thread to get over a breakup

someone who is fucking nuts.

Im also concerned she is mentally ill again.

^^^

I'm sorry you are met with such insane and hurtful actions, bingo. All the best.

xp

Oh, sorry for using the word "insane" in that context :-/ It was an x-post.

its ok! three years ago her doctor told her she is possibly bi-polar....i think she is in a manic phase right now.

Oh jeez. I mean, the context at least helps it make a *little* more sense but using it against you in court, and she's maybe bipolar? Unf. Holy shit dude. More hugs. And sorrys. And <3

Ach, Chris :( I really hope you guys dont end up in a mess *hugs*

hi guys i just broke up with someone :-\

bingo, my wife's certifiably bipolar* and those manic phases are real doozies and she loves me to death. The thought of having to go through that with someone who actively wished you ill...well, it's frightening the amount of harm I imagine she'd be capable of. I'm sorry. Hang in there.

You hang in there too, gr8080.

It's ok, gr80. There are many fish in the sea, perhaps some on ilx!

* adds gr8080 and "tuomas tuomas" to possible love connections list

<3 <3 <3 gr880

gr8080, rather

broke up with someone i wasn't in a relationship with. that is always fun.

feeling u, sir. <3

so i had to have her section 12 yesterday afternoon, she left work and was waiting in front of a church (it was her b-day) for Jake Ryan. I AM TOTALLY SERIOUS. Called the police and they went and transported her to the hospital. Needless to say, i dont need this right now and her parents are dealing with her. I have my son and we are doing great. I searched high and low last night to find a reason to get back with her and i found none. But i will give her all the time she needs to get well and then move on with our mess. But for now, im staying out of it.

kkvgz, she has done enough harm to me over the past three years like i said, i am through.

she left work and was waiting in front of a church (it was her b-day) for Jake Ryan. I AM TOTALLY SERIOUS

O_O

Was she wearing a bridesmaid's dress? Wait - she really thought he was coming?

good god.

Yeah, uh, stay away if you can and give her some time to get mentally on-track and then cordially deal with it the best you can.

what

broke up with someone i wasn't in a relationship with. that is always fun.

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Erica she had been calling herself Sam all day. And she still thinks he's coming.

Holy shit.

:[ That's just . . . damn.

I'm so sorry you're going through all this but really glad you get to focus on your son right now.

Sounds like she's taking a break from reality. Hope she feels better soon and with some care/medication.

Meanwhile, you might see what can be done about amending that custody agreement?

too weird

(hi gr8080)

Oh Chris. Jesus.

oh yeah, i will get full custody. she has been calling me nonstop from the hospital too.

sorry you're going through this man

thanks guys. if she calls me one more time and tells me to contact her ex-boyfriend from 20 years ago, im gonna scream at her.

Maybe you should try to get the hospital to cut off her phone access or, at least, block off your number. I'm bipolar too, but not as seriously affected as she is, thank God. I'm really, really that you and your son have to go through this.

(And here's my sympathies for you, too, GR8080.)

maybe stop answering?

The number comes up as blocked. as does my mothers and my bosses...i told them to leave a message and i'll call back. I called the hospital and asked to make sure she does not call me and they refused.

God forbid that they be helpful in any way. Especially in her condition. Jesus. Are you just raaaghh hulk smash? I mean, how are you faring?

im holding up really well. i mean i know she is ill and take all her delusions with a grain of salt and laugh about them afterwards. This morning she called and was waiting for her twin.

do you have any legal obligation to help her?

to be fair i dont think you're allowed to forbid patients phone calls

it took me a while to process these latest developments, so i cannot imagine how you are dealing with this, chris

best of luck to you

Zero obligation to help her. I haven't even seen her and will not.

Do you have a decent rapport with her parents?

Yes very much so.

well she is out of the psych ward and feeling better. whew. of course she is all sweet to me. too bad girl.

how long does it take to get over a breakup if it's been two years and you're still not really over it?

i never really get over a breakup until i meet someone else who has the potential to fill the hole the other person left.

fnarr

get lots of pets and pet them a lot.

I would say...if it's been two years, The braek-up grief has become a stand-in for something else.

damn, i almost forgot we had our break-ups at the same time.

I would say...if it's been two years, The braek-up grief has become a stand-in for something else.

i'd second this... the worst and most hauntng break-up i ever had was around the time my dad died, and i can't help but think my inability to get over the latter aggravated my inability to get over the former, and that in my head the two blurred into each other, and my extended period of mourning the break-up was my way of dealing with having to mourn the much greater loss of my dad.

^^^^^^^^

well the break-up grief has always been partially a stand-in for my anxieties about myself + my personal issues that led to the breakup but I figured that was a given