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Tomorrow the girlfriend (I'm not really sure what any of this means so confusing) is coming over to MEET THE PARENTS and get high/watch movies/etc.

I hardly ever introduce girls to my parents mostly because they are not respectable girls. I think the last girl who I introduced to my parents was JUL14 M@3 W35T (for Ian and Andrew's [Does Jer read this?] sake). She was only considered respectable in that she was TWEE (We had HIS and HERS Belle and Sebastian mugs) which makes people seem more respectable than they actually are.

In high school / early college, I had a fairly serious girlfriend for like ~2 years. She had a COOL DAD who let me sleep over in her bedroom all the time. One day at breakfast he yelled at us for leaving the door open -- "AT LEAST PRETEND YOU AREN'T SLEEPING WITH EACH OTHER". I see COOL DAD a lot more than my ex!

I can't recall the last time someone introduced me to their parents -- it may have been in high school. I don't think meeting the parents of someone you're just sleeping with counts, does it?

Its kind of weird to move through life without stable romantic relationships. I am trying really hard this time, but is it for the right reasons?

This is my longest post ever.

Sigh!

totally not me (ex machina), Friday, 11 March 2005 07:21 (twenty years ago)

the first time i met my now wife's parents some 10yrs ago in college, her strict filipino catholic parents took me in the other room by myself and had a 30minute talk about how they are really against premarital sex. holy moly. i just kept telling them "i really understand where you're coming from. i understand your morals".

The JaXoN 5 (JasonD), Friday, 11 March 2005 07:26 (twenty years ago)

I have never dated anyone with strict religious beliefs nor whose family did. I believe I dated 1 catholic girl. She was Puerto Rican and a ballet dancer. She was kind of dumb -- she was plenty smart bookwise -- but just childish? I guess that's what I get for dating 16 year olds when I was 18.

Anyway, I had nothing in common with her and it ended fairly quickly.

green uno skip card (ex machina), Friday, 11 March 2005 07:40 (twenty years ago)

my biggest regret (currently) -- not letting my goil's parents meeting my parents before my dad died because i was a dick and thought my dad would be too rough around the edges for my goil's professional parents. that may be the suckiest thing i have ever done.

jack cole (jackcole), Friday, 11 March 2005 07:50 (twenty years ago)

Tomorrow the girlfriend (I'm not really sure what any of this means so confusing) is coming over to MEET THE PARENTS and get high/watch movies/etc.
Are you confused about the relationship (and the significance of introducing someone to your parents) or you just worried about how your parents will react to her and what she will think about them?

If it's the former, then I have no advice re: meeting the parents. If it's the latter then you've just got to suck it up and deal -- nobody likes introducing bf/gf's to their parents, it's fucking nervous torture, so you have to hope for the best and pray that nobody makes a jackass out of themselves.

MindInRewind (Barry Bruner), Friday, 11 March 2005 09:51 (twenty years ago)

Its the former! My dad might make an ass of himself but the girl is cool.

green uno skip card (ex machina), Friday, 11 March 2005 15:28 (twenty years ago)

i think i actually find it more embarrassing, somehow, that my mom DOESN'T typically make an ass of herself in these circumstances. it's like, "wait, you told me your mom was a basketcase, she seems perfectly normal to *me*."

Amateur(ist) (Amateur(ist)), Friday, 11 March 2005 15:33 (twenty years ago)

I prefer to keep these two aspects of my life separate.

tokyo rosemary (rosemary), Friday, 11 March 2005 16:05 (twenty years ago)

amateurist otm!

If I were you I would just take comfort in the fact that it is happening, and it is supposed to be a step, or whatever. I met my girl's mom and it was weird and I was with my drug addict friend and now she thinks my name is "Funny". What the fuck

Sonny, Ah!!1 (Sonny A.), Friday, 11 March 2005 16:05 (twenty years ago)

my dad was a preacher man, so i have generally gotten a "get out of awkward moments" free card with the girl's parents. it's like, "so what does your dad do?" and then afterward, i can do no wrong. i have never got the respect my daughter speech... no matter how much cookie nookie i tookie.

it's crazy awkward when the folks meet the folks tho. yeesh. but they became buddies and that's cool. our parents are still fairly different. mine kind of on the affluent but not side... hers sort of on the hillbilly but not side. my dad copping a southern accent is TERRIBLY painful.

dude, grandparents meeting is even more awkward because it's like a senility battle royale... the whole time you're like, "god please don't offend anybody!!" my wife's family and their southern genteel aroma and my dad's mom who is freewheeler and freakin from india and more likely to jam in hindi outta nowhere the older she gets. "GRAMMA, I DON'T SPEAK THAT STUFF... WHAT ARE YOU TALKING ABOUT?!? YOUR BOWELS AGAIN!?!? OH GaWSDH! GO PLAY SOME PIANOPLSKTHX. YOU ARE MY SUNSHINE GRAMMA, MY SUNNSHINE!!!"

m.

msp (msp), Friday, 11 March 2005 17:09 (twenty years ago)

ROFL @ MSP ahahhahhahaha

gygax! (gygax!), Friday, 11 March 2005 18:42 (twenty years ago)

My father in law is a Methodist minister.

He drove me out to the Notre Dame campus and promised not to try and convert me.

Now he always asks me for "the Jewish perspective on [x]" and I'm like errrrr....

Milo Smiley (nordicskilla), Friday, 11 March 2005 18:44 (twenty years ago)

I always used to bring so many weird boys to my parent's house all the time that they never could figure out who i was dating and I think they were relieved in a way.

S!monB!rch (Carey), Friday, 11 March 2005 19:06 (twenty years ago)

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http://www.chosencouture.com/images/shalom.jpg

The JaXoN 5 (JasonD), Friday, 11 March 2005 20:02 (twenty years ago)

it...looks a little tight?

Milo Smiley (nordicskilla), Friday, 11 March 2005 20:03 (twenty years ago)

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jaymc (jaymc), Friday, 11 March 2005 20:12 (twenty years ago)

Its the former! My dad might make an ass of himself but the girl is cool.

Hmmm ... so that's the latter of my two situations, not the former.

When you're not sure how the girl feels about you (or vice versa) -- in those cases, I don't bother introducing her to the parents. With me, I figure the parents don't need to be bothered with that unless it's a really special girl.

MindInRewind (Barry Bruner), Friday, 11 March 2005 20:14 (twenty years ago)

"a...really...special...girl"

Amateur(ist) (Amateur(ist)), Saturday, 12 March 2005 16:31 (twenty years ago)


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