thread to get over a breakup

I will add to the "ZS u mad if u think no one likes skinny wan boys" chorus. But, I just get called a creep when I say anything?

Try being my age, no ones interested anymore, tk u gdnite.

i'll have a fight with the fists of anyone who's calling you creep, trayce

just with the fists tho

goddammit, i have no idea how i got into this but somehow i'm looking at a ton of old photobooth pictures

this is fucking terrible

http://i161.photobucket.com/albums/t214/ZachRScott/picture3small.jpg

how not to get over a breakup

more evil guide dog!!!

yeah, maybe i'll go home and make evil guide dog come in and poop in my mouth in that picture or something

Now I don't know if I'll get over ZS' breakup.

i know, jeez

oh, there's so much more where that came from

it's like an instant kit to send yourself into a bender

Hahah fight with the fists. <3 btw I think evil guide dog is like, the best thing ever, better than Bender steering with his ass.

You can torture yourself with photos if you really want to. But one of these days you just have to make a choice not to look at them any more. The pain stops feeling good after a while? Or even fulfilling in a masochistic way? It just starts to be really BORING, and takes days to get out of. You can compress the recovery process a little bit with practice, but do you really want to get it from 4 days to 2 days but still be FUCKING MISERABLE for 2 days every time you go look at their fb or crack a photo album?

ehh idk man. i check in and look at what an ex is doing on facebook, &, not to give the impression that i would otherwise be turning up at their window or making breathy nuisance calls, think it's probably not a terrible solution if you're trying to minimise contact, which i think generally people deem necessary or appropriate, while still dealing with the fact that you're attached to someone & invested in their life. i have these adorable screengrabs of me & someone skyping, which are like - okay maybe not at the the actual visual epitome of romance level of z s' photobooth snaps - but which totally summarise us & that time and a place, & i think part of what you get in looking at them is a distance from the people in them. how could you not? and it's not as literal as that, that it helps you move on - MY HAIR WAS LONGER THEN, NOW I AM A CHANGED MAN - but that shit is relics, & you probably get used to understanding them as such. i don't think they should nec be in your OFF LIMITS zone anyway.

so much of "if we were together" is so speculative as to be nonsensical - we would be so happy! presents a v specific imagined course of events - that it doesn't hurt to know people are in a different place and things have changed. not that i am above archeologising past relationships & piecing together their fragments but it doesn't seem as convincing as some of the other elements of having broken up with someone that are hard to deal with.

I look at old photos the same way most people look at the Hindenberg disaster. Must have been pretty emotional at the time, but give it a few years and you have the ability to look at it as clip art.

sometimes a pony is emotional

Unless your girlfriend died on that burning dirigible, then I guess not. nevermind.

xp

would be way easier if i was pissed at her and could draw devil horns and vampire teeth all over the pictures

'emotional clip art' is david berman good

hi bell labs!

Now I don't know if I'll get over ZS' breakup.

― pplains, Wednesday, October 26, 2011 11:19 PM (Yesterday) Bookmark

^^ otm.

I think the 'torturing yourself with photos' as Laurel calls it is not a bad thing per se, it's all part of "getting over a break up" too. Bouncing from feeling ridiculously confident to ridiculously sentimental and melancholy, and all of the many shades in between. Solely speaking for myself here, but going through those numbing highs and torturing lows were necessary to come to terms with things. And it was me even that ended the relationship at the time; but easy, it was not. Not in the least.

I therefore totally relate to you Zach, feeling like it would be easier if you were pissed at her and could justifiably think she was the devil. But sometimes it doesn't play out that way, and reasons in hindsight seem to lie in annoyingly small details and nuances that all add up, in "this just isn't working anymore, fuck, sadly" instead of "she's Satan! gtfo!".

Grant yourself the time to go through those highs and lows. You'll notice soon enough if you either want to go "on the rebound" for the sake of it, or withdraw from anything that even remotely touches on intimacy. Point is: it's all good. After a break up, bad and good experiences will equally help you to get through it. So don't be afraid to screw up now. You can't.

I wish I were still super skinny & sickly and not just sickly

So don't be afraid to screw up now. You can't.

I intend to fully test this assumption, in the name of science.

But for real, that seems like sound advice. And I do like the idea that things could go a number if ways in the next several months, but even the relatively negative experiences are still useful in a way.

LBI otm. Schlump otm. ZS, from WDYLL evidence I have always though you are an attractive dude. There, now it's going to be awkward at the next DC fap (only not really as I am nearly 40)

Z S you are cuet as hell and I dont even have a skinny boy fetish. Were I a passing lady on the street I would turn my head.

Hopefully that gives you intended warm & fuzzy, not ugh crepey gtfo.

Jeez, you all are waaay too kind. But thanks all the same. I owe everyone many fancy beers at the next fap.

(speaking of, we should get on that!)

nominate galway

Z S if i saw u on the street i would turn my head and be like "hey, that's that guy from the internet"

then i would wonder why you hadn't emailed me if you were visiting munich

Funny after reading this thread I get a Facebook ad with my ex-girldfriend's profile and some dude's:

http://img510.imageshack.us/img510/6403/xxde.gif

Feel like if I ever ran into Damien Echols, he'd be all "Hey, man. You and ________ still together?" and I'd be all, "D. Oh, sit down and let me tell you what happened..."

yeah...after we broke up, she removed me as a facebook friend. it was a good move, probably, because i had been trolling her page looking for evidence of the other person. and when she saw the picture of me and the tar sands protest girl she flipped out.

but now, every time i go onto facebook it's like "YOU SHOULD BE FRIENDS WITH YOUR EX-GIRLFRIEND! 100 MUTUAL FRIENDS"

fuck

er... is that the West Memphis 3 Damien Echols?!

Yeah. Small world.

> but now, every time i go onto facebook it's like "YOU SHOULD BE FRIENDS WITH YOUR EX-GIRLFRIEND! 100 MUTUAL FRIENDS

^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^

Facebook seems so oblivious to real-life relationships sometimes. I mean, can't its silicon brain wrap its head around the notion that I may not want to meet all of my ex's 58 new friends?

Uhhhh

Curtis is dreamy
and so is Z/S

what gives?

Actually I am dreamy, too, what gives there?
WHY?

WHY??????

ha, that kind of didn't pan out. we're actually friends now, which is cool (i helped her work on a tar sands presentation that she gave last night in Alexandra, actually), but i quickly realized that the conversation was never going to expand beyond environmental issues and activism. i love to talk about that, but i also love to talk about many, many other things. and in our time together we've spent about 99.5% of the time talking about enviro stuff (other 0.5% was like "where is the bathroom?")

― whooooaaaaa! (Z S), Wednesday, October 26, 2011 1:40 PM (Yesterday) Bookmark

haha yeah this is tough. how do you move on from talking shop? "yeah, tar sands are bad. but do you know what's not bad? THE PIXIES. do you like the pixies?"

"..."

tar sands suck, how you likin those bears this year? Uh, no, i meant the football team. Never mind

Something must be done about big oil. But let's get down to brass tacks. Aren't tapas amazing?

Seriously! I have no idea how to cross the divide. All I really want to know is if, say, she would enjoy watching The Room or if she wouldn't "get it"

It's a fact that someone finding ZS attractive is not an anomaly but perfectly natural. This fact is such common knowledge that you would not have to cite it in a reference paper!!!

^^, i think if there is a real problem it is the tommy wiseau litmus test you expose your suitors to

jeez, abbbottthttp://i44.tinypic.com/mb5q3p.png

it's not a tommy wiseau litmus test...i mean, it be cool if they watched it and didn't like it. it's more like "are you willing to even try" to watch this thing

what if they watched it and they couldn't get over how well Wiseau channels the passion of Tennessee Williams

Seriously! I have no idea how to cross the divide. All I really want to know is if, say, she would enjoy watching The Room or if she wouldn't "get it"

Geez dude, *I* would go out with you in a second, just for this.

get the room

ha

lol

get me room

Double lol