ROLLING ;_; THREAD

1. I can't find the lyrics to "Psyche-Out" so I must postpone my "favorite line from 'Psyche-Out'" poll.

2. That poor guys friend who put his hand in the fryer ;_;

3. HI DERE hurting a puppy with glass laced "snacks"

4. Dan, John, and FB no longer wear their 1991 fashion choices

5. my inflamed shoulder tendon

6. I am not drinking yet

7. I have to go to Apple Valley to get a rental car and I don't want to.

8. Eye-bleeding confusion from using Site New Answers and hitting reload at the time when all the poll notifications leap to the top

9. my dog ate my toast, admittedly i gave it to him, but he made me.

10. Missed the funniest thread of the day because of thinking "Shower head? Who gives a fuck about a shower head?"

11. this much time, T------H------I-------S much work

12. Can't find my favorite cookbook with the best chocolate chip cookie recipe and I PROMISED my son I would make them tomorrow

13. Useless car salesman being as useless as I'm led to believe car salesmen are ;_;

13. nz & us govts won't hurry up and sort their shit out, so now i can't come to oakland as soon as i hoped. i planned february, but now i just don't know ;_;

13.14^^^

Ha! wow

15. Rubyredd's ;_: pwns every ;_; I could think of except "lol RACISM" and that hasn't happened to me in a while

16. I'm competitive over ;_; wtf

yeah i had a pretty serious ;_; last weekend over it - really really had my heart set on feb/march, and was at least coming for a holiday if visa things weren't sorted, but just can't afford it cuz it would blow my savings right outta the water.

JESUS CHRIST GOD ALLAH I HAVE BEEN WAITING ALMOST A YEAR ALREADY CUT ME SOME FREAKIN SLACK

wtf, does the US not let kiwis in now? When did this happen?

they announced this new one year work/travel scheme last sept but haven't actually bothered to implement so i can't apply yet.

f'n bureaucrats.

(apologies to any bureaucrats here who are not shit)

That's really stupid. I apologize on behalf of my country's stupid bureaucracy.

we've been letting americans in for one year visas for like five years now. but we only let 5000 of you in each year.

17. the start of this thread

18. No one will do my work for me. Especially not Sara.

19. I am too dumb to be able to do Dan's work.

20. Dan is younger than me, too. Somehow this seems unfair. ;_;

21. we're not going to be able to finish the quarterly reports on time tonight and I'm going to be late to 69's birthday!! oh man just writing that made it even more ;_; like finally acknowledging your grief so you can move on

22. gmail and ebay accounts haxxxx0red ;___;

whoa what happened???

Both passwords are changed. pretty shithouse :(((

you got XSS'ed. that sucks

drunk, ha><0r or annoying partner/flatmate?

I'm quite certain it's teh ha><><0rness. I've been on numerous friends' computers over the last week or so. Thursday morning it was all fine, Thursday afternoon, no good.

Does anyone know if google are good at sorting this shit out? I've filled out the "someone's changed my password" form or whatever it's called. I assume they're not.

never had to deal with it, but I like to imagine they'd be super helpful. I mean they all work in disneyland

I'm so sorry to hear that and hope it all gets sorted. :(

ebay account reinstated ^__^b

The Password Change request was made from:
IP address: 82.128.21.247
ISP host: 10.10.63.249

w4lter have you changed all your other passwords for all your other internet stuff like paypal etc.?

my ebay was hijacked once. they used it to send spam for some chinese company. so you know, it might not be personal/super-malicious hopefully.

23. iphones mean that people can show you tubgirl whenever they want, like when you're in a bar happy and talking to people, they can just walk up and show you tubgirl ;____; i hate the iphone.

yes but then you can punch them.

and take their phone.

if that happened to me i would exact my revenge by throwing up on the offending party, and on the offending party's phone. and then i would faint. when i revived i would do the punching. and then i would ;_;.

</squeamish>

HI DERE, as an iphone owner, consider yourself on notice.

The Password Change request was made from:
IP address: 82.128.21.247

You got pwned by Africans. Looks like Nigeria.

Administrative Contact:
Admin, Domain d✧✧✧@multili✧✧✧.c✧✧
231 Adeola Odeku Street
Victoria Island
Marina, Lagos 44028
NG
+234-1-7740000

;_;

Damn, that sucks. I had a broken left wrist and elbow during the last 2 months of my last pregnancy. I could not do anything easily. I guess it was good that maternity pants do not have buttons.

I hope it heals quickly for you.

Did they put any pins in?

LO THO I WALK THROUGH THE VALLEY OF JARVIK GOATEYSEDNEDESS I SHALL PHEAR NO EBILS unlok secretness

I ;_;ed today, I'm not sure if it was out of joy or sorrow

maybe it was out of tremulous uncertainty.

curtis it is good to cry sometimes without knowing why. best to get it out of yr system in some privacy, rather than let it build up and hit you at super inappropriate moment (as has unfortunately happened to me on more than one occasion)

I VOTE JOY

i almost ;_;ed today too, because i feel sometimes like maybe i'll never get to the US. i looked at the website today and realised that the $2000 i need for prerequisite funds is in US dollars, not NZ, which completely bummed me out.

and fuck those agency fuckers for putting up half the cost list in nz dollars and the other half in US. fucking hell.

i am EXHAUSTED. let me go HOME.

two more nights of this. then back to the regular shift. huff, puff. time to make the donuts.

donuts, what is this.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iY0Ecn393qI

196. stupid minor car accident grrrr

197. hey look at me im stupid

No, no, you are funny! I regaled a fellow student who was having a very hard night tonight with stories about your numerous medical issues and by the time I was done, she had gone from crying to crying with LAUGHTER.

So thanks.

haha

I think the "John's girlfriend sold his prescription painkillers behind his back" was the best part, tbh.

198. just smashed a bottle of beer trying to put in fridge :(
199. Wore ugg boots in public at some stage last weekend

so my sister-in-law M is married to this irish dude called P they've been married for eight years and have two daughters aged 4.5 and 1.5. (also several other lost pregnancies, and M was bedridden for the final six months of the two girls' ripening.)

P looks like golfer john daly, just for reference.

P is a control freak. he runs a bar/restaurant/residential hotel and has cameras everywhere; he has boasted to me of the shit he sees on the tapes. (he also, the first time i met him, said that all he wanted to do in life was watch television -- in his basement is a small shrine to the sopranos.) he goes through M's purse and phone. M belongs to an online group of women who have struggled with pregnancy, and P has complained that she spends too much time online, that meeting any local members would be insane because internet = kidney thieves and he won't allow it, and has deleted group members' contacts from her cell phone.

P has never changed a diaper. i think he truly loves child #1, but his interaction with her is limited to either taking her to the toy store or allowing her to mill around his feet while he watches tv. child #2 is difficult and entirely beyond his ken. M is unable to physically leave the two children in P's care, which has the result of M essentially having no contact with the outside world. P's response is 'we'll hire someone' to watch the kids, but of course he won't do that himself and M has caught his contagious paranoia, so who is suitable? they live in the far suburbs, practically the country, and both have mentioned how disturbing it is that they haven't gotten the upstairs windows alarmed yet.

M used to work but hasn't in years due to child birthing and raising. and because P is very image-conscious and doesn't want his wife working (or, presumably, having money independent of him).

M and P both drink a lot. because P runs a bar/restaurant, his hours are odd. lately he spends the few hours he is at home drinking and watching tv in his sopranos shrine.

P is apparently also a sex freak, and though M is attractive, she is evidently insufficient to the quantity and quality of his needs. so he has sated his hunger on some number of other ladies, including, it seems, a 22-year-old waitress at his restaurant. P is 42, and M actually trained this girl as a 15-year-old.

all this has recently come to a head, with the result that my wife is M's only outlet -- and then only when P isn't around, can't eavesdrop, and the children are generally contained, which is fairly rare.

M and P's relationship has deteriorated to the point where M is all wtf and P is in turn wtf. except that M's wtf = why are you such an asshole and P's wtf = why aren't you putting out more. P recently revealed, to no one's surprise (including child #1's preschool teacher, who mentioned her suspicions to M), that he was sleeping around. the extent of his boasted wanderings has varied with his mood; sometimes it is everyone in their town, sometimes it only that waitress, who he claims was a virgin -- so M needn't worry about stds.

M and P have been sleeping separately for some time. their house (a pop-up mansion they moved into a year ago) has locks on the doors, but there's an override button up high so the kids can't lock themselves in. P normally drinks himself into a stupor in the basement. these days in the middle of the night, he has taken to entering M's room and standing over her while (he thinks) she's sleeping.

M and P argue all the time. P has no compunction about arguing in front of the children: 'she doesn't know what the fuck we're talking about.' he has his up and downs depending on his drinking and the day of the week. M suspects that thursday is his date night with whomever. some days he calls her a cunt, helpfully spelling it out: c - u - n - t. (i was tempted to bring up the terry bradshaw thing about not being able to spell cat spotted the c and the t, but it seemed tasteless).

three weeks ago P declared that he no longer loved M, had no feelings for her, and wanted out. M called her sister (my wife), who ultimately hooked her up with a lawyer. yet M was scared to mention to P that she was meeting with a lawyer, and indeed had no money to pay a lawyer nor anyone to watch the children while she met with the lawyer, because P can't handle theM after eavesdropping on M (out in the yard) talking to my wife, P said, 'poor M, always the victim.' the lawyer expressed an interest in ripping P a new one, but requires a retainer. the extent of M's money is a credit card backed by P.

bonus fun fact: M (and my wife's) mom lives in P's hotel.

in various moods, P threatens to take M for all she's worth. (she is worth nothing, financially.) or to take the children away to ireland. (this is ridiculous, as he has no idea how to handle them nor would any judge award them to him, but it hits home.) each day brings a new P: sometimes he is implacable ('you are a fucking whore'), sometimes he is conciliatory ('can't we just start from scratch?'), some days he offers to pay for her lawyer, some days he avows that he won't grant her a divorce (UH). lately, in the middle of arguments, P has declared that he could 'just fuck' M 'right there.' M locks the door when she showers; P does the child-override and makes comments during.

intermittently, including the last few days, P has begged that they start things over -- perhaps, or perhaps not, enjoined to do so by his lawyer. (nb: new york state courts require fairly thorough evidence of infidelity.) yet P has never actually admitted to doing anything wrong -- it was M's fault that he sought solace in the orifices of others. sure, maybe he drinks, but who wouldn't whilst living with a woman who won't ________ at any given time. and child #2 is such a nightmare!

there's other stuff i may not have touched on but it boils down to M is paranoid, scared and independently penniless. P is a fucking psycho -- no shit, we have been waiting for him to rape/beat up M my wife went halfway up there last week before M responded to messages. basically we want P to fucking leave the house -- but he won't. and M has no place to go, exactly (she and the girls could live with us in an emergency, but it's an apartment).

P has been in a reconciliatory mood the last few days. M called my wife yesterday and talked about how sad it was that the years and the family could be tossed aside as such. my wife restrained herself from throttling her through the phone.

today was even more accommodating. apparently she is folding up, whether 'for the sake of the children' (congrats: a father who will buy you toys and permit you to frolic in front of the television) or the 'eight years' (of what, exactly?). he has yet to admit any wrongdoing. there has been no discussion of possible increased interaction with the children (or M) or dismissal of his extracurricular benefits.

she is in a fucking hard position, considering going to court against an asshole who controls the funds in their relationshiP and she has experience with growing up without a father -- though it has been pointed out that to be a real father P might actually have to make an attempt, were the children not immediately around. the path of least resistance is tempting, but it is not, given the circumstances, natural to M -- she has been ground down by P and his control and his paranoia.

so what do we do? how do you support someone who needs support but is making an awful awful decision?

first guy that says TLDR gets a groinpunch, btw

you know you don't actually have to be a physically battered woman to call one of those abused spouse hotlines.

And anyone you can call in the area will likely be able to help out because it's all in NY, right?

http://www.oag.state.ny.us/crime/domestic_violence.html

Domestic violence is any pattern of coercive tactics, which can include physical, psychological, sexual, economic and emotional abuse, perpetrated by an intimate orfamily member, with the goal of establishing or maintaining power and control over the victim. This abuse occurs between any family or household member, spouse or ex-spouse, parents, children, stepchildren, persons sharing or formerly sharing a common dwelling, persons having a child in common and persons having or having had a dating or engagement relationship. Domestic violence crosses all ethnic, racial, socioeconomic, and sexual orientation boundaries.

I mean if you can get her to understand that she's being forced into this situation and that there are alternatives and find some help for her maybe you can turn this around

the problem is that she has apparently now conceded that they should 'reconcile.' whether it's the path of least resistance or a response to a (reasonable) fear of raising two kids on her own or an actual accommodation with her fucking psycho husband, i don't know. i would like to call the cops (at the very least on his drunk driving, for which he's been busted before), but it doesn't do much good if she's not on board.

also i would like to beat his ass.

just for the jazz

Oh I'd beat his ass too.

but I'd do it for the exercise.

200. I can't remember the title of the rolling happy face thread, and I had something to add. SO SAD NOW

:D

Wilter, YOU ROCK!

ROLLING 9_9 THREAD

Also don't forget ^^this important thread

Good point - THX

201. Some teeth hurt and I probably won't have dental insurance for like a year.

Post yr ideas for home dentistry here.

202. I haven't had time to look for a new job yet.

201. i'm too much of a baby to look for a new job yet

201203.

204. read david fincher thread

you know that part in indiana jones where they all have to close their eyes or their faces will melt off. it is a lot like that.

Well, you'd better close your eyes then.

M got a restraining order against P today (see above). but it unfortunately did not order him to vacate the house, just to stay out of M's bedroom and not to fuck around/scream at/etc her.

so now she and my wife and the two girls are barricaded in the bedroom while P is downstairs, pissed off and drunk.

That sounds crazy... and horrible.

yeah ;_;

also, my internets are barely working tonight

That's not a restraining order. I work as a domestic violence counselor in Mass., and as far as I know there is no such thing as a restraining order like what you are describing.
A protective order might have been issued...
which still provides for the safety of the issuer. But you have said that there's a reluctance to have police involvement.

I am going to contact you through web mail.

that's a horrible situation mookie

protective order, yes.

happily, nothing bad happened last night. M is back at court today (with lawyer and person from shelter) trying to get him ordered out of the house.

aw mooks, so sorry about all this and the fact that it is still going on ;_;

Good lord, Mookie. :-/

Sorry, mookieproof.