Breasts and the sucking, biting, licking and kissing thereof

Why does this make me feel like a creep? Is it an oedipal thing? What kind of mouth-to-titties contact is most desired by women, if any? Tell me about making love.

is this why you go for small-breasted women?

i don't even know anymore.

i wasn't trying to be facetious - i was wondering if that preference had to do with some anti-oedipal thing/feeling of creepiness.

but i think one of the main questions here is whether this is something that is a turn-on or turn-off for you? Is it something that you're asking as a means solely of pleasing a partner?

this was not inspired by any real life scenario; i should be so lucky.
i am turned on by women and their bodies.

basically i just want kenan to show up and lay out for me his breast-play routine.

well, you shouldn't feel like a creep for orally stimulating (or wanting to orally stimulate) a woman's boobs, unless it is something that a particular woman has said that she doesn't enjoy and that she finds creepy. So let's get the creepiness out of the equation, ok?

xp - well, if this thread is meant as an "Ask Kenan about what he does to women's boobs" then i'll stop posting.

I've seen some older (old enough to treat blowjobs as kinky) sex how-to stuff that does get a little antsy about suckling on a women's nipples.

idk I think the only time this gets weird is if it's an actual "adult nursing relationship," ie the woman is lactating & her partner is doing this just for the leche. "Weird" meaning something I know I would be uncomfortable with.

Other than that, there are too many variables! The nipples of men & women vary enormously in sensitivity. Could be a nuclear bomb or a dud, you never know, which is why generalities tend to be less useful for this kind of thing. A person w/sensitive nips might hate a lot of pressure, someone else might be crazy for it.

(tbh this is part of my philosophy where "it depends" is usually the right answer when talking about humans)

If it makes you feel any better, wikipedia asserts that "nipple and breast stimulation of women are a near-universal aspect of human sexuality."

^^^ I wrote that.
I also make fart joek on wikipedia.

I've seen some older (old enough to treat blowjobs as kinky) sex how-to stuff that does get a little antsy about suckling on a women's nipples

I misread that as "artsy."

well, you shouldn't feel like a creep for orally stimulating (or wanting to orally stimulate) a woman's boobs, unless it is something that a particular woman has said that she doesn't enjoy and that she finds creepy. So let's get the creepiness out of the equation, ok?

i think there's a kind of feedback loop, whereby if you're doing something and don't know if it's yielding some kind of positive response, it can feel like it's self-indulgent on your part, and can feel kind of - not creepy, but awkward. my solution to 99% of tmi problems is that people should use some kind of variably-volumed-breathiness to indicate 'high five!' or 'quit it' responses, but if that isn't forthcoming then it can be a little mystifying.

if you're doing something and don't know if it's yielding some kind of positive response, it can feel like it's self-indulgent on your part

yes

it can feel like it's self-indulgent on your part

Some more of that artsy sex?

kinda. like it feels performative rather than being an actual attempt to make the other person feel good. feels somehow very pronounced with this specific thing, i guess because there's a question mark over whether people are receptive or not.

like it feels performative rather than being an actual attempt to make the other person feel good.

yeah, this.

so basically--if you like it, do it a little; if the other person likes it, do it more.

Whatever the other person does, do it to them; whatever they do, they like. That's what I've always been told.

then you just get into a 'taking turns' scenario tho? gotta be room for some freestylin surely.

xp not sure abt that but hey it's a starting point

Ugh. See OK I'll admit it - boob play does absolutely nothing for me yet I have always been reluctant to admit that because a) guys seem really into it and b) it seems like something I'm supposed to be into but I find it so incredibly boring. idk. I guess a has always been more of a factor and since guys always seem to like it then I was more than happy to partake even though it did nothing for me. at all.

The first time I had sex (at the painfully late age of 22), the guy pretty much grabbed onto my breasts and didn't let go.

I get way too into this and it always makes me feel self-conscious, but I just... can't ... stop...

it's kind of obvious when the person you're with doesn't like nipple play

also ;_; that there are people who don't like (gentle, vanilla) nipple play

dan! thanks for the spoiler username!

doesn't air here until the evening :(

I am way too easily amused

JAYMC on Jeopardy! TODAY! (SPOILERS Y'ALL) (for reference)

yes i know - i've been avoiding clicking on it!!! thanks again! lol

or - i guess that was for everyone else's edification.

so... boobs.

hahahahaha

oh if only you'd clicked on that link, a lot of things would be clearer to you

no i refuse.

am going to excitedly watch it this evening despite your meddling.
unless your name is intentionally misleading.... damn you

so... boobs.

― now breathing manually (The Cursed Return of the Dastardly Thermo Thinwall),

I'm 100% in favor of them.

on women

love those sandbags

Most recent long-term partner loved boob and nipple play, preferable to oral even. It was grand.

Isn't the 40 Year Old Virgin question a cheat? Boobs don't feel like anything but boobs IMO - I couldn't relate them to anything else.

sometimes they feel like a plastic bag filled with warm water

i have never had any boob time and its pretty obvious that they're not sandbaggy

Why does this make me feel like a creep?

You're surely better placed to answer that than any of us. I don't mean to belittle your 'issue' but I love playing with boobs and can't imagine feeling bad about that but then I love it when someone plays w/my nipples too...

I do like boob-play as well (especially nibbling/kissing) but I actively prefer small ones. WHY DID I LET MY EX GO

I mean, most boob experiences I've had since then have been with big boobs, which I just don't find sexy, and at worst find to be something of a hindrance.

a HINDRANCE??? to what? iirc you aren't supposed to put the entire thing in your mouth at once

Kinda fun if you squeeze them together and get both nipples in your mouth at once, though.

I have had very reliable feedback that says this actually isn't very fun

a hindrance to full-body proximity - they can be a bit like fenders - depends HOW big though to be fair - and it's very much personal taste

i'm not partic hung up on this tbh

licking/sucking/nibbling anything north of the twig and berries does nothing for me. One girl was srsly upset that my neck and ears weren't an erogenous zone.

don't get anything out of someone licking/biting my nipples tbh. tickles a lil maybe.

Everyone is different. Neck and ears are by far the biggest "thing" for me. Much much more so than anything having to do with my boobs/nips what have you.

really would prefer my ears be left alone - boobs & neck are A-ok

it's a wonder anybody ever gets laid

yeah I'm gonna overdisclose for the 2nd time today but, future aerosmith lovers of this thread, when you are remembering to not suck my nipples, iltmi, you are 1000% free to go ape on on my ears and neck

it's a wonder anybody ever gets laid

you know it's really easy to tell a partner what you do and don't like, right?

depends on the person! some people are only into movie-love-scene sex

this was said upthread but kills the mood really quickly a lot of the time ime

xp!

tho really the only movie-scene sex i'm likely to be emulating is seth rogen in knocked up

Well you don't even have to actually tell them. If you respond differently to things you can pretty clearly indicate what you do and do not like and the other person should be able to pick up on that. Unless they're sorta, you know, clueless or something.

if you can communicate well with your partner there's no reason a little direction should adversely affect your experience.

This thread makes me think of that situation guys sometimes run into, the one where a girl is giving you head but not going down to suck on your nuts even though you'd really like her to. So you sheepishly ask, "could you suck my balls?" hoping she will, and then she does, but all you can think about is the sound of your own voice asking "could you suck my balls?".
― Bryan (Bryan), Thursday, December 2, 2004 3:05 AM (5 years ago) Bookmark

I meant that you can do this without words which makes the mood more likely to remain intact ime.

girl's y'all livin in some dream world where your partner doesn't think he's already the perfect lover imo

you can make a funny joke, then it would be like a movie

I mean, if you're not comfortable relating that info to someone, you may not want to be sleeping with them.
Xposts

i'm not for a second suggesting that the communication issues stem from you not being able to tell dudes this stuff!

TZA otm but sometimes in the heat of the moment nonverbal communication can work best. I think.

Oh yeah my comments were stand alone, not in opposition to yours, e. It can be very easy to effectively communicate sans words sometimes.

funny jokes are really underrated

I have a set of flash cards that depicts my preferences

ok just two flash cards actually

my prefs are contained on a dog tag around my neck

also punched in braille and functions as a memory stick to play audio instructions

My preferences are tattooed on my thighs--there's enough space there to provide some pretty through instructions, unfortunately.

People who think they're the perfect lovers without asking what the other person likes suck, in my opinion. Okay, maybe during the very first time you fuck it might kinda ruin the tension, but if you keep on doing it more than once, you should find out what your partner's individual turn-ons and turn-offs are. And like other people already said, it's not that hard to communicate this non-verbally, if you're afraid of sounding too academic.

People who think they're the perfect lovers without asking what the other person likes suck, in my opinion.

well, yeah, dude

when you are remembering to not suck my nipples, iltmi, you are 1000% free to go ape on on my ears and neck

*furiously takes notes*

*gives Trayce's notes to Mrs. underrated aerosmith*

Don't blame Trayce, Mr. Underrated Aerosmith just gave us the permission!

Hahah :) Hey, a girl can only dream ;) (sorry JD)

xp - not blaming Trayce - just figured the Missus might wanna know

I knew there was a reason to hide my notes!

Ears, neck, nipples, go to town ladies. I'm all for it.

Michael - quelle surprise

I am an equal-opportunity nipple man and perhaps that's what has alwys spared me from ian's discomfiture.

As for me, I am horribly biased against the left one.

^^^(I have been aon a role of making horribliest formjed "jokes" of pain to-day so apologies in advance)

I am ILX's queen of horribly formed joaks, so don't worry.

That quote from "Bryan" above makes me think that he's now a writer on Louis C.K.'s new tv show

ice cold bitches melt down when in the clutch
they want they titties sucked -- ice cream

I was watching a show called 'best of the cathouse' and I remember one of the bunny ranch ladies saying "they aren't an atari switch". that quote is going to stick in my mind forever

or maybe it was "they aren't atari switches" though

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KCDkbSFn6Zs

that is offensively bad; they must be doing something right.

what in the fuck did I just watch o_0

If you found that freaky, check this one out:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QvPCzQbBM2I

(Much better tune too.)