thread to get over a breakup

bah - that's dumb

potential advertising slogan: 'get blown in bed'

that would piss me off.

listen nobody say anything else about their fucking sheets because I swear to God if I have to hear Grady complain to me about derailing this thread once more off board I'm going to start stabbing myself with a pencil or something

what if we knew who he was complaining to and are perpetuating this for just that reason? :)

Then you're all just assholes.

Anyway, the kibosh, I am putting it on that topic for my own sanity and personal safety. I thank you for your cooperation.

but! the sheets! we have to discuss...the tucking, and the things of that nature!

;_;

lets talk about spicy food now- who likes it? i cant really take anything spicier than tabasco, myself.

xxp Or you could tell him to stop whining to you. Just saying.

I think the thing I find most amusing about complaining about this thread being derailed is that, unless you are wanting to use it for its original purpose, essentially what you're saying is "SHUT UP AND BE MORE MISERABLE, ILXORS".

Oh, he's just doing it on purpose because I'm easy to rile up and he knows it. I'm not actually mad. I told him to can it though, don't worry.

i am resisting posting any of insights i gained when i went to bed last night

hot sauce pretty good way to get over a breakup really, replaces emotional pain with physical stimulation. don't put it near the genitals, though

i dreamt that you and i still lived together and you had invited your mom and grandparents to stay with us without telling me

you were passive aggressive as usual

so glad you are more-or-less out of my life!

We were supposed to be back together
and going to Barcelona next month to celebrate
I sent you a link to a nice little rental
You didn't answer
That was Saturday
you git

I pity the fool who has to flop around like a fish on land ALL NIGHT.

this is a very apt description of me! anyone know how I can train myself out of it? srs.

this is on-topic because it may lead to my next breakup, or something

also, Zora :(

yeah Z that rlly sucks

Is this Goblin Boy? Dude is seriously just not worth your time any more. This is a recurrent theme with him, the whole "can't make time for simplest of relationship things" thing. Curb, kick. Douche.

x2 on last few posts. Also yes, as much as I like beds and bedding, let's not drift off-topic. This may well be the most important thread on all of ILX....

so to sum up

the best way to get over a breakup is to spend an inordinate amount of time talking about personal peccadilloes and annoyances online, preferably ilx

can't think of a better way atm

not to be mean, VG, but you on this thread is like when Helena Bonham Carter's character in Fight Club insists on going to the testicular cancer support group.

awesome thanks

jesus christ

don't say 'not to be mean', just say what you want to say because it inevitably feels mean and now I'm embarrassed thanks

Yeah WCC this is GB. Luckily I have too much other crap going on to waste time angsting about the enormous pile of fail that is our relationship, I actually only just realised how much time has passed since I sent the link. So... over in my heart, at last? Perhaps.

I am a non-tucker, feet-out, flip like a fish type person. I'm probably hell to share with, but I love spooning, so I will happily inflict my hot flipping self on bed-partners.

lots of people post in this thread who aren't in the midst of a break-up

no need to single out vg and be an asshole about it

sorry - she/you just kept posting about sleeping habits after everyone else stopped, it felt kinda compulsive - i dunno.

i sleep with lots of blankets when it's cold, not so many when it's hot

i don't have a breakup to get over

Matt P - you are one of my favorite posters

i can still get 'boys are jerks' drinks some time fyi

I think the non-broken hearted can be here to support the breaker-uppers, it seems fine to me, not that I even know which camp I fall into, mind.

you are one of mine too! we should get boys are jerks drinks some time xp

I think the non-broken hearted can be here to support the breaker-uppers, it seems fine to me, not that I even know which camp I fall into, mind.

well of course, it's just the long chit-chatty mundane personal habits derail that bugged me

dead horse whatever but: I was doing it as a joke bcs gr8080 was annoyed.
my sense of "humor" is deeply rooted in "5 year old banging on pots" territory so I get how it might not seem funny to anyone but me. I didn't think I was alone in doing it, but whatever.

I don't have a breakup compulsion, or a sheet compulsion. I really hate that movie though, fyi :)

I didn't think I was alone in doing it, but whatever.

no - indeed not - and for that you have my deepest apologies

no worries!

"and...scene"

*posts about a breakup*

;_;

Balls, sorry to hear that.

man, even after about 9 months after the breakup, and after several months with someone new that i really like, every so often a memory will hit me out of nowhere and it's so painful to think about. thankfully these surprise moments of agony are getting fewer and farther between, but they never really go away, do they?

no

but they become less frequent, and less intense over time

dude, 9 months is still pretty soon - esp. considering you were with your ex for what, 6 years?

in that respect i don't think 9 months is a very long time. like it isn't even 9 months, it's almost only 9 months. the way you get close to someone is preverbal & animalistic, & them not being close anymore is such a big change. & parting is just the saddest thing. so that's there. but you end up somewhere different & it's a different time, the sad time is past. still sad but maybe easier to 'consult' without trauma.

+ drake.jpg

i don't think i wanna post itt much but should just flag up that iirc sarahell posted something here once to the effect of "3-6 months is the hardest part" & this was super, savingly comforting to me - not even in the specifics, but just in contradicting the idea that one should have an incrementally, narratively easier time after a breakup

so thank you man

i think it's comforting to think that hard stuff now, or i guess maybe just right now in general, will literally always fade with time, you can basically count on it..

imagine getting over your wisdom teeth operation in 20-30 minutes, you're at 25 minutes right now which isn't so bad