due to some physical problems, but she's giving it a go.

ljubljana, Tuesday, 16 August 2011 02:43 (thirteen years ago) link

well i got word from a friend of hers that she did send that text to me to gauge a reaction from me in order to have something to use against me in court in case it got ugly. since i have some crap on her....she is crazy

Cindy Mancini can ride my lawnmower anytime (thebingo), Tuesday, 16 August 2011 13:21 (thirteen years ago) link

what drama! is this a lifetime movie? who does stuff like that?!

it was pleasant and delightful, just like (La Lechera), Tuesday, 16 August 2011 13:23 (thirteen years ago) link

someone who is fucking nuts.

Cindy Mancini can ride my lawnmower anytime (thebingo), Tuesday, 16 August 2011 13:32 (thirteen years ago) link

Im also concerned she is mentally ill again.

Cindy Mancini can ride my lawnmower anytime (thebingo), Tuesday, 16 August 2011 13:32 (thirteen years ago) link

^^^

I'm sorry you are met with such insane and hurtful actions, bingo. All the best.

xp

I for one am (Le Bateau Ivre), Tuesday, 16 August 2011 13:33 (thirteen years ago) link

Oh, sorry for using the word "insane" in that context :-/ It was an x-post.

I for one am (Le Bateau Ivre), Tuesday, 16 August 2011 13:33 (thirteen years ago) link

its ok! three years ago her doctor told her she is possibly bi-polar....i think she is in a manic phase right now.

Cindy Mancini can ride my lawnmower anytime (thebingo), Tuesday, 16 August 2011 13:34 (thirteen years ago) link

Oh jeez. I mean, the context at least helps it make a *little* more sense but using it against you in court, and she's maybe bipolar? Unf. Holy shit dude. More hugs. And sorrys. And <3

Janet Snakehole (VegemiteGrrl), Wednesday, 17 August 2011 06:42 (thirteen years ago) link

Ach, Chris :( I really hope you guys dont end up in a mess *hugs*

Rameses Street (Trayce), Wednesday, 17 August 2011 06:47 (thirteen years ago) link


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