"never been to the cinema on my own"
Wow. I know I'm pretty far over on the antisocial end of the scale but the idea of people who need company to exist in even non-social public spaces just boggles my mind.
― Moo Vaughn, Tuesday, 3 April 2018 17:51 (six years ago) link
"people who need company to exist"
can we assume that you didn't mean that to have the level of superiority it's giving off?
― bad left terf nut (Noodle Vague), Tuesday, 3 April 2018 18:06 (six years ago) link
Can I assume the same of your response?
― Moo Vaughn, Tuesday, 3 April 2018 18:13 (six years ago) link
there's no reason to assume goodwill on moo's part
― WilliamC, Tuesday, 3 April 2018 18:14 (six years ago) link
I'll admit to fp'ing right away
― niels, Tuesday, 3 April 2018 18:16 (six years ago) link
And is that the royal "we"?
― Moo Vaughn, Tuesday, 3 April 2018 18:20 (six years ago) link
tbh Moo i was trying to give you the benefit of refining a comment that seemed pretty shitty for this kind of thread but i shd've known better
― bad left terf nut (Noodle Vague), Tuesday, 3 April 2018 18:21 (six years ago) link
You should probably stick to the "you have no friends" response from the other day, which I don't think anyone FP'd.
― Moo Vaughn, Tuesday, 3 April 2018 18:21 (six years ago) link
― bad left terf nut (Noodle Vague), Tuesday, April 3, 2018 6:21 PM (eleven seconds ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink
Not supercilious in the slightest.
― Moo Vaughn, Tuesday, 3 April 2018 18:22 (six years ago) link
never mind, carry on
― bad left terf nut (Noodle Vague), Tuesday, 3 April 2018 18:23 (six years ago) link
I don't think it's about "needing" company as much as finding the act of doing these things solo a foreign thing.
― mh, Tuesday, 3 April 2018 18:25 (six years ago) link
― WilliamC, Tuesday, April 3, 2018 6:14 PM (eight minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink
Goodwill toward whom? I don't know you or anyone else posting here.
― Moo Vaughn, Tuesday, 3 April 2018 18:25 (six years ago) link
― mh, Tuesday, April 3, 2018 6:25 PM (twenty-one seconds ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink
I think finding it sufficiently foreign to avoid it is effectively the same thing. I find its foreignness foreign.
― Moo Vaughn, Tuesday, 3 April 2018 18:27 (six years ago) link
if we're not worthy of goodwill then why interact with us at all? jesus christ
― mh, Tuesday, 3 April 2018 18:28 (six years ago) link
I didn't say you were un'worthy of goodwill', nor do I perceive this forum primarily as a site of social 'interaction' in which such a concept would come into play, but rather as one for discussion of ideas. Though having just seen how small is its readership, I suppose that view may be erroneous.
― Moo Vaughn, Tuesday, 3 April 2018 18:32 (six years ago) link
I would suggest that excessively personalizing that sort of idealized discussion is in fact a fairly good description of bad faith.
― Moo Vaughn, Tuesday, 3 April 2018 18:34 (six years ago) link
I think depersonalizing any discussion, to the extent you pretend the people in it aren't distinct personalities bringing their own lives to the table, ignores how human interaction actually works
tell me how a thread with this title fits into your "idealized discussion" bullshit, because it's about a personal experience and not an idealized "how humans should deal with the end of a relationship"
― mh, Tuesday, 3 April 2018 18:37 (six years ago) link
― Moo Vaughn, Tuesday, April 3, 2018 11:25 AM (twelve minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink
you are a total cunt
― Louis Jägermeister (jim in vancouver), Tuesday, 3 April 2018 18:38 (six years ago) link
jim's got it in fewer words
― mh, Tuesday, 3 April 2018 18:39 (six years ago) link
thread for callously but efficiently workshopping ideas for getting over a breakup
― Tapes 'n Tapes of Osho (Sufjan Grafton), Tuesday, 3 April 2018 18:39 (six years ago) link
"human interaction" doesn't "actually work" via typing words on a screen in what may be a hermetic environment and seeing them appear in electronic print to be read immediately or far in the future by several dozen or hundred faceless people any of whom might choose to ignore, read, respond, or address a different topic. Or was it your assertion that a given person may effectively control the terms of the thread for an indeterminate amount of time by presenting a certain personal topic or experience?
Note that this question is reasonably rhetorical and posed as part of a bilateral conversation I did not invite, and I'll now return you to defending ghosting with "I'm not feeling it," mr. goodwill, while I attempt do more productive things for an indeterminate interim.
― Moo Vaughn, Tuesday, 3 April 2018 18:43 (six years ago) link
No, the implication was your phrasing seemed judgmental and mean to someone who found the experience of going to a movie on their own disheartening.
And that's quite the misreading of what both "ghosting" and what I actually said was!
― mh, Tuesday, 3 April 2018 18:45 (six years ago) link
― Louis Jägermeister (jim in vancouver), Tuesday, April 3, 2018 6:38 PM (four minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink
I enjoy "cunts" on occasion so I'll accept your lower-class, sexist dismissal (to the degree a widespread term among your culture, expressive of its lower-class, sexist character) with mild amusement.
― Moo Vaughn, Tuesday, 3 April 2018 18:45 (six years ago) link
^not for those presently reading. a text for the futuremen^
― Tapes 'n Tapes of Osho (Sufjan Grafton), Tuesday, 3 April 2018 18:52 (six years ago) link
― Moo Vaughn, Tuesday, April 3, 2018 11:45 AM (six minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink
one of these posts is sexist, one of them is me calling you a cunt
― Louis Jägermeister (jim in vancouver), Tuesday, 3 April 2018 18:53 (six years ago) link
you're also a cock just fyi
and an arsehole
hey moo you're a fucking idiot nerd ass loser and everyone hates you btw
― kurt schwitterz, Tuesday, 3 April 2018 18:57 (six years ago) link
ilx on the verge of dumping him again
― mh, Tuesday, 3 April 2018 18:57 (six years ago) link
thread to moo vaughn from a breakup
― BIG HOOS aka the steendriver, Tuesday, 3 April 2018 18:58 (six years ago) link
thread to breakup from moo vaughn
― sleeve, Tuesday, 3 April 2018 19:00 (six years ago) link
Once upon a time and a very good time it was there was a moovaughn coming down along the road and this moovaughn that was coming down along the road met a nicens little boy named baby tuckhoos.
― Tapes 'n Tapes of Osho (Sufjan Grafton), Tuesday, 3 April 2018 19:01 (six years ago) link
― Louis Jägermeister (jim in vancouver), Tuesday, April 3, 2018 6:53 PM (thirty-one minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink
Second thoughts then?
― Moo Vaughn, Tuesday, 3 April 2018 19:25 (six years ago) link
― sleeve, Tuesday, April 3, 2018 7:00 PM (thirty-one minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink
Something of a theme lately
― Moo Vaughn, Tuesday, 3 April 2018 19:32 (six years ago) link
Really wish this thread was on 77 tbh 🤐
― lbi's life of limitless european glamour (Le Bateau Ivre), Tuesday, 3 April 2018 19:37 (six years ago) link
Also why the fuck can't we seem to get rid of Gabnebb, jesus christ.
― lbi's life of limitless european glamour (Le Bateau Ivre), Tuesday, 3 April 2018 19:40 (six years ago) link
One of my favorite things to do is to go to the theater by myself (pre-Netlfix). But this may depend where one lives. I have gone to loads of shows by myself as well, most likely because I never want to stand in the crowd where my friends want to stand anyway so I don't mind standing by myself.
― Yerac, Tuesday, 3 April 2018 19:41 (six years ago) link
OTM about trying to set up a new routine above. I am a big advocate for finding a class that meets on the regular for something that you would like to learn and that would challenge you. Something that would require an end goal/test for you to accomplish by a a deadline and would require you to study. It makes you really focused everywhere else, if you can can commit to it.
― Yerac, Tuesday, 3 April 2018 19:45 (six years ago) link
Could we stop interacting with MV?
This is an atrociously wanky sentiment, but you never go to a movie alone, if there’s no-one else there you’re still there with the writers/director.
― Andrew Farrell, Tuesday, 3 April 2018 19:45 (six years ago) link
highly recommend going to a movie alonei still do it now and then i mean, its not like you talk to anyone anyway, even if you do go with someone(unless you are a disgusting savage)it’s very pleasant & enjoyable imo
― Squeaky Fromage (VegemiteGrrl), Tuesday, 3 April 2018 19:54 (six years ago) link
I saw a movie by myself yesterday and I was the only person in the theater
It was marvelous
― mh, Tuesday, 3 April 2018 19:54 (six years ago) link
We never got to go to movie theaters growing up, maybe once a year as a treat. So now I am like, fuck yeah!, I get to do what I want, whenever I want, by myself.
― Yerac, Tuesday, 3 April 2018 20:16 (six years ago) link
chill guys I know it's probably perfectly normal to go to the cinema alone, I just never did it because generally there'd be the occasion of someone else coming along, which is lucky for me I guess :-) thanks though everyone
― loud horn beeping jazzsplaining arse (dog latin), Tuesday, 3 April 2018 20:58 (six years ago) link
what movie were you considering?
― mh, Tuesday, 3 April 2018 21:09 (six years ago) link
https://cubecinema.com/programme/event/have-a-nice-day,9996/
― loud horn beeping jazzsplaining arse (dog latin), Tuesday, 3 April 2018 22:22 (six years ago) link
ah, a man of taste
― mh, Tuesday, 3 April 2018 23:47 (six years ago) link
I've seen 87 films in a cinema by myself in the last 12 months; in about 80 of those cases it was better than not seeing the films. dl I suggest going to some films that your ex wouldn't have gone to, or would have only gone to in order to keep you company - so the "odd" behaviour has different expectations to what coupled outings were like
― just noticed tears shaped like florida. (sic), Wednesday, 4 April 2018 10:18 (six years ago) link
think i will. there's a great arthouse cinema right nearby and if anything it would be a good exercise in going things alone
― loud horn beeping jazzsplaining arse (dog latin), Wednesday, 4 April 2018 10:21 (six years ago) link
sic what magical cinema do you live nearby that would show that many good films??
― niels, Wednesday, 4 April 2018 18:43 (six years ago) link
you really were a garbage heap weren't you. it's been four months so i've had some time to cool but you just get worse in retrospect. damn i was desperate. you played me and i played you. what a huge lesson on what not to do.
― map, Saturday, 7 April 2018 21:16 (six years ago) link