thread to get over a breakup

over-reliance on cuddle-cats is the scourge of once-great nations

and still great women

my own nation has nearly fallen

I lolled at the imaginary cat, had to explain to my dad, who objected to being mentioned on the internet, then suggested we could share a sofa when watching telly. Then got huffy when I demurred. Dad could not be more innocent, I feel bad for hurting his feelings, but ffs, I am not going to start cuddling up with my father, I am not 6, it would just be wrong.

i guess it was a stupid idea, but i've been missing N really badly these last couple of weeks, so tonight when i was over to look after the kids i asked if she wanted to go out some time, low-key, just see how it felt. i guess i need the information that we're over under-lining a lot before it'll sink in. feel like a bit of a dick, tbh. a broken-hearted dick.

(hug)

how did she respond, N?

you are not a dick

<3

she was just sad cos she knew it must have taken me some courage to ask and she knew it wasn't the right thing for her. i guess when i first moved out we never hammered out in 6 foot high letters that this was over, forever, and i'm still at a stage where i'm finding it hard to believe that it is. cut up as i am tho, i think i needed to ask and just be told that we're done. again. we parted on good terms. i think probably because we're getting on better now is giving me false hope too.

i think i needed to ask and just be told that we're done

yes, ime

i think probably because we're getting on better now is giving me false hope too.

can happen, ime

indeed

i have been mad weepy the last few days, who knew shit wouldn't just be an endless blissful stroll in the direction of self-improvement?

now i know you don't mean that

no i think i naively thought "each day will make this a little easier", not "i will be okay for a week or two and then i'll go to bits again, repeat ad nauseam"

mookie otm, you're not a dick.

sometimes in yr mind you create a story that has no way of playing out irl, and a reminder of that, while painful and awkward, is part of the slow process of letting go. and ime it's a good sign that you see the reality even if you try anyway, that you know you're seeking that 'underlining'.

It will take a long time N, you're only human.

<3

it's been over a year for me and yet i still possess this new-found talent of more or less being able to cry on command. i should become an actor tbh

'underlining' sneaks up on you, but not over a couple of weeks ime.

thanks guys. it's venting here or running back out to the off licence in the cold, and that doesn't seem to be helping :D

how late is the off license open?

this is something i take into account in my day-to-day life

run quicker, at least you're 'working out' that way

nah i was joking.

midnight.

srsly tho me and that are done, it's lost its erasive properties.

just looking at a pic of me when i was running, it is not an advert for it as a health augmenter

hey typing it out like this has actually made me unweepy anyway.

i keep saying that, but it keeps pulling me back in

one last job, then i'm done

I wd have medicinal beers with brokenhearted ilxors, fyi

unrelated note, saw my 7-yr ex in a red bmw convertible yesterday, she looked good

man am i glad i'm moving outta this fuckin town

omg i lost track are u actually moving to dub?

when do u move dmac?

apr 1st, make the jokes yrself

i pity the fool

noodles you will look back on this day as a v important day

i do sort of believe that, a bit

is the road to dublin rocky, y/n

gr080 otm

darragh you shd play the theme to Midnight Cowboy in the car as you arrive in dub, dressing like Jon Voight in same movie optional

NOT OPTIONAL. MANDATORY

who will play ratso

i have not seen this movie except in parts, sweaty parts with voight and an aul wan that boded ill for the rest of it

i do have a brother that could play a ginger ratso type tho

no i think i naively thought "each day will make this a little easier", not "i will be okay for a week or two and then i'll go to bits again, repeat ad nauseam"

i was pretty sure the latter would be the case, and that didn't make it any more pleasant.

if it makes you feel any better, the week or two will eventually become a month or two

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"Faith and begorrah, I'm walking heerrrrr, I'm walking heerrrr."

when i, or indeed anyone i know irl, say 'begorrah', it is- and i mean 100%- imitating a non-hibernian

Playin' to the (US) crowd.

how can i argue with that the week of paddy's day

begorrah and faith, base your european hq's here please

Bringing a lilting brogue to your impersonal call-centres!

Rasto was based off Dustin the Turkey IIRC.

Ratso, even.

I misread that as
Rasto was basted off Dustin the Turkey IIRC.

she was just sad cos she knew it must have taken me some courage to ask and she knew it wasn't the right thing for her.

Just this line alone seems so insightful and true that I feel like you're ahead of 80% of humans already, NV. I've got nothing but respect for you.