Good Lord, I've just been propositioned

Trust me, ILX, I am as shocked and flabbergasted as you are.

I got a (drunken, I can only assume) booty call email from a friend at about midnight.

Now, although, yes, I'm flattered and yes, at any other time I might in fact be interested. But life is so stressful and awful right now that I'm feeling about as utterly non-sexy and non-sexual as it's possible to feel.

How does one handle something like this, in the nicest possible way, essentially saying, well, yes, thank you for the offer, that's great, but I'm utterly unable to take you up on this right now due to mine own life circumstances - while still keeping the potential option open for future sex at such event in time that I did not feel utterly asexual.

It's been so long since anything like this happened that I'm fairly confused as to the protocol.

omg this thread is from today

why hello gabbneb would you like to blap

I've never been in anything like this situation so it's hard for me to come up with any solution other than "just do it anyways"

you could always tell j@gg3r to take a cold shower and quit bothering you maybe???

It's hard, because having made a similar call myself, and then getting a response (maybe genuine) claiming that life was stressful, not in the mood, but maybe later, my immediate response was to feel shunned and delete them from my phone and Facebook. (It wasn't the first time that excuse had been used though)

"raincheck? *wink*"

I think the raincheck idea is probably the best.

Trust me, the collective ILX opinion of my utter lack of sexual appeal is still about 1000x sexier than my own actual sexual self esteem right now.

(Also, from previous experiences with this specific dude, I'm not entirely convinced he won't actually just sober up and be all "ohmigod, what was I thinking? no wai!" like it's a trick question and he's going to change his mind by tomorrow anyway)

actually, I'm probably say absolutely nothing and let it slide like it never happened.

:-(

that's what i would do

thats a definite ticket to never gonna happen again with this guy, though

lol this thread title describes how I felt a couple of weeks ago.

It was in the middle of a tube train so I admit I did sit down afterwards with an immensely smug grin.

ive had a proposition sitting in my fb inbox for a month now and i just refuse to respond

Well, MySpaz simply won't *let* me respond - every time I try I get bumped to some stupid ad. So either he's blocked me (I have no idea - is that how it works now?) or else it's simply not meant to be.

No, that's what I thought. I just tried to message someone I *know* has blocked me, and it just says I'm blocked. This is really frustrating.

I don't know the right words but erm...

some men, at least are vaguely aware that women aren't 'ready' 24 hours of every day for whatever reason.

He might still be thinking "bollox, I wanted to say hi but that was the totally wrong, drunken, offensive way to do it and now I've almost certainly blown it."

Just say Hi nice to hear from you, make contact, act like the BC didn't even happen, and gradually maneuver back to the sexxing talk some other time.

What do I know anyway.... :/

"ready"

sounds like a booty call thats come and gone.

just 'cos the booty call's time came & went doesn't mean mr whoever might not still be interested is all I was thinking...

I think the only booty call I've ever had in my life I actually answered out of pure surprise. It wasn't really the right moment and god it was awkward. Kate might just have had got a second chance by not answering straight away. good luck to you all anyway!

Respond when you *might* be tempted..

Saying, "you remember sending this?" without being anti, and maybe a smidgeon of pro.

and then see what happens.

Could be waiting a looonnnnggg time...