Absolute Porn Corrupts Absolutely

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Ya, but they were Indian sit-ups.

Thermo Thinwall (Thermo Thinwall), Wednesday, 27 June 2001 03:20 (twenty-four years ago)

one year passes...
Most shaggable indie chick (sorry, I'm bored right now...) (Caution nipples downthread. Also Caution Daisy Chainsaw.)

...and read down for a debate (i will make the mass debate 'joke' before anyone else can) about porn.

Am I right? Does porn 'damage the social environment'? Or is that idea 'ridiculous' as Calum says? How omnipresent is porn, anyway? There were complaints on the other thread that we were interrupting the ILXors right to look at hott indie chix so I'm moving it here...

Tom (Groke), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 18:00 (twenty-two years ago)

My position is kind of that of a guilty porn user I suppose. But the guilt isn't some oh-god-I'm-dirty-and-filthy guilt but more the same kind of consumer-guilt I get when I buy Coca-Cola or use a non-degradable plastic bag.

Tom (Groke), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 18:06 (twenty-two years ago)

This is just a feeling, which is less strong even than Tom's hunch, but I find it depressing every time I walk into a newsagents to be confronted by a wall of magazine covers *ALL* of which have distorted and distorting images of women on. In particular the social acceptability of what used to be called porn but is now the lad's mag continually reminds me that I live in a society I don't like. It's not that I want to censor this stuff -- but I do believe I live in a culture which is in a large part defined by some attitudes to women I think are repellent. Sorry this isn't well argued.

alext (alext), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 18:07 (twenty-two years ago)

sex is natural sex is fun! has george michael taught us nothing?

Fritz Wollner (Fritz), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 18:12 (twenty-two years ago)

sometimes i think i am addicted to porn

jess (dubplatestyle), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 18:19 (twenty-two years ago)

I think it is addictive but I'm loosely addicted to a ton of things anyway. (Hello ILX!)

Tom (Groke), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 18:21 (twenty-two years ago)

but sex does not equal porn. I think we are living in a time when everything and anything can be considered sexy...oh an umbrella, oh a pen, oh you have sexy glasses, oh the office. I'd just like some things to be totally unsexy. (this is a bit off topic, sorry)

jel -- (jel), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 18:21 (twenty-two years ago)

I guess it's that hyper-mediated, hyper-sexualised environment thing. Porn is also a bit humourless.

jel -- (jel), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 18:23 (twenty-two years ago)

Yawn...

Then why not walk into a shop that doesn't stock three shelves of porn and buy your groceries elsewhere?

Sorry, I just can't be bothered arguing this. I consider myself pretty liberal and very well informed about what sort of material is out there (I'm involved in the cult film genre firsthand for a start and you meet some admitedly dodgy characters on web sites) but I have to say: 'Each to their own'

I draw the line when people or animals are injured or hurt in a film for real, and anything that features women or men in a position whereupon they seem to be not enjoying the sex (whether acted out or not)... yup, I'd draw the line there. But if it's consentual shagging between two people, or a woman or man nude in front of a camera I could really care less.

Calum Robert, Wednesday, 12 March 2003 18:24 (twenty-two years ago)

yes, i always find nancy is more interested in porn which has an element of humor/the absurd (like some we found with a girl dressed up like superman)

sadly, i think i'm too "normalized" to full appreciate this

jess (dubplatestyle), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 18:26 (twenty-two years ago)

The fact that they 'seem to be enjoying it' is what makes porn such phony bullshit

dave q, Wednesday, 12 March 2003 18:26 (twenty-two years ago)

(The problem is CR that your guidelines mean that 'enjoying it but acting not' is bad whereas 'not enjoying it but acting enjoyment' is fine.)

(It's not really about individual preferences, anyway.)

Tom (Groke), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 18:28 (twenty-two years ago)

its always more complicated than consensual or not calum

i flucuate between what fritz/george are saying and worrying about the way pron may surreptiously impact my attitudes towards women

mark p (Mark P), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 18:28 (twenty-two years ago)

I like amateur porn.

Chris V. (Chris V), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 18:30 (twenty-two years ago)

i want to shag calum: adolescent self-importance = hott

mark s (mark s), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 18:32 (twenty-two years ago)

or nott

mark p (Mark P), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 18:33 (twenty-two years ago)

how come more people arent throwing themselves at me then?

jess (dubplatestyle), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 18:34 (twenty-two years ago)

Should certain hip-hop videos should be banned because they color the way society views black people?

Dan Perry (Dan Perry), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 18:35 (twenty-two years ago)

how come more people arent throwing themselves at me then?

too tall.

(ie. it would require throwing up.)

mark p (Mark P), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 18:35 (twenty-two years ago)

what will lust be like after the revolution?

g.cannon (gcannon), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 18:36 (twenty-two years ago)

Dan I don't think anyone is talking about banning on any threads! This whole 'banning' trope whenever anyone tries to question the value of a cultural product/trend is really annoying.

Tom (Groke), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 18:36 (twenty-two years ago)

dan: of course not. but this isn't about censorship.

mark p (Mark P), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 18:37 (twenty-two years ago)

hug my knees, this is life

jess (dubplatestyle), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 18:38 (twenty-two years ago)

All right then, what do you want to do about pornography, then? Is labelling something as "damaging" and "destructive" a fruitful activity if you aren't going to do anything about it?

Dan Perry (Dan Perry), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 18:41 (twenty-two years ago)

''I draw the line when people or animals are injured or hurt in a film for real''

It is precisely bcz porn leads to such extremes that I object to it.

Julio Desouza (jdesouza), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 18:42 (twenty-two years ago)

Julio that doesn't make any sense.

mark p (Mark P), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 18:43 (twenty-two years ago)

"doing something about it" doesnt always have to be larded with the air of rounding people up for fredericks of dachau, dan...it can just mean trying to broaden the discussion

jess (dubplatestyle), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 18:43 (twenty-two years ago)

Ahhh yes...the 'gateway' theory of porn...brilliant Julio

oops (Oops), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 18:46 (twenty-two years ago)

Is labelling something as "damaging" and "destructive" a fruitful activity if you aren't going to do anything about it?

Well, yeah, wouldn't it be? Doesn't the fact that we have (as a society, I guess you could say) labelled fatty foods as "damanging" and "destructive" mean something even though we haven't outright banned them?

Chris P (Chris P), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 18:47 (twenty-two years ago)

Well actually there is already loads of age and subject based censorship around porn ALREADY Dan. Not that I'm sure all of it is necessary.

And yeah it is fruitful - disagreement with cultural content is always potentially fruitful. I mean if you have a radio spectrum of right-wing talk show hosts and you say "this stuff is really destructive" you're not implying it should be banned, you're just trying to find an audience of your own who might say "well yeah actually it might be", and if that opinion gains enough force or credibility then the station owners are more likely to change.

(Or what Chris said in one sentence, doh.)

Tom (Groke), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 18:48 (twenty-two years ago)

pbbbt. i said it first.

jess (dubplatestyle), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 18:51 (twenty-two years ago)

Julio - porn doesn't lead to this. The mainstream porn studios and performers are 100% against anything that, for instance, a fuckwitt like Max Hardcore (notorious abuser of women featured on a very disturbing Channel 4 documentary called 'Hardcore') produces. It's like saying that because mondo films exist you hate all horror movies.

By non-consensual sex I mean stuff like Max Hardcore and the notorious seventies film 'Forced Entry' which is notorious enough to have been referenced in 'Boogie Nights'. You cannot possibly object to all porn Julio, that's preposterous. Associating, say, Playboy or even 'Men Only' with the extremes I've mentioned is something that only a Tory MP would attempt.

Besides, you wipe out porn you create a massive blackmarket (c.f. Singapore).

Calum Robert, Wednesday, 12 March 2003 18:51 (twenty-two years ago)

My beef with porn is that the lighting is terrible.

lawrence kansas (lawrence kansas), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 18:54 (twenty-two years ago)

I think what Julio was talking about was that consumers of porn can find themselves wanting weirder! freakier! more extreme! stuff! And that doesn't seem to me unlikely - I mean that's how I used to consume music for ages. I don't think it's inevitable though, and I don't think it's a one-way journey either, so it doesn't work for me as an argument against porn as a whole.

Actually it has happened to me with porn to an extent - the first time I saw 3-way sex in a mag it really shocked me and last week I was relatively unfazed by tubgirl.com :(

Tom (Groke), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 18:55 (twenty-two years ago)

Point taken, I guess, but I am really irritated by the idea that it's the problems related to pornography are inherently tied to it rather than the fault of the people overindulging in porn (much like the main problem with fatty foods is that people overindulge in them).

I am on a massive "take responsibility for yourself and stop whining" kick today.

Dan Perry (Dan Perry), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 18:56 (twenty-two years ago)

tom that's just gross

jess (dubplatestyle), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 18:56 (twenty-two years ago)

See I don't want to get into an arguement for this because (and I've stated this already) I don't personally get any enjoyment from hardcore porn. I just think each to their own you know?

Calum Robert, Wednesday, 12 March 2003 18:57 (twenty-two years ago)

(Wait, what exactly is "absolute porn"?)

(I'm pretty sure I know what "relative porn" would be.)

Chris P (Chris P), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 18:58 (twenty-two years ago)

So, I think the crux of it is, is porn just another product?

jel -- (jel), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 19:00 (twenty-two years ago)

Yeah, had I actually got off on tubgirl.com I'd have checked myself into somewhere nice and soft-walled. (NB that is absolute porn.)

Dan the problem with porn is that it's somewhere between fatty foods which everyone agrees only harm the consumer and smoking which everyone agrees doesn't. It's much nearer the former, I think but not identical to it. The idea used to be that i) porn was bad and should be banned and following that ii) public spaces should basically be smut-free. And now people think the first half of that is wrong (and I do too) but the upshot is the second half is sliding too.

Tom (Groke), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 19:02 (twenty-two years ago)

Here's a 'mundane' quote from the porn spam that just appeared in my inbox (in a bright cartoon font no less) "Tight pussies getting ripped apart by huge cocks!" - As I said, that's by no means an exceptional specimen. Random if anything. Can anyone honestly argue that there's no harmful subtext in a lot of this stuff?

Kim (Kim), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 19:05 (twenty-two years ago)

''I think what Julio was talking about was that consumers of porn can find themselves wanting weirder! freakier! more extreme! stuff! And that doesn't seem to me unlikely - I mean that's how I used to consume music for ages.''

yeah, I've consumed music like that too but yeah thanks for tom for articulating this the way I'd like to.

but music doesn't damage other individuals (unless it's a noise gig that can damage yr hearing heh). can't compare to porn really.

but as calum sez, a ban would lead to black market stuff.

''The mainstream porn studios and performers are 100% against anything that, for instance, a fuckwitt like Max Hardcore (notorious abuser of women featured on a very disturbing Channel 4 documentary called 'Hardcore') produces''

yeah I was thinking of this when i wrote my first comment on the thread since i saw that doc (which is the only porn related thing i've evah seen).

Julio Desouza (jdesouza), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 19:05 (twenty-two years ago)

I object to the way certain parties in the ILM thread introduced pseudo feminist talk about porn into a harmless "who do you fancy" thread. I say pseudo-feminist because the most verbose poster in that hijacked thread has apparently read no feminist theory about pornography written after about 1990. The people -- they must be guys, or "feminists" of my mom's generation -- who are fretting about porn on a "cute indie chick" thread are perpetuating the notion that feminism is all about raining on parades and going after flimsy straw men. And to the guy who said he could tell you what Jenna Jamison is *really* thinking...I don't think she needs you to speak for her, dad.

Paula G., Wednesday, 12 March 2003 19:08 (twenty-two years ago)

kim's point is the sort of stuff that i worry about

mark p (Mark P), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 19:08 (twenty-two years ago)

But Julio the links between music harming people (i.e. The Columbine Massacre etc) are no more or less believable than the links between porn and hurting people.

That documentary would give you the notion the business is full of potential rapists. Porn of that kind should be burnt to a cinder and put in the bin. It's for real sick minds. But that's not representative of all porn at all.

Calum Robert, Wednesday, 12 March 2003 19:08 (twenty-two years ago)

sex is displaced. besides and before porn, i don't know many places where a man can walk up and hump a woman of an afternoon. sheep always do it like that, just up from the house i grew up in, whenever i went past on the bus, you'd see some bored looking lad of a sheep hop on some hollow-eyed woman sheep. course i'm not suggesting that this is any sensible way to go - it's in no-one's mindset, humans are clever and can lie to get what they want. and essentially, this is common to most species, a man wants something fertile and a woman wants something of general alpha qualities (auhtority, means, that kind of shit.)
now, i don't want a fuckin child and clearly not every woman wants something out of Total Recall. but yr basic lusts are still governed by something, so what happens with that schism? what happens when a man can't get what he wants? what happens when a woman can't get what she wants? a man will look at porno and start cracking off, largely. some men'll start associating sex with rejection by extention violence, and then rape or kill and shit.
(genuine question though: what does a woman do when she can't get what she wants, where'd a woman go instead of porn? i know women who like porn, but not as many men as i know like porn.)

anyway. porn is a gap between basic pre-evoltionary impulse and how things work now. porn is for the runt of the litter. though is still quite appealing to others besides, cos it's got fucking in it.

incidentally, i don't think many men really like the approach of most porn. too badly acted, too glossy. most men won't get off on the less pleasant aspects, but there's a thread running through. people get used to things which they barely notice, cos they like to watch the fucking.

sex doesn't satisfy the desire for sex.

matthew james (matthew james), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 19:09 (twenty-two years ago)

Kim, I think that that is a harmful context if it inspires you to create a huge cock with which you can rip apart tight pussies, and even then it's the fault of the ripper for going out and actually doing some stupid shit like that.

If you put a sign on a bridge that says "Jump off here" and walk 100 people past it, and 10 out of those 100 jump, is it the fault of the sign or the fault of the people?

Dan Perry (Dan Perry), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 19:10 (twenty-two years ago)

i get at least four or five emails with variations on kim's subject header a day...this seems to be a common tagline these days

jess (dubplatestyle), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 19:11 (twenty-two years ago)

Paula, I couldn't have said that better myself

Calum Robert, Wednesday, 12 March 2003 19:12 (twenty-two years ago)

Total side issue but - is all old theory automatically redundant? If so doesn't it mean that current theory is implicitly also wrong?

Tom (Groke), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 19:13 (twenty-two years ago)

right on, dan. an individual with violent instincts is going to find inspiration to realise them wherever. same with anyone of creative instincts.

matthew james (matthew james), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 19:13 (twenty-two years ago)

But Dan, good advertising is about learning how to speak to the fantasies of your target audience in a way that they're going to find engaging. What does the rhetoric of that ad (and those like it) say about a large of porn users' desires?

mark p (Mark P), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 19:14 (twenty-two years ago)

Who says you have to read any feminist theory at *all* before you can have valid opinions on how people ought to treat each other? Do people really need their hands held so badly? Lady, you don't need a map to go west if you can still see the sun in sky.

Kim (Kim), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 19:14 (twenty-two years ago)

''kim's point is the sort of stuff that i worry about''

where do you draw the line really? and then there is a diff line for each person so how does that translate into laws and regulation?

''But Julio the links between music harming people (i.e. The Columbine Massacre etc) are no more or less believable than the links between porn and hurting people.''

I think args will rage on until actual experiments that are reliable are somehow drawn up and you can get conclusive proof to such questions.

Julio Desouza (jdesouza), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 19:15 (twenty-two years ago)

problem is that ppl. who are willing to *pay* for porn these days go for the more problematic stuff so those of us who grab ours for free get the dregs of that content since there's no money in tryina serve our freeloading demographic?

Sterling Clover (s_clover), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 19:15 (twenty-two years ago)

there's no large range of explicit porn avaliable though - the transgressive desire to see everything gets confused with violence. i think a lot of people who look at that kind of porn like it for the fucking, not for the violence. i hear it all the time.

matthew james (matthew james), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 19:16 (twenty-two years ago)

But Matthew the reason we have art and music classes is to encourage creative instincts to be released, i.e. we don't assume they'll be released 'whatever'.

The more I think about it the more I think that the public spaces and invasion of privacy thing (Kim's inbox) is the issue that bothers me.

Tom (Groke), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 19:16 (twenty-two years ago)

people will always pay for "specialist" items...the triumph of the free market

(plz keep in mind that the "specialist" porn nancy - not me - pays for is "indie porn"...which barely even features any exposed vaginas. "specialist" doesn't always have to mean hardcore.)

jess (dubplatestyle), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 19:18 (twenty-two years ago)

but Kim's point is valid in that it prompts the question 'why does a description like that turn some people on?' same as rape fantasies i suppose, or anything 'nasty' - they dont turn me on at all but i guess people get a thrill of being able to do something they couldnt do in real life because someone would get hurt, which is the same reason why violent movies and multi-player shooting/combat games are so popular - people feel empowered when they can do things and see things they know would hurt them and others in real life right?

stevem (blueski), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 19:19 (twenty-two years ago)

i'm not sure what importance the presence of music classes have here, tom. not many poeple around ilx have studied pop music, but a lot of people round here seem to know a load about it. imagination isn't really dependent upon organised education.

matthew james (matthew james), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 19:20 (twenty-two years ago)

getting into why people get off on certain ideas is far, far, far more problematic than the issue of privacy

jess (dubplatestyle), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 19:21 (twenty-two years ago)

Dan I interpreted the subtext of Kim's inbox example to imply that men are machines built to figuratively destroy women sexually, and yes, that sounds rather harmful to me.

Tracer Hand (tracerhand), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 19:21 (twenty-two years ago)

(WOW you all are typing fast today)

It says that the people behind the site are trying to attract an increasingly-jaded audience by repackaging the same old in-out-in-out in increasingly hyperbolic terms. I'm not going to be concerned about that rhetoric until I see a groundswell of disgruntled porn consumers who are mad that they aren't seeing torn vaginas when they click through on their spam.

Dan Perry (Dan Perry), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 19:22 (twenty-two years ago)

The logic of porn, as it is today, leads to rape. I don't mean that any viewers of porn become rapists because of it. I dunno about that. I mean that the history of porn's struggles against censorship is a narrative about the right to portray rape legally.

I've seen quite a few porn videos. Nowadays, if you go into a porn shop and pick a film at random, you're 90% certain to choose something from the many gonzo lines.

Your randomly chosen video will probably begin with a short interview with the first actress up. She won't be in character. She's supposed to be herself, albeit with a different name. She'll be asked about where she comes from. Maybe what her parents think about her doing porn. It's cute stuff. There's no scenario. No bored housewife sucking the plumber for kicks. It's a young girl (who will often show ID to the viewer to prove that she's only 18) getting fucked for money. That's fine, I guess.

When the action begins, the emphasis will always be on pushing the girl as far as you can, but not too far that she's gonna bail out. She's gotta labour. She's gotta get uncomfortable. The ideal blowjob is one where she gags. No, that's not true. The ideal blowjob is one where she's made to vomit all over the shop. But you get all kinds of hassle from people for that kind of stuff, so let's just stick to the gagging. Some girls won't even let you do that. That's okay. You can try to ease her into it. It could still be a good scene. Maybe she'll do it next time. Maybe she looks so good that she'll get to the point where she can dictate the limits. Maybe she won't, and she'll do what you say or get no work after this.

The repertoire of porn comprises acts that few people, I believe, perform outside of porn. Anal sex is a common enough fantasy, a common enough pastime. But what about double anal? Triple (with a cock deep in the throat at the same time)? What is the point of this stuff, if not to try to reach the point where you get the girl hurting?

It could be argued that the kind of soft porn you get in WH Smith's is harmless naked ladies. I probably agree. But it's not soft because that's what porn or its buyers wants. It's soft because that's how it needs to be to get in WH Smith's. The magazines have to show the soft stuff. The rest of the shoot, with the ubiquitous pissing and dildoes, will get used in the American magazines. Again, what's the point of the pissing? I don't think so many people are into urine. Some are, but not enough to justify its ubiquity. The point of porn is to try to convince girls who'll do something mildly degrading to do things more degrading. It's boring to see them open their legs. They don't even mind anymore! Come on, piss for me while you're at it, bitch! You will? Can you shit, too, for an extra $100? Great! Now, maybe you could eat it up...

Eyeball Kicks (Eyeball Kicks), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 19:22 (twenty-two years ago)

The bit that bothers me most is my own "Ho hum, lookie here - it's just more ugly porn. Hello delete bin" feeling. It's like I've lost something - like the energy to fight, to say *anything* most of the time. How depressing is that?

Kim (Kim), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 19:23 (twenty-two years ago)

There was a Guardian feature a while back that suggested that the ultra-specialist (i.e. illegal) pr0n is mostly free, or rather shared - you need to know a bit before you get access, and make contact with the people involved. (Another music parallel - early 80s ultra-underground industrial tape releases were nominally for sale but were so limited that in order to get hold of them you basically had to know the right people)

Tom (Groke), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 19:23 (twenty-two years ago)

Matthew the point is that we don't assume that creative urges are fulfilled whatever, we assume that they can be encouraged/discouraged. Why be more determinist about violent ones?

Tom (Groke), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 19:24 (twenty-two years ago)

I Got Ta... Kn kn kn know what what's your fanta-ta-zeee

"Is 'abusive' role-play in the bedroom bad or dangerous? Or is it a healthy way of processing unprocessable thoughts?"

Tracer Hand (tracerhand), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 19:24 (twenty-two years ago)

I have the amazing ability to not transfer my views of women I see in porn to women I actually encounter in real life.

oops (Oops), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 19:25 (twenty-two years ago)

I think the jading people's reactions to porn is the best thing that could happen, because maybe then I'll get more interesting spam than "NAKED HORNY TEENAGE SLUTS XXX" for the nth time.

Dan Perry (Dan Perry), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 19:25 (twenty-two years ago)

"Total side issue but - is all old theory automatically redundant? If so doesn't it mean that current theory is implicitly also wrong?"

Well, I see your point Tom, but if you look back for example at feminist discourse of the sixties and earlier, it had a very middle class, white perspective because it was being written by middle class whites to respond to the dilemmas of middle class white women. Eventually other perspectives -- those of black women, lesbians -- forced themselves into the debate. In my opinion, this broadened feminist theory, made it more realistic, more politically useful because it had adapted to the times. So, in my opinion, theory struggles to make itself relevant to the times at hand. And your right, *facets* of the current theory do become outmoded, like anything else, as time passes. Other facets remane relevant. But to barge into an innocous thread spouting anti-porn arguments that had been rejected by many contemporary feminists strikes me as damaging to contemporary feminism.

Paula G., Wednesday, 12 March 2003 19:28 (twenty-two years ago)

i suggested nothing determinist - of course violent instincts can be encouraged and discouraged. in a less organised and direct way than academic creative pirsuits, less organised than in the free discussion of pop music. but an individual on their own will quietly take note, then act upon.

matthew james (matthew james), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 19:34 (twenty-two years ago)

Well actually the first person to mention feminists was Calum - who described some "fat and ugly" ones he saw protesting against Razzle outside WH Smiths in the 80s. The thread had remained entirely underailed beforehand!

I see your point about feminist theory Paula. I haven't read much of it, so I didn't mention feminism in my posts (also I would hope there are ways to talk about porn and its impacts and content which don't require feminist theory of any kind). My broad impression - which might be completely wrong - is that most cultural-political theories have moved from interventionist and proscriptive leanings to more libertarian positions over the course of the 80s and 90s, for all sorts of reasons.

(Honesty time - I didn't actually read Calum OR Pashmina's subsequent posts very carefully cos I was only on the thread having been summoned as a moderator to put a not-safe-for-work flag on it.)

Tom (Groke), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 19:37 (twenty-two years ago)

I object to the way certain parties in the ILM thread introduced pseudo feminist talk about porn into a harmless "who do you fancy" thread. I say pseudo- feminist because the most verbose poster in that hijacked thread has apparently read no feminist theory about pornography written after about 1990. The people -- they must be guys, or "feminists" of my mom's generation -- who are fretting about porn on a "cute indie chick" thread are perpetuating the notion that feminism is all about raining on parades and going after flimsy straw men.
Or perhaps they were just responding to this sub-manning nonsense:

When I was a kid these feminists were trying to rally support outside WH Smith in Edinburgh because they had been arrested for going in the shop and scribbling with marker pens over the porn. From what I recall, and yes this is a stereotype, they WERE really fat and ugly. Which is fair enough if they were happy like that - but obviously they weren't and their anger was being taken out on 'Claire, Age 19 from Colchester, likes puppy dogs and men with big willies'.

Calum makes a lot of assumptions about what i want, and what I don't want, what i like and don't like to do, my sexuality and even my sex, based i think more on his prejudices & lock-brain thinking than actually reading what I said. Time and again he has put words into my mouth, opinions that i do not hold in order to bolster his own feeble case. I would discuss this (the thread), but not with a fuckwit like that leading the discussion. Sorry.

Pashmina (Pashmina), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 19:37 (twenty-two years ago)

honestly, when I saw the thread title I thought y'all were talking about this article: http://www.nerve.com/regulars/ididitforscience/24hours/

M Matos (M Matos), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 19:40 (twenty-two years ago)

Ideally, I'd prefer my porn to be without all the garbage currently wrapped up in 95% of it: the dangerous rhetoric (see Kim's example), the delusional fantasy element ("that girl needs a good f*ck"), the lopsided power relations (four guys + one girl etc) -> this is all pretty much native to porn by now.

I worry that it's basically impossible to cherry pick the elements that you WANT from porn (ie. the fucking, the visuals) without having some of that other detritus seep in to your subconscious. I swear to God sometimes it's impossible to negotiate the fine line between allowing yourself to be sexually healthy and unrepressed and being complicit in something you think is really ugly and isolating.

mark p (Mark P), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 19:47 (twenty-two years ago)

'four guys + one girl'

Blame the designer. Some things are more logistically possible than others. Although 'four' is a bit much, unless it's Daniella Westbrook

dave q, Wednesday, 12 March 2003 19:49 (twenty-two years ago)

(Perfect example: if I were in the porn industry I'd probably say "four ON one", like it was a faceoff or battle or hostile takeover of some sort.)

mark p (Mark P), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 19:51 (twenty-two years ago)

dave q i kiss you.

Sterling Clover (s_clover), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 19:53 (twenty-two years ago)

I swear to God sometimes it's impossible to negotiate the fine line between allowing yourself to be sexually healthy and unrepressed and being complicit in something you think is really ugly and isolating.

This is pretty much the crux of why I started the thread. I think it might not be a line, more of a crossover-zone, unfortunately.

(But on the other hand we have been marketed "lack of repression" as surely as we have been marketed everything else.)

Tom (Groke), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 19:53 (twenty-two years ago)

Are we here on ILE non-typical porn consumers? Or are the people who actually enjoy the things that mark p and others (like myself) dislike keeping quiet? It seems that most people must like these things or they would not be so prevalent

oops (Oops), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 19:53 (twenty-two years ago)

That's what I mean by a crossover-zone oops - I've been aroused by stuff I've seen which I've also disliked. I think we are non-typical consumers though: the original b*ngb*s thread had a wider range but got deleted.

Tom (Groke), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 19:58 (twenty-two years ago)

It's not so much that I "like" these things as much as it is the slant you guys are putting on them is so off-putting that no one who wants to avoid being labelled a woman-hating neanderthal is going to try to argue against you.

Dan Perry (Dan Perry), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 20:00 (twenty-two years ago)

"I swear to God sometimes it's impossible to negotiate the fine line between allowing yourself to be (...) healthy and unrepressed and being complicit in something you think is really ugly and isolating."

Welcome to the human experience in general.

It's a violent misogynistic world, as is the collective unconscious. I submit that it was no less so in demure Victorian times. The email spam I get about Make your cock ten feet long with this one pill, Prime young virgins raped with extreme prejudice, etc., are exhibits A through Infinity for the prosecution. The current state of porn is an *effect* of an unequal society.

Paula G., Wednesday, 12 March 2003 20:01 (twenty-two years ago)

The current state of porn is an *effect* of an unequal society.

So accepting and participating in the type of porn that reinforces this inequality helps *how* exactly?

Kim (Kim), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 20:08 (twenty-two years ago)

"Calum makes a lot of assumptions about what i want, and what I don't want, what i like and don't like to do, my sexuality and even my sex, based i think more on his prejudices & lock-brain thinking than actually reading what I said. Time and again he has put words into my mouth, opinions that i do not hold in order to bolster his own feeble case. I would discuss this (the thread), but not with a fuckwit like that leading the discussion. Sorry."

Likewise, you have ASSUMED that viewers of pornographic material are LAMERS and those that participate in porn are in fact subject to male abuse. So, really, I concluded that you were an ignorant buffoon and probably knew little about porn or film in general (as seen by your rubbishing of 'The Driller Killer' - Ferrarra's admitedly flawed debut skidrow flick). I have no problem with you calling me a 'fuckwitt' but this 'fuckwitt' stated, WITH EXAMPLES, why you were wrong in your points. I sympathise that you do not enjoy porn, as I have stated in many cases I don't either. BUT as I live in a democratic country I excercise my right not to purchase or watch it.

I can leave it at that. Obviously you cannot and need to come on here and excercise some sort of inner demon.

Personally, I could care less. You remind me of a bad itch that you can't rid off. By the way - the women outside WH Smith in my example WERE fat and DID say they were feminists. I'd like to ask why, therefore, describing them as 'fat feminists' is wrong?

Calum Robert, Wednesday, 12 March 2003 20:21 (twenty-two years ago)

Kim - there are better things to protest about. Do a Google search on the bear bile industry, which never fails to turn me to tears, or look up the BUAV.

Anyhow... I think most people against porn are against it due to, perhaps, strict religous beliefs. This is something that DOES piss me off. I bet Jesus had a wank once in a while...

Calum Robert, Wednesday, 12 March 2003 20:27 (twenty-two years ago)

And I hear Kirshna was pretty horny...

Calum Robert, Wednesday, 12 March 2003 20:28 (twenty-two years ago)

Duh!

I meant Krishna

Calum Robert, Wednesday, 12 March 2003 20:29 (twenty-two years ago)

Kim, your use of the word "reinforce" is begging the question. The question is: *does* porn perpetuate/reinforce subjection of or violence against women? I say it doesn't. It *reflects* tendencies and desires already existing. Let drugs be a lesson here: you try to outlaw something without eliminating the demand for it, you end up creating pushing it out of site, behind closed doors, underground. As of 2003, sexuality and gender relations remain explosive, difficult to legislate areas of human experience. I prefer to have their uglier manifestations out in the open where I can keep an eye on 'em.

Paula G., Wednesday, 12 March 2003 20:32 (twenty-two years ago)

"By the way - the women outside WH Smith in my example WERE fat and DID say they were feminists. I'd like to ask why, therefore, describing them as 'fat feminists' is wrong?"

Oh come on, don't you know anything about writing and the use of inflammatory language? You used those terms together in order to be provocative, knowing full well that they *were* provocative. I've defended you to some extent here, but to plead ignorance of your own obvious rhetorical strategy is indefensible. Imagine someone writing, "but they *were* African Americans...they *did* have thick lips...one of them *was* eating watermelon." If you want to use stereotypes for effect, fine, but don't pretend you're just objectively reporting.

Paula G., Wednesday, 12 March 2003 20:37 (twenty-two years ago)

Fair enough Paula, as a scholar of English I know full well of 'loaded words' and plead guilty.

I'll go and hide under my shell now.

Calum Robert, Wednesday, 12 March 2003 20:41 (twenty-two years ago)

(Wait, so no one disagrees that the anti-porn posts are written such that you can't argue against them without looking like an ass?)

Dan Perry (Dan Perry), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 20:44 (twenty-two years ago)

Dan I disagree with it, especially as some people are managing to do just that. I think a lot of the pro-porn posts are defensive and/or straw man. In fact I think dividing the discussion into 'anti' and 'pro' is defensive, given that many of the porn-doubters here use porn!

Tom (Groke), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 20:49 (twenty-two years ago)

I'm amused that people are using porn spam as if it's some sort of register of the state of porn in our society. It's spam! It's a bunch of pranksters putting something in your box to piss you off. There was a great article in one of those magazines that has great articles -- let's say Harper's -- a few years back where the author tried to purchase one thing -- anything -- from a spammer -- and none of the spam led to an actual business.

So. Of course spam is extreme! That's its point. That we've gotten used to it, as a society, says more about our attitudes towards spam than about our attitudes towards sex or porn or women.

Chris P (Chris P), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 20:57 (twenty-two years ago)

Ideally, I'd prefer my porn to be without all the garbage currently wrapped up in 95% of it: the dangerous rhetoric (see Kim's example), the delusional fantasy element ("that girl needs a good f*ck"), the lopsided power relations (four guys + one girl etc) -> this is all pretty much native to porn by now.

This is the post that was at the forefront of my mind when I wrote my original post and the above paraphrase. I haven't seen anyone defend any of these things; I started to but deleted the post because I couldn't say exactly what I wanted to, but now it looks like I should:

IMO, the "dangerous rhetoric" quoted by Kim is not dangerous if you aren't an idiot. In my mind, labelling that type of logic as "dangerous" is a step away from saying that the people who follow the link to the porn are Neanderthal morons, and as low as my opinion of humanity is, I don't think EVERYONE who looks at porn is a Neanderthal moron.

Removing the delusional fantasy element from pornography turns it into pictures of anonymous people having sex with no attempt at building a narrative. That's fine for those "500 CUM SHOTS!" compilations, but there's a reason that no one ever sits down and watches those things straight through (and why erotic fiction is just extended descriptions of orgasms). Furthermore, mixing the line "the girl needs a good f*ck" in with the "dangerous rhetoric" argument automatically casts most porn as a rape fantasy, which I don't think is the aim of most porn producers. Are we to believe that women NEVER want a good f*ck?

Casting group sex as "lopsided power relations" and focusing only on the multiple guys/one girl angle shows more of a hang-up about the idea of sex being between more than one person than it does about the actual scenario. Furthermore, it monolithically lumps together the people in the scene based on their sex and ignores the fact that the actors/participants are individual people.

Dan Perry (Dan Perry), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 21:06 (twenty-two years ago)

but someone did watch them straight through, for 24 hours! (see my link above)

M Matos (M Matos), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 21:08 (twenty-two years ago)

I'm not clicking on any links in this thread while I'm at work!

(Related thing: My title bar now permanently says "Absolute Porn Corrupts Absolutely".)

Dan Perry (Dan Perry), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 21:10 (twenty-two years ago)

Ideally, I'd prefer my porn to be without all the garbage currently wrapped up in 95% of it: the dangerous rhetoric (see Kim's example), the delusional fantasy element ("that girl needs a good f*ck"), the lopsided power relations (four guys + one girl etc) -> this is all pretty much native to porn by now.
I worry that it's basically impossible to cherry pick the elements that you WANT from porn (ie. the fucking, the visuals) without having some of that other detritus seep in to your subconscious.

Which is precisely why censorship of porn is self-defeating. If you don't like the subtext of the porn that other people have made, go make your own. Yes porn may be associated (most of the time) with lopsided distributions of power and the whole lot of it. But it is also associated with sex and pleasure and freedom. There is no reason to give up on those ideals and end the debate right there.

-M, Wednesday, 12 March 2003 21:11 (twenty-two years ago)

no i haven't read the thread, so i probably shouldn't post. but i'm actually kind of sick of the porn debate. how many threads about it do we need? my views, again: 1) porn is not inherently bad. 2) het porn is largely degrading to women.

di smith (lucylurex), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 21:15 (twenty-two years ago)

(I was gonna complain about my title bar too, Dan--mine says 'absolute porn corrupt')

oops (Oops), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 21:16 (twenty-two years ago)

(Going to another site and coming back fixed it.)

(I want to make an "Absolut Porn" JPEG now.)

Dan Perry (Dan Perry), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 21:18 (twenty-two years ago)

Yes, exactly what Tom said. I'm in no way "anti-porn" - that's like saying that someone is anti-literature just because they don't like reading certain books.

Paula, I've seen nothing in my life that would dissuade me from believing that conditioning exists. I disagree that porn is only a reflection of society - which parts of society are the "real" ones then?

If *ONLY* that spam were in any way an extreme example - it's a mundane one. That was the point.

Kim (Kim), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 21:18 (twenty-two years ago)

1/ I used thee term "lamer" 3 times. Once was when i referred to porn as "lamer orientated". I stand by this. I have yet to see any porn that i think is any good. much of that which I see is so piss-poor, that I can't imagine anyone liking it. the other two uses were directed at you.

2/ at no point did i state that those who participate in p0rn are subject to male abuse.

3/ you seem to have a bug up yer ass about "driller killer". I only mentioned it because you mentioned video nasties in thee 1st place. it was the 1st video nasty i thought of off the top of my head. While you are correct that it is better that ferrara's later films, i have actually seen it, and i didn't think it had much merit.

4/ i am not a christian

Pashmina (Pashmina), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 21:19 (twenty-two years ago)

"I disagree that porn is only a reflection of society - which parts of society are the "real" ones then?"

Kim, good point. But I really believe that the murky realms of *desire* are exceedingly difficult to legislate. I admit I'm a fan of Nadine Strossen's arguments in the book "Defending Pornography: Free Speech, Sex, and the Fight for Women's Rights". She claims, and backs up her claims with in my opinion convincing evidence, that the alliance between anti-porn feminists (MacKinnon, Dworkin, et al.) and anti-feminist Christian right wingers like Meese would result, if allowed to proceed unchecked, in the "patriarchal state" being invested with more and more legal authority over women's bodies and sexuality. This specter frightens me much more than the idea that certain ugly desires are being fed by certain types of distasteful porn.

Paula G., Wednesday, 12 March 2003 21:35 (twenty-two years ago)

which parts of society are the "real" ones then?

I think this is a deeply fascinating question. My first instinct is to say "None of them" but I don't think that's a defensible position.

Dan Perry (Dan Perry), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 21:38 (twenty-two years ago)

In theory, Dan, you're right I think. In practice, I think the disparity in earnings between men and women, for example, is more "real" (or if you like, more quantifiable) than the supposed "degrading" effects of pornography.

Paula G., Wednesday, 12 March 2003 21:42 (twenty-two years ago)

The trick is that porn cannot really be legislated unless you want to put serious constraints of freedom of speech and start down the slippery slope. Porn's affect on society is most like that of a recretional drug. Many people are addicted, many people are exploited, and ultimately the people getting rich in the process are the middlemen with the intelligence to stay detached from the process as much as possible.

I think pornography exploits all humans - some for a basic lust weakness and others bcz they need money and don't know how else to get it (just like a drug) and the answer in the end is that you can't ban it, you just have to realize what it is and not get swept up by it.

Here is a story involving J*L0, sc#t, watersp000rtz and lesbi@nißm

Millar (Millar), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 21:48 (twenty-two years ago)

Casting group sex as "lopsided power relations" and focusing only on the multiple guys/one girl angle shows more of a hang-up about the idea of sex being between more than one person than it does about the actual scenario. Furthermore, it monolithically lumps together the people in the scene based on their sex and ignores the fact that the actors/participants are individual people.

hold on, are you saying we are supposed to ignore the gender of the participants as if it doesn't mean anything? this is just silly. OF COURSE the gender of the participants is meaningful. if it weren't, het people would consume gay porn as much as they consume het porn, and then boring old het porn wouldn't be so well overexposed *cough*.

di smith (lucylurex), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 22:00 (twenty-two years ago)

Who said anything about legislation? I'm with Norman Phay - I just think it's good to try to effect change by saying what you think is what.

Kim (Kim), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 22:01 (twenty-two years ago)

In that case, I hear you!

Paula G., Wednesday, 12 March 2003 22:05 (twenty-two years ago)

I don't think there is enough distinction here between what I think are two orthogonal concepts. I see horrible misogyny as much and as often in the softest of porn as in the hardest, and I see plenty of hardcore porn in which I detect no sexism at all, or not so much as to distinguish it from 90% of movies, books and the like.

My position is therefore to oppose (not try to ban, just speak against and not buy) anything I find misogynist, whether it's the Daily Mail or rape-fantasy porn, while supporting with voice and money things I approve of and enjoy, which includes some hardcore porn. I've not found it hard to avoid the stuff I consider thoroughly nasty.

Martin Skidmore (Martin Skidmore), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 22:06 (twenty-two years ago)

i think some people should take it a step further too, kim. if a person is uncomfortable with het porn, for the usual reasons (its sexist and the industry is sexist), but continues to consume it, why don't they just give it up? or look for less exploitative alternatives? or is it "uncool" these days to actually try and live up to your principles?

di smith (lucylurex), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 22:09 (twenty-two years ago)

My position is therefore to oppose (not try to ban, just speak against and not buy) anything I find misogynist, whether it's the Daily Mail or rape-fantasy porn, while supporting with voice and money things I approve of and enjoy, which includes some hardcore porn. I've not found it hard to avoid the stuff I consider thoroughly nasty. My position is therefore to oppose (not try to ban, just speak against and not buy) anything I find misogynist, whether it's the Daily Mail or rape-fantasy porn, while supporting with voice and money things I approve of and enjoy, which includes some hardcore porn. I've not found it hard to avoid the stuff I consider thoroughly nasty.

yay for thoughtful porn consumers!

di smith (lucylurex), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 22:11 (twenty-two years ago)

My beef with porn

:-(

N. (nickdastoor), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 22:13 (twenty-two years ago)

hold on, are you saying we are supposed to ignore the gender of the participants as if it doesn't mean anything? this is just silly. OF COURSE the gender of the participants is meaningful. if it weren't, het people would consume gay porn as much as they consume het porn, and then boring old het porn wouldn't be so well overexposed *cough*.

Is a pornographic scene where multiple men are having sex with one woman inherently degrading to the woman?

Also, why are you cheering Martin as if he's doing something that the rest of us aren't doing?

Dan Perry (Dan Perry), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 22:14 (twenty-two years ago)

dan: did i say it was? all i said was that ignoring gender in porn is pretty stupid. as for the scene, it would depend on what is involved. also: i don't KNOW how you all consume porn, so why should i cheer?

di smith (lucylurex), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 22:21 (twenty-two years ago)

The times (quite a lot of them) when I've had sex when there were more men than women involved, there was loads of care to make the woman (or once, women) feel very comfortable and more in charge than not, to bear in mind the possible outnumbered feelings. As far as I know (and I'm pretty positive about this) the women were always happy and comfortable with it all on that level, however satisfactory or not the actual sex was.

Martin Skidmore (Martin Skidmore), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 22:22 (twenty-two years ago)

Anyway, my original point wasn't that we should ignore gender; Mark was positing that multiple men with one woman creates a power imbalance because there are more of one sex than another. I don't think this is an accurate way of describing scenes with multiple men and one woman, largely because it turns all of the men in the scene into a monolithic, hulking ueberman whose only purpose is to sexually threaten the woman until she cums (pause while I giggle at that image).

I agree completely that it depends entirely on what is involved in the scene, which is why I thought it was odd that Mark painted all such scenes as power imbalances.

Dan Perry (Dan Perry), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 22:31 (twenty-two years ago)

okeley dokeley.

di smith (lucylurex), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 22:33 (twenty-two years ago)

BAD JESS. - Mod At Work

jess (dubplatestyle), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 22:35 (twenty-two years ago)

Di, well if I'm going to go to the trouble of saying I don't like something, it also follows that I'll take reasonable actions not to consume or otherwise support it. That's what I meant anyway.

Kim (Kim), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 22:48 (twenty-two years ago)

hee hee

jess (dubplatestyle), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 22:50 (twenty-two years ago)

(sorry)

jess (dubplatestyle), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 22:50 (twenty-two years ago)

One of the ways in which I have been corrupted by the interweb is that I have got too lazy to search ILE for the previous porn threads.

I'm an ethical porn consumer in that I won't seek out or financially support anything I don't feel comfortable about. I'm a freeloading swine in that I won't financially support any of the other stuff either, though.

Tom (Groke), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 22:51 (twenty-two years ago)

I should emphasise that I certainly wasn't imagining I was the only one making such choices. I just think we are mixing up two issues that are separate, and talking as if porn, or maybe just hardcore porn, is somehow inherently sexist, and I think this muddies the issue rather.

Martin Skidmore (Martin Skidmore), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 22:52 (twenty-two years ago)

suicidegirls roxx u r all gay

electric sound of jim (electricsound), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 22:54 (twenty-two years ago)

er.. sorry

electric sound of jim (electricsound), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 22:54 (twenty-two years ago)

IMO, the "dangerous rhetoric" quoted by Kim is not dangerous if you aren't an idiot.

(First off: Dan, I'm going to assume that you didn't intend to furtively imply that I'm an idiot simply because I don't happen to share your views.)

In my mind, labelling that type of logic as "dangerous" is a step away from saying that the people who follow the link to the porn are Neanderthal morons, and as low as my opinion of humanity is, I don't think EVERYONE who looks at porn is a Neanderthal moron.

It's not logic - it's rhetoric; you don't have to see a lot of porn to pick up on the fact that there's a preferred set of language used throughout. It's a trend that you yourself identified upthread by (presumably) fabricating the title of an average spam e-mail: "NAKED HORNY SLUTS". That ugly word is right there -> 'sluts'. That you chose it out of thin air for your example illustrates how bound those nasty words (and by extension, IDEAS) are to pornography. That's what I was saying.

As for those words being dangerous, I think we're operating on different assessments of 'danger' here. You argue that any intelligent person should be able to see this stuff at face value and make value judgements accordingly. Agreed - nobody here is suggesting that merely being exposed to naked horny sluts is going to instantly alter the way that one views women. But I AM wondering how much of the damage done by the marriage of these ideas to these images can surreptitiously seep through into the subconscious even after one has actively chosen NOT to receive them.

The obvious analogy here is advertising, which is similar insofar as that it also involves a steady barrage of ideas existing within a certain value set. Just because you consciously choose NOT to receive them doesn't mean you still won't. Or at least fragments of them.

Removing the delusional fantasy element from pornography turns it into pictures of anonymous people having sex with no attempt at building a narrative.

Dan, I dare suggest there are ways to build a narrative that DON'T make the female character seem like a hapless fuck toy. Surprise: porn directed by females is typically much better at accomplishing this. A lot of porn directed by males tends to tow a misogynic line in this regard. To wit: the girls (never 'women') are hyper-compressed into one-dimensional "sluts" who "need c*ck".

Granted, I think some of this psychology is enacted in the interest of alleviating male anxiety (the easier or needier a women is, the likelier she will fuck you), but I do get uncomfortable when the rhetoric crosses over into words like "bitches" or "sluts". Those aren't picked out of thin air - to argue that they're just there and you should ignore them if you can is to reject an awful lot of subtext.

Casting group sex as "lopsided power relations" and focusing only on the multiple guys/one girl angle shows more of a hang-up about the idea of sex being between more than one person than it does about the actual scenario.

To assume that I've got some sort of hang-up about group sex because I'm typically uncomfortable watching four guys and one girl is to make a gross assumption about all sorts of things that you're neither qualified nor informed enough to assume anything about. See Oops' post for the best example of the scenario I was referring to here.

Obviously there's going to be exceptions to every rule: I've seen the odd female porn star talk about feeling empowered when they're the only female in the bunch, and I get that. But too often the context of these scenes is that of a bread line, the men paid customers (with their gender as their currency) and the woman as duty-bound receptacles.

mark p (Mark P), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 22:57 (twenty-two years ago)

jim sometimes you frighten me

jess (dubplatestyle), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 22:58 (twenty-two years ago)

in a recognition way

jess (dubplatestyle), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 22:59 (twenty-two years ago)

it's a beautiful thing

electric sound of jim (electricsound), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 23:00 (twenty-two years ago)

(I should also point out that nearly none of the trends I'm talking about here apply to porn of the "plumber comes over to fix the kitchen sink" variety. Although this conceit is the one most frequently referenced in pop cultural circles, the reality is that it's enormously outnumbered by things of the B*ngb*s variety, where the not-so-subtle context is generally "let's lie/cheat/take steal from these bitches/sluts/hoes and then LAUGH AT IT".)

mark p (Mark P), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 23:05 (twenty-two years ago)

I remember another sex variation that you only get in porn (I presume): where one lesbian is wearing a strap on dildo, and the other one sucks it. It always makes me laugh. Girl A can't feel a thing; Girl B pointlessly has a mouthful of plastic.

Eyeball Kicks (Eyeball Kicks), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 23:20 (twenty-two years ago)

i don't get the strap-on thing at all really - and very little in the sexual arena confuses me.

electric sound of jim (electricsound), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 23:27 (twenty-two years ago)

it goes around your waist

mark p (Mark P), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 23:29 (twenty-two years ago)

no, no i think jim was lamenting that he hadnt been buggered in a while

jess (dubplatestyle), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 23:32 (twenty-two years ago)

(I am too tired to cut and paste Mark's post.)

Full exposure (haha): I don't look at that much porn. I would never even have known about the B*ngb*s phenom has it not been for ILX. It doesn't make a huge impact upon my life and I have no conception of it being the main mode of modern pornography.

Also, I didn't choose "NAKED HORNY SLUTS" out of thin air; that's an actual email I've received. My point isn't that "slut" isn't a nice word as much as it is that it gets flung about willy-nilly in this context to the point where I think it's lost potency in that context (see also the use of the word "nigga" in hip-hop).

There are certainly ways of building narrative that don't make the woman seem like a hapless fucktoy. There are also ways of expressing that the woman DOES really, really want to get fucked without it meaning that she must be a hapless fucktoy, which is the implication I got from your original post.

Everything I've written about in this thread I have based on posts in this thread. I don't see Oops describing any group scenarios in this thread and you gave no wider context than "four guys and one girl". I freely admit that you aren't going to find a tender, emotionally-charged love scene with four guys and one girl in most pornography, but I think it's equally demeaning to everyone in the scene to automatically cast it as four men oppressing a woman; it's demeaning to the men because it goes right back to the "brutish Neanderthal" thing and it's demeaning to the woman because it projects the assumption that there is no way any woman could ever derive pleasure from being in that situation.

(Speaking of power imablances, where does BDSM fit into all of this?)

Dan Perry (Dan Perry), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 23:36 (twenty-two years ago)

FUCKING HELL I hate myself on this thread. I should have eaten today.

Dan Perry (Dan Perry), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 23:41 (twenty-two years ago)

Also, I didn't choose "NAKED HORNY SLUTS" out of thin air; that's an actual email I've received. My point isn't that "slut" isn't a nice word as much as it is that it gets flung about willy-nilly in this context to the point where I think it's lost potency in that context (see also the use of the word "nigga" in hip-hop).

if a word is flung about willy-nilly, i don't think that means it has lost its potency at all. often its potency is in the fact that its barely noticed. and the n-word in hiphop is different, unless theres some culture i'm unaware of where pornchicks CONSTANTLY AND ROUTINELY refer to themselves and other women as sluts.

di smith (lucylurex), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 23:44 (twenty-two years ago)

My point isn't that "slut" isn't a nice word as much as it is that it gets flung about willy-nilly in this context to the point where I think it's lost potency in that context (see also the use of the word "nigga" in hip-hop).

The obvious problem with this comparison = women aren't the ones re-appropriating "slut" in the porn industry.

And - major apologies to Oops - I actually meant to refer you to Eyeball Kicks' post.

mark p (Mark P), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 23:44 (twenty-two years ago)

Honestly, I've never seen double-anal porn. The simple logistics do not compute for me.

I think perhaps we're butting heads because I don't see the types of you're talking about EVER and I've watched so many episodes of Real Sex that I have no problem believing that many people (men AND women) doing the more twisted things actually do get off on it, taking it out of the realm where I feel comfortable passing judgement.

Also, my perspective is warped because WAY BACK in high school I knew a group of girls who called themselves "The Nubby Crew" and had a running competition to see who could fuck the most guys in a school year. These girls affectionately called themselves and each other sluts. That is not the porn industry, but having seen that certainly shades how I view women who work in adult entertainment in situations/scenes where they are referred to as "sluts"; namely, it is not outside the realm of possibility that they don't find that offensive.

Dan Perry (Dan Perry), Wednesday, 12 March 2003 23:54 (twenty-two years ago)

I'm going home because I am hungry and rambling and I can't think.

Dan Perry (Dan Perry), Thursday, 13 March 2003 00:07 (twenty-two years ago)

I think perhaps we're butting heads

tee-hee.

Spencer Chow (spencermfi), Thursday, 13 March 2003 00:08 (twenty-two years ago)

Ow.

Dan Perry (Dan Perry), Thursday, 13 March 2003 00:10 (twenty-two years ago)

Why is it that the folks moaning about porn are the ones that have sat through the sort of shit that I'd run a mile to avoid watching and having implanted on my brain???? I mean, no way in all of hell would I want to see five guys take a woman up the sphincter or whatever. Uergh!!!

The most I did was put up a pic of Belinda Carlisle in the nude.

P.S. By the way - just to make this point... I'm not infringing on anyone's right to WATCH five guys take one woman up the butt. Presuming she agreed to the act in question and all that of course (Calum now hears some ILM postees saying: 'But what if she was only doing it for the money' to which I reply: 'I'm tired and I'm going to bed').

Calum Robert, Thursday, 13 March 2003 00:11 (twenty-two years ago)

I don't think I have anything to say here that hasn't been said, so just chalk one more vote up for whichever category says:

(a) The ILM thread appeared to be mostly harmless who-do-you-fancy stuff.
(b) Talk of legislative "banning" is sort of irrelevant in that no one here has suggested any changes on that level.
(c) There is such a thing as a "social environment" and some contributions to it are positive while others are not.
(d) Saying "each to his own" is fine on a legal level but it's important to take personal stands on what you think contributes positively or negatively to the social environment -- which is why we don't say "each to his own" about neo-Nazis, we say "that's awful."
(e) Porn, as a whole, as it currently exists, makes certain contributions to the social environment that are negative. Not all porn, but significant portions of it.
(f) This doesn't make it demonically wrong to get off on these negative things -- people get off on the "negative" all the time. But if we honestly feel they offer something negative, we should do our best to avoid them and register our disapproval when appropriate. Again, this means not porn in general but the bits we believe are making truly negative contributions to our social environment.

I find it interesting that Calum, despite his "each to his own" and his emphasis on consent, suddenly drew a massive line and was willing to openly condemn someone like Max Hardcore. I mean, Calum, I don't know a lot of details about this guy, but I imagine that the women in his films are there consensually and are compensated: what you're making is a moral judgment about the content and whether it contributes to a positive environment or a negative one. This is all other people are trying to do about other portions of porn. (And if I had to make a call from what I know of this stuff, I'd say that the material coming from people like M.H. and others who "everybody agrees" has crossed the line is really only an extreme exaggeration of content that's already latent in a great deal of "mainstream" porn.)

nabisco (nabisco), Thursday, 13 March 2003 00:36 (twenty-two years ago)

If you read my arguement you'll see that I clearly stated censorship should only be exorcised when partcipants are actually being bruised or hurt in some way whether consentual or not. Max Hardcore and porn of this kind does result in the participants being hurt (for real). One guy said that he saw porn where a woman was being gagged by oral sex. Not in a UK shop you didn't mate - because we excercise the banning or cutting of material where this happens. Check out the BBFC's guidelines.

I also said I think pornography where the woman is raped as part of a screenplay (although she is consenting) bothers me and that I would not argue against the censorship of such material.

Calum Robert, Thursday, 13 March 2003 07:48 (twenty-two years ago)

So you're against even fictional portrayals of rape? Including Jody Foster in The Accused, for example? And if someone is bruised in making a movie it's bad? Stunt men to thread!

nickn (nickn), Thursday, 13 March 2003 09:08 (twenty-two years ago)

"So you're against even fictional portrayals of rape? Including Jody Foster in The Accused, for example? And if someone is bruised in making a movie it's bad? Stunt men to thread!"

Wow, I stumble on to this thread, and it reads like a first semester ethics class! We've got some pseudo-theory, lots of descriptions of graphic acts that my lilly-ass had never even though possible, and then lill-Nick's nit-picking reply to controversial CR.

I think what CR was talking about was the intent of the material in question. Our hypothetical, dysfunctional porn aficionado, who is used to watching films like "just turned eighteen years old pussy-life-support-machine slag with a huge dirt-bag takes on Dad, Grandad, and nineteen hillbilly half-brothers with a huge gang-rape finale" isn't exactly going to get off on "The Accused" is he (or she?) I mean, if they are used to beating their meat over this shit, then the profoundly anti-rape film isn't exactly going to play into their mental power (or fill in whatever cod-philosophy/pop-psychology reading here) games.

Or maybe I'm totally wrong.

Anyway, if I was a total sadist, than I may even be getting turned on by the conversation here, and some of the more explicit discussions, and I might even, I don't know, go and stab the dog or something.

But, before my feminist friends club me to death, I do agree that Loaded, FHM, GQ and the like should go on the top shelf. I mean, Front magazine is basically out and out porn.

And I have met some very attractive feminists, although none of them wanted to shag me. But I suppose the attractiveness or uglyness is besides the point.

Adulf "pretty in pink" Hustler., Thursday, 13 March 2003 12:47 (twenty-two years ago)

I didn't want to resurrect this thread but better than starting yet another one, right? I think there's a consensus that ppl automatically get into weirder and weirder shit all the time with predictably appalling results etc. But there's countervailing forces as well. Ppl are social creatures (I've been told) and I think that at some point most ppl want to identify a bit more closely with whatever def. of 'normal'/'well-adjusted' is floating around, and let's face it, nobody is ever going to make any friends by leaving really sick gang-rape shit around their house. (They might read it in private but the furtiveness itself becomes a reason to stop. Like drugs. Ppl don't stop taking drugs cuz they'll kill you and ESPECIALLY not because they 'don't make you feel good' - they do! - but because after a certain point one changes from 'x, he likes to get right on one on occasion' to 'x the fuckin' psycho thieving drooling junkie fuckup', and porn addiction is approx 10,000 times less cool than drug use so the choice comes to either resign yourself to a life of being 'that pervert' [socially somewhat unfulfilling, and these days, a bit dangerous in the legal arena] or just ditch the shit and laugh at the weirdos still buying it, like ex-smokers). Case in point, I used to be into really sick, appalling garbage, but then I decided that it was more a matter of deliberately finding the worst stuff out there, and why get into a losing game (with NO conceivable reward) like that? Plus I don't want that shit in my house. There's some 'high-end' stuff in there bottoming out at 'Playboy's Voluptuous Vixens', but I always tell people "Oh, I'm looking for pictures to re-enact for album covers", they believe it (cuz it's true! You should see some of the fuckin' flyers I've done - but they're photocopies because while they 'believe' me they won't 're-enact' them for me for some reasons, well if art and celebrity don't interest you I can't help you!), and it sort of fits in with some words to live by on this topic (from 'National Lampoon') - "Don't worry about porn, everybody has some. However, one day you might die suddenly and if people are clearing out your house and they find truly disgusting filth you will be written out of the family history and your surviving relatives and friends will try to forget you ever existed, and your legacy will be one of stigma and disgrace. So keep it relatively tame!"

dave q, Thursday, 13 March 2003 15:09 (twenty-two years ago)

Following on from that, a friend's aunt died suddenly a few years ago and when they were clearing out her house they found four album's worth of professional quality photos of her (all at least 20 years old) in various stages of filth and degradation. Apparently the ones of her made up as a vampire and spreading for the camera were particularly distateful.

Matt DC (Matt DC), Thursday, 13 March 2003 15:29 (twenty-two years ago)

i doubt that there's a concensus that "ppl automatically get into weirder and weirder shit all the time with predictably appalling results etc"

ron (ron), Thursday, 13 March 2003 16:08 (twenty-two years ago)

Yeah, Calum, that's still fine: my point is that you're comfortable drawing lines about certain acts. You've decided that pornographic portrayal of e.g. rape is a bad thing, right? Bad enough that it shouldn't be available to people. The only thing other people on this thread have really claimed is that there's similar material in different kinds of porn that's maybe not bad enough to make laws about, but bad enough that we should worry about it and maybe announce that we don't like it.

nabisco (nabisco), Thursday, 13 March 2003 16:26 (twenty-two years ago)

Erm... by fictional depictions of rape I didn't mean 'The Accused' or 'I Spit on your Grave' for that matter. I meant 'Forced Entry' and its ilk where in graphic close up women are fucked while a guy points a gun at their head and says: 'Am I making you bleed down there bitch' whilst REAL footage of executions in third world countries are inserted into the picture. Mmmm.... cum, cum you sadist!!! See what I mean? This DOES offend me.

Alright, I digress... I can't see any positive purpose in someone beating off to this (which IS its purpose, hence the hardcore nature of it). I do consider myself a liberal, but when rape is portrayed with the primary intent of someone wanking off to it, I do draw a line.

I've made my line. Now make yours.

Calum Robert, Thursday, 13 March 2003 17:55 (twenty-two years ago)

nine months pass...
spog

bump, Thursday, 8 January 2004 01:33 (twenty-two years ago)

I'm hopelessly addicted to porn; yet for some unknown reason I haven't been able to look at any for the past 2 or 3 weeks without feeling sick. It's totally weird.

Aaron A., Thursday, 8 January 2004 03:24 (twenty-two years ago)

Overdose.

Andrew (enneff), Thursday, 8 January 2004 03:50 (twenty-two years ago)

i really miss nabisco.

mark p (Mark P), Thursday, 8 January 2004 03:58 (twenty-two years ago)

:-(

Ned Raggett (Ned), Thursday, 8 January 2004 03:58 (twenty-two years ago)

porn has at once ruined and enriched my life. kinda like everything else

the surface noise (electricsound), Thursday, 8 January 2004 04:43 (twenty-two years ago)

good thread this one. i miss calum.

stevem (blueski), Thursday, 8 January 2004 10:35 (twenty-two years ago)

one year passes...
Get your trousers up and give me ten
18/07/2005

Randy cinemagoers in India were given a punishment of public humiliation after being caught with their pants down watching a porn movie.

The 200 or so culprits, some of whom were teenagers younger than 17, were forced to do ten sit ups outside the cinema, some in front of their parents, reports the Hindustan Times.

They also had to vow never to watch a pornographic film again, an activity that is outlawed in India.

Sanjeev Panda, police chief in the Balasore district, said: "Earlier we acted against the [cinema] hall owners and their staff but it failed to effectively check screening of obscene movies, so we decided to crack down on the audience."

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Adam In Real Life (nordicskilla), Monday, 18 July 2005 15:11 (twenty years ago)

10 sit-ups, damn. That's harsh.

Hurting (Hurting), Monday, 18 July 2005 15:23 (twenty years ago)


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