thread to get over a breakup

would be way easier if i was pissed at her and could draw devil horns and vampire teeth all over the pictures

'emotional clip art' is david berman good

hi bell labs!

Now I don't know if I'll get over ZS' breakup.

― pplains, Wednesday, October 26, 2011 11:19 PM (Yesterday) Bookmark

^^ otm.

I think the 'torturing yourself with photos' as Laurel calls it is not a bad thing per se, it's all part of "getting over a break up" too. Bouncing from feeling ridiculously confident to ridiculously sentimental and melancholy, and all of the many shades in between. Solely speaking for myself here, but going through those numbing highs and torturing lows were necessary to come to terms with things. And it was me even that ended the relationship at the time; but easy, it was not. Not in the least.

I therefore totally relate to you Zach, feeling like it would be easier if you were pissed at her and could justifiably think she was the devil. But sometimes it doesn't play out that way, and reasons in hindsight seem to lie in annoyingly small details and nuances that all add up, in "this just isn't working anymore, fuck, sadly" instead of "she's Satan! gtfo!".

Grant yourself the time to go through those highs and lows. You'll notice soon enough if you either want to go "on the rebound" for the sake of it, or withdraw from anything that even remotely touches on intimacy. Point is: it's all good. After a break up, bad and good experiences will equally help you to get through it. So don't be afraid to screw up now. You can't.

I wish I were still super skinny & sickly and not just sickly

So don't be afraid to screw up now. You can't.

I intend to fully test this assumption, in the name of science.

But for real, that seems like sound advice. And I do like the idea that things could go a number if ways in the next several months, but even the relatively negative experiences are still useful in a way.

LBI otm. Schlump otm. ZS, from WDYLL evidence I have always though you are an attractive dude. There, now it's going to be awkward at the next DC fap (only not really as I am nearly 40)

Z S you are cuet as hell and I dont even have a skinny boy fetish. Were I a passing lady on the street I would turn my head.

Hopefully that gives you intended warm & fuzzy, not ugh crepey gtfo.

Jeez, you all are waaay too kind. But thanks all the same. I owe everyone many fancy beers at the next fap.

(speaking of, we should get on that!)

nominate galway

Z S if i saw u on the street i would turn my head and be like "hey, that's that guy from the internet"

then i would wonder why you hadn't emailed me if you were visiting munich

Funny after reading this thread I get a Facebook ad with my ex-girldfriend's profile and some dude's:

http://img510.imageshack.us/img510/6403/xxde.gif

Feel like if I ever ran into Damien Echols, he'd be all "Hey, man. You and ________ still together?" and I'd be all, "D. Oh, sit down and let me tell you what happened..."

yeah...after we broke up, she removed me as a facebook friend. it was a good move, probably, because i had been trolling her page looking for evidence of the other person. and when she saw the picture of me and the tar sands protest girl she flipped out.

but now, every time i go onto facebook it's like "YOU SHOULD BE FRIENDS WITH YOUR EX-GIRLFRIEND! 100 MUTUAL FRIENDS"

fuck

er... is that the West Memphis 3 Damien Echols?!

Yeah. Small world.

> but now, every time i go onto facebook it's like "YOU SHOULD BE FRIENDS WITH YOUR EX-GIRLFRIEND! 100 MUTUAL FRIENDS

^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^

Facebook seems so oblivious to real-life relationships sometimes. I mean, can't its silicon brain wrap its head around the notion that I may not want to meet all of my ex's 58 new friends?

Uhhhh

Curtis is dreamy
and so is Z/S

what gives?

Actually I am dreamy, too, what gives there?
WHY?

WHY??????

ha, that kind of didn't pan out. we're actually friends now, which is cool (i helped her work on a tar sands presentation that she gave last night in Alexandra, actually), but i quickly realized that the conversation was never going to expand beyond environmental issues and activism. i love to talk about that, but i also love to talk about many, many other things. and in our time together we've spent about 99.5% of the time talking about enviro stuff (other 0.5% was like "where is the bathroom?")

― whooooaaaaa! (Z S), Wednesday, October 26, 2011 1:40 PM (Yesterday) Bookmark

haha yeah this is tough. how do you move on from talking shop? "yeah, tar sands are bad. but do you know what's not bad? THE PIXIES. do you like the pixies?"

"..."

tar sands suck, how you likin those bears this year? Uh, no, i meant the football team. Never mind

Something must be done about big oil. But let's get down to brass tacks. Aren't tapas amazing?

Seriously! I have no idea how to cross the divide. All I really want to know is if, say, she would enjoy watching The Room or if she wouldn't "get it"

It's a fact that someone finding ZS attractive is not an anomaly but perfectly natural. This fact is such common knowledge that you would not have to cite it in a reference paper!!!

^^, i think if there is a real problem it is the tommy wiseau litmus test you expose your suitors to

jeez, abbbottthttp://i44.tinypic.com/mb5q3p.png

it's not a tommy wiseau litmus test...i mean, it be cool if they watched it and didn't like it. it's more like "are you willing to even try" to watch this thing

what if they watched it and they couldn't get over how well Wiseau channels the passion of Tennessee Williams

Seriously! I have no idea how to cross the divide. All I really want to know is if, say, she would enjoy watching The Room or if she wouldn't "get it"

Geez dude, *I* would go out with you in a second, just for this.

get the room

ha

lol

get me room

Double lol

lol

lol amirite

I may see if I Tommy Wiseau is available for personal life coaching

Grant yourself the time to go through those highs and lows.

this totally otm

I get the tommy exposure litmus test tho - I tried to foist tim and eric on the guy i'm seeing and he wouldnt have a bar of it, he hated it :( I darent even TRY The Room. Blarhh :(

And yet he thinks collegehumor.com and MadTV are hilarious wtf >:|

a bar I was in the other night was playing The Room on repeat, was the bar flirting w/ me y/n?

i been holding this off but guys everything is hell and i need somebody to chuckle a shoulder; nothing left of me but rancour :(

no idea how to 'chuckle a shoulder' (butchering term?) but blue saturday thread is open until i fall asleep fyi

*shoulder chuckle*
*big squishy hug*

I'm sorry NV...

thanks peeps...i never wanted to be that bloke who staggers into yr table but...this table is private, anyway. sorry. had to blub at somebody, i think

wwmmcd

if you gotta offload, this here is the place to do it <3

Oh shit, NV. Blub away, dude. Sorry to hear you're going through shit.

aw, really sorry nv :(

thanks everybody. at least for one in my life i can say "too old for this shit" with a straight face :\

NV you are a dude and I wish the best for you

Me too.