Masturbating to images/thoughts of yr partner - c or d

since many movies have tackled this 'controversial' subject, I'll ask. is it appropriate to masturbate to photos or thoughts of your loved one, or should this be relegated strictly to 'fantasy' material (ie, supermodels, the woman you saw at Food Lion last week, etc).

or should it be only to pics of Jesus

Is it appropriate?! Christ, man, get a hold of yourself

I do not have a 'partner' atm so this is purely hypothetical.

this seems like one of those things where the right, moral answer is to only fantasize about your partner (didn't Jimmy Carter once admit that he has sinned in his heart*?), but in reality that's such a weird thing and i would never expect my partner to exclusively fantasize about me and it would be kinda strange if they did.

* Matthew 5:28 I tell you that anyone who looks on a woman with lust has in his heart already committed adultery.

the other week my wife asked me if i ever fantasize about other ppl while we're having sex and tbh for me the answer is no, but i imagine that's a. more controversial and b. also very common

I will admit to doing that^, but mostly during a time where I had an enlarged spleen due to mono so the actual physical sex activity did not feel good physically* and ergo, did not cause enough pleasure to uh, finish the race. i had to tap into my mental reserves to cross the finish line.

(*I wanted to wait for it to heal like my doctor suggested but my g/f at the time clearly stated "I'm not waiting that long").

Is it appropriate?! Christ, man, get a hold of yourself

― i'm elf-ein lusophonic (imago), Sunday, August 10, 2014 6:51 PM (5 minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

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i like to masturbate to thoughts of myself riding a horse naked and wearing an american flag like a cape

(*I wanted to wait for it to heal like my doctor suggested but my g/f at the time clearly stated "I'm not waiting that long").

― Neanderthal, Sunday, August 10, 2014 1:56 PM (27 minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

that kinda sucks, how long can it take for a spleen to heal

i mean it sucks regardless o_0

without too much context, it sounds kinda abusive...

neanderthal's thing about being pressured to have sex while sick that is

We all like to masturbate to thoughts of Mordy riding a horse naked and wearing an american flag like a cape, imho.

re: the spleen thing, writing it the way I did makes it sound worse than it was. to begin, it only took me 3-4 weeks for it to heal, but at the time, I told by the docs to avoid physical activity (including sex) for like 3-4 MONTHS, cos y'know they always err on the side of caution. So that is how long she said she wouldn't wait (and can't blame her for that). But hearing her say that made me think twice about saying no when she was in the mood, too. we waited about a week after the diagnosis before she got impatient and said she'd rather risk getting mono than not have sex.

also, part of the problem is I didn't communicate well. if I told her how much it hurt she may have been more sympathetic

id really rather you didn't do this tbh

I told by the docs to avoid physical activity (including sex) for like 3-4 MONTHS, cos y'know they always err on the side of caution. So that is how long she said she wouldn't wait (and can't blame her for that)

if i was with someone, and had a medical reason to not be able to have sex for that amount of time, and they said they wouldn't wait in a way that sounded like an ultimatum, i think i'd blame them for that.

but like, i guess it depends on the seriousness of the relationship, etc.

Only inappropriate if you're a cop or a lawyer.

My boyfriend offered to exchange naked pics of myself for an audio recording "saying how strong and independent you are," which I thought was hilarious. Also I totally declined.

the other week my wife asked me if i ever fantasize about other ppl while we're having sex

a question right up there with 'which of my friends do you find most attractive'

https://image-cdn.zap2it.com/images/admiral-ackbar-ole-miss-bigger.jpg

^ that's the other person i fantasize about

* Matthew 5:28 I tell you that anyone who looks on a woman with lust has in his heart already committed adultery.

this is some flaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaat fucking bullshit

well uh yeah its the bible on sex

Sin is any thought, word, or deed contrary to the will of God. So good luck having any fun. Signed, Satan who waits to devour you.

oh he can devour me all he wants

Ironically enough, this thread has rather felt like stepping into your personal hell

At least it wasn't THIS retina-scorcher!

that's probably the laziest zing I've ever shipped on ILX, so there's that at least

I guess you've been told not to over-exert yourself

was about the level of interest i had engaging w/ u tbh

better zing there tbfttl

I never thought the thinking about other people during sex stuff was real until the end of a relationship where I wasn't into it emotionally - during sex it wasn't that I was picturing another person or face, but there was just a mental block at seeing my partner as my partner. I had kind of disassociated from what was physically happening. As a friend who was exiting a relationship recently put things, it wasn't that Ryan Gosling was fucking her, just a faceless person who wasn't her boyfriend.

I don't think I've ever masturbated to images/thoughts of a partner specifically, but toward the end of the act it usually becomes about a specific sex memory for me, whether that's with a current or former partner.