thread to get over a breakup

i'm not too surprised, his crimes list was tellingly short.

haha

then the getting back together thing might work out fine ... I've just seen too many couples that have been together for years break up and try getting back together again, and that almost always ends badly.

― well I'm married to a limping, crescent-shaped abortion (sarahel), Friday, July 17, 2009 9:36 PM (2 days ago) Bookmark

^^^^ this has been my experience.

I broke up with my first proper girlfriend, then got back together with her more than a year later (during which we'd both seen other people). We ended up staying together much longer the second time than we did the first time, maybe because during the time we weren't together we'd found out that the grass wasn't greener on the other side of the fence. Ultimately the relationship did end, but I don't regret getting back together with her, as I have many good memories of those times.

We were both in our teens when we first got together though, so I think all this was more like a "learning to be in a steady relationship" experience, and I'm sure it's quite different for older couples who break up and then get back together.

It's not that different. I think people can always get better at relationships and have the opportunity for another go around. It all depends on how much of a dumbass one or the other was because you can only erase away so much dumbass in a given time.

I think a lot of the dumbassery is contextual ... people develop patterns and habits of interaction with one another. It's difficult not to revert to previous habits and patterns.

That is insightful.

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()<---- pill of <3

dumped a dude on the sidewalk at pilot light, bad form imo

― carpathian florist (roxymuzak), Friday, July 3, 2009 5:38 AM (3 weeks ago) Bookmark Suggest Ban Permalink

Coulda done worse, I got dumped at a crowded bar once. At least you didn't run into him all drunk and unplanned and 'oh hey, btw'. In front of his friends. </bitter, lol>

me: so do you like ANY metal besides the locust cause thats all you talk about
he: of course
he: i also like manowar

Dude, a relationship does not live and die by the metal!

he made me laugh tbh

Yeah "I also like Manowar" would make me laugh, too.

how to not dwell on being lonely during times we used to spend together (i.e. sundays)

besides doing things with other friends, what about doing things that you enjoy/wanted to do that your ex wasn't into?

but i slept until 3!

1. next time dont sleep til three
2. follow ^^^ advice

no but sleeping til three was doing something she hated!

also tbh dog woke me up and we walked from 9-10 then i came back and fell asleep again

I dunno - movies the ex didn't want to see, music they weren't into, go to the store and buy ingredients and make yourself some delicious meal that requires planning or concentration.

oh ok i see

basically - do something nice for yourself that involves distracting your brain from thinking about your ex, ideally something enjoyable that you wouldn't have done when you were together.

do not recommend: getting drunk by yourself

you will not want to hang out with other people but you must

^^^ yes

Are you fucking kidding me?

Is she kidding you about what?

what the fuck

Perhaps Fairy Godmother up there just got dumped and is expressing incredulity

Yeah yeah, that might be it. Were you thinking, hoos, as I was, that fgm has a great sn?

we only dated for about a month and i broke up with her and i feel like a dick

stay strong nicka!

after a month is almost not really breaking up, no? more like calling it off. obv depends entirely on the details but that is to say, you prob needn't feel as bad as you do.

do not recommend: getting drunk by yourself

been doing this for two years now. uh

It's not good to drink by yrself if you are trying to drown yr woe and you aren't really noticing yr intake, or worse, having some kind of competition w/yrself to see if you can outdo some past drinking record. That's how I interpret the above advice, in context.

Better to cry yourself to sleep than to vomit yourself to death.

nick, don't even think abt it and instead focus on your new wot friend.

wot friend?

Captain Sensible?

doro wot friend
http://farm2.static.flickr.com/1161/704968775_5a506bde31.jpg

what on earth

ethiopian food is indeed my friend.

family naan

i love ethiopian food. injera takes some getting used to, but it's damn delicious.

so i take it we are all over our breakups

shit i need to go on an ethiopian date soon. it's been too long.

apparently even the mere mention of ethiopian food will cure you of your post-breakup malaise.

swingin addis: good for the soul

i am v proud of us