thread to get over a breakup

after what we've heard, not likely!

(sorry, he sounds like an absolute weenie, good riddance for real)

"mansinthe"!

oh my god, mansinthe.

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looool i just tried to go to the mansinthe website and the google insterstitial threw up a malware warning

the weird thing was that he was SO PROUD of that bottle and showed it to me like 4 different times!! did he expect me to be impressed? no clue!

http://data.whicdn.com/images/10778565/Mansinthe_by_buildanewgod_thumb.png

o_@

I'm sure absinthe is delightful and all, but most of the people I've met who are wild about it are people I'd never want to spend more than five minutes with.

manson also recently wrote a fanfic version of johnathan franzen's novel the corrections

The Manrections

wow, he's a real rennaissance manson

It's funny how, from a certain angle, a laundry list of complaints about an ex can look like the ridiculously OTT traits of someone you would never in a million years consider dating. Ohhhhh, the things we tolerate.

i think posting all this stuff effectively got me over my breakup in record time.

I would just like to say something to you that someone said to me that was otm and it is: Girl, send that plate of shit back to the kitchen.

I'm sure absinthe is delightful and all, but most of the people I've met who are wild about it are people I'd never want to spend more than five minutes with.

― Johnny Fever, Tuesday, September 4, 2012 9:37 PM (57 minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

;_;

Are you wild about it, though? Because I've talked to you a fair amount and every other conversation isn't dotted with "this one time we had absinthe and..." or "I bought some absinthe so we could...". I'm mostly talking about people who live for the stuff or would, like, buy a Marilyn Manson brand called "Mansinthe".

Holy crap b_g, that guy sounds like a complete tosser, I'm so sorry.

Mansinthe holy shit

I mean I am trying to have breakup empathy but wtff I just leanred thre is MANSINTHE

My god it has been seven months and it is seriously not getting any better. Still in total disbelief that I let it fall apart.

It feels like I committed some awful crime while I was asleep, now someone keeps telling me what I did and I just keep thinking "What? NO. I could never let that happen."

I dwelled on a particular breakup with varying degrees of intensity and through subsequent relationships for four years. You're still in good shape, imo.

^^^ it happens sometimes and it sucks

^

went outside to get lunch and was walking behind a 40-something couple. while waiting for a light, the woman put her hand on the man's lower back and gave it a little pat/rub/caress for a few seconds. it was no big thing, maybe even kind of absent-minded.

i really miss that a lot.

So it'll have been a month this week and we are getting dinner on Friday and I feel like this is an okayish idea

My school of thought is that if they weren't a bastard, you respected them and vice versa, you always had plenty to talk about, *and* it seems an okayish idea in general, then go for it. Just be ready for possible searing pain the day after. The idea is that the next-day pain reduces with each meet-up. Last time I broke up with someone I had to leave it 3 months before meeting was an 'okayish idea', though.

I'm heading toward my one year "anniversary", and I'm still not even close to the point where I could have dinner and it would be normal. I mean, I could do it, but the hours afterward and the day after, the pain would be overwhelming.

i still miss you and even when you joke on facebook about having a crush on some random minor celebrity it still stings :(

(hug)

just learned that i am legally single again

'awesome'

That sucks dude, but it should be the last thing that sucks in that (legal) manner, right?

:(

Life, it's so full of shit. :/

I hope all sad folks in here get both joyful and contented moments, and that they increase all the time.

I'm starting to feel like I've learned how to be single. The bed doesn't feel too big any more. People holding hands in the street doesn't hurt.

thoughts to you, mookie.

thank u l

same here, love u man

(hugs) <3

I just broke up with gf and I feel awful. In summary, we'd been dating for 6 years, living together for 3 and never (ok very, very rarely) fought. We got along perfectly EXCEPT I've been having a CRUSHING anxiety when it comes to marriage and having babies. She's been incredibly patient and understanding (perhaps too much). But no matter what I do (counselling, talking to friends) the feeling doesn't go away. I convinced myself that a "break" is the only thing that might work (she's less convinced). It all happened yesterday. We are both miserable :(

sounds like you will get back together and have some babies?

daavid I'm sorry, that sounds rough.

Is being a wife and mother more important to her life plan than you? Is she resenting you for it, if not outwardly, then under the surface? Six years is a long time, and it sounds like you love each other a lot, so I hope something good comes from a break.

i'm really sorry daavid. i was in a similar situation. eventually things get better. hang in there.

Thank you all for your encouragement and support! I think I made the right (or at least the honest) decision. I've had some good long chats with friends and family and that has certainly helped. Will probably update on the situation at some point.

in the last 16 months i don't think my head's moved on at all :/

on the other hand, maybe me recognising this is the first step? i feel so fucking dense, lately. ha, lately.

Isnt it only lately that you've started to deal with yknow other stuff tho? Thats gonna bring other things back into focus

yeah don't be too hard on yeself nv

Someone told me once that things that mess you up--addictions, abuse situations, trauma--stop a person's maturation and personal growth and uh moor them right where they are? So when the person comes back from the addiction or trauma, they have to back up and start from that place again. You could probably make a case for saying that you COULDN'T move on until other steps happened.