thread to get over a breakup

what if they watched it and they couldn't get over how well Wiseau channels the passion of Tennessee Williams

Seriously! I have no idea how to cross the divide. All I really want to know is if, say, she would enjoy watching The Room or if she wouldn't "get it"

Geez dude, *I* would go out with you in a second, just for this.

get the room

ha

lol

get me room

Double lol

lol

lol amirite

I may see if I Tommy Wiseau is available for personal life coaching

Grant yourself the time to go through those highs and lows.

this totally otm

I get the tommy exposure litmus test tho - I tried to foist tim and eric on the guy i'm seeing and he wouldnt have a bar of it, he hated it :( I darent even TRY The Room. Blarhh :(

And yet he thinks collegehumor.com and MadTV are hilarious wtf >:|

a bar I was in the other night was playing The Room on repeat, was the bar flirting w/ me y/n?

i been holding this off but guys everything is hell and i need somebody to chuckle a shoulder; nothing left of me but rancour :(

no idea how to 'chuckle a shoulder' (butchering term?) but blue saturday thread is open until i fall asleep fyi

*shoulder chuckle*
*big squishy hug*

I'm sorry NV...

thanks peeps...i never wanted to be that bloke who staggers into yr table but...this table is private, anyway. sorry. had to blub at somebody, i think

wwmmcd

if you gotta offload, this here is the place to do it <3

Oh shit, NV. Blub away, dude. Sorry to hear you're going through shit.

aw, really sorry nv :(

thanks everybody. at least for one in my life i can say "too old for this shit" with a straight face :\

NV you are a dude and I wish the best for you

Me too.

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Solidarity w/ NV.this is the worst

Ah man, NV, so sorry, wishing you the very best <3

NV!!

no idea what to say except:

from where i sit you are all i want to be when i have kids-- hope there's a light at the end of the tunnel for you, mate.

know that this retarded message board loves you and is here for you.

really sorry to read this, NV.

Sorry you're going through this, NV. Hang in there.

<3 nv

thanks again. :)

shit is really weird. me and mrs v have talked about stuff and yelled about stuff and talked again etc. i don't think i want us to be over, but she's right that over the last few years something has died between us. i don't know if i'm avoiding the inevitable cos of fear or laziness or if we really are beyond repair, or if i want us to be repaired if i'm honest. so we go a week or two not doing anything about this but we come back to she thinks i shd go, and if that's the only way for her to be happy then deep down i know it has to happen.

we're both all about planning to keep the kids at the front of this - i'm not afraid they're gonna run away and leave me, but even living down the street will be me missing my home, my family. i've been an absent dad once, and not made such a great job of it, and i've learned from that but i know how much it kills too. and these are probably not reasons to stay together either, in the end.

never felt so middle-aged and doomed to loneliness tbh :| but will get thru because i have dependents and while they're still dependent they're more important than me. gonna sit down and talk out some concrete plans tonight, i hope. the perpetual hanging on that we're in now isn't doing anybody any good. but it always feels easier to sit tight and cross fingers and hope for something to change, no matter how impossible that is.

Have you tried couples counselling? It might well be the case that it really is over, but it could still be good to gain an understanding of the situation within a structured environment even if that is so.

feeling for you here

oh NV, I'm so sorry.

So sorry to hear this. I know sod all about long term relationships but I think emil.y might be otm.

we've batted the idea back and forth, it has pros and cons i think.

Is it more that she has her mind kinda made up?

(just parsing that from what you said upthread)

I truly feel for you NV, and hope you can get through this, whatever is best, however it pans out. Big hug.

xp

i think so, and is too kind to be vehement about it, or is going thru the same kind of mixed emotions as me.

thoughts with you, obv

The thing with counselling is that if there are deep-seated ill feelings, hearing those as a partner can be..well, kinda soul crushing. Don't get me wrong; I think counselling is a good idea in general, but for long-term relationships it can be heartbreaking. At least from what I have seen.

yeah i think subconsciously i'm feeling that, and i was pretty pro counselling originally.

from your persona here NV you're a heavy drinker---is this part of what's going on? cos if so then I'm guessing this is gonna be brutal.

Gonna give u another hug now, NV. Fyi.

i'm not half as heavy a drinker as i used to be, and tbh this whole situation is making me less inclined to drink, so hey there's that ;)

i don't think i want us to be over, but she's right that over the last few years something has died between us.

So sorry, NV. same kinda thing happened to me recently, and the whole thing is just emotionally wrecking.

It gets better, guys! It really does. I think I was somewhat spared in my last (major) breakup in that while there was a lot of love, there was a lot of bile and hurt feelings that a break really solved. When it's just a matter of a disconnect or things not clicking anymore, there's more of a tendency to play "what if." The best thing to remember is that sometimes, all the scenarios that could play out really already have.