why is it not ok for me to date two people at once?

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what ever happened to "dating"?

― cutty (mcutt), Monday, 25 October 2004 10:30 (twenty-one years ago)

who says it's not ok?

― Freelance Hiveminder (blueski), Monday, 25 October 2004 10:32 (twenty-one years ago)

Depends on your definition of "dating" - and oh no, don't start that all up again.

― Kissing Time At The Pleasure Unit (kate), Monday, 25 October 2004 10:34 (twenty-one years ago)

everyone else says it's not ok. and sometimes the girls i'm dating.

― cutty (mcutt), Monday, 25 October 2004 10:34 (twenty-one years ago)

Well, if it's not okay to the ones you date, you don't have much choice, do you?

― Tuomas (Tuomas), Monday, 25 October 2004 10:35 (twenty-one years ago)

Well, as far as I'm concerned, if you start sleeping with one person, you shouldn't be sleeping with anyone else.

If dating just means getting together for dinner or other activities that don't imply romantic or sexual contact, then there's no reason that you shouldn't "date" more than one person. But really only until you settle on one of those people.

― Kissing Time At The Pleasure Unit (kate), Monday, 25 October 2004 10:37 (twenty-one years ago)

Just don't lie to anyone, mislead them, use them or fuck them over. You'll know when you're overstepping a line,

― Markelby (Mark C), Monday, 25 October 2004 10:42 (twenty-one years ago)

I thought this was called "seeing" people but whatever. You should just find girls that want to do likewise.

― Laura E (laurae55), Monday, 25 October 2004 10:42 (twenty-one years ago)

kate: it seems your definition of dating is also called "friends"

markelby: i try very hard to abide by those rules

― cutty (mcutt), Monday, 25 October 2004 10:44 (twenty-one years ago)

You'll know when you're overstepping a line,

You know, if ONLY this were the case, then there wouldn't be half the heartbreak in the world today...

Most people are not psychic, and don't actually know when they are stepping over someone else's line.

It's really better to talk to your dates/potential dates about this sort of thing, ask them what their ideas of exclusivity are. Plus, don't lie to or mislead people. That's just called being a decent human being.

― Kissing Time At The Pleasure Unit (kate), Monday, 25 October 2004 10:45 (twenty-one years ago)

x-post, if your question is really "why is it not OK for me to FUCK two people at once" then that's a different question.

No, it would not be OK for me. Nor, obviously, for the girls you're talking to. Some people are into that polyamourous stuff, to each their own.

― Kissing Time At The Pleasure Unit (kate), Monday, 25 October 2004 10:46 (twenty-one years ago)

kate: it seems your definition of dating is also called "friends"

Also, that's just not true.

"dating" != synonymous with "sleeping with".

I've dated people I've never slept with. I've slept with people I've never dated.

― Kissing Time At The Pleasure Unit (kate), Monday, 25 October 2004 10:49 (twenty-one years ago)

b honest-use protection-quit bragging

― lukey (Lukey G), Monday, 25 October 2004 11:45 (twenty-one years ago)

LOCK THREAD.

― Tuomas (Tuomas), Monday, 25 October 2004 11:46 (twenty-one years ago)

Yeah, I think it's worse for someone you're casually dating to assume you're not seeing anyone else without making their ideas of your supposed exclusivity known to you.

― roxymuzak (roxymuzak), Monday, 25 October 2004 12:51 (twenty-one years ago)

HA.

I repeat...HA!

― ALLMUSIC.COM (ddb), Monday, 25 October 2004 13:55 (twenty-one years ago)

HI DERE

― sometimes i like to pretend i am very small and warm (ex machina), Monday, 25 October 2004 14:00 (twenty-one years ago)

"dating"

― ALLMUSIC.COM (ddb), Monday, 25 October 2004 14:04 (twenty-one years ago)

i like dating! i feel like i'm in the 50's.

― cutty (mcutt), Monday, 25 October 2004 14:05 (twenty-one years ago)

DOOD. U ARE FULL OF TEH SHIT.

1 girl is your ex, that sneaks into your bed at 4am for DRUNKEN CONGRESS.

teh other girl is a clueless simp.

― ALLMUSIC.COM (ddb), Monday, 25 October 2004 14:07 (twenty-one years ago)

oh my, that is not nice. plz lock thread.

― cutty (mcutt), Monday, 25 October 2004 14:07 (twenty-one years ago)

FLIP FLOPPER.

― ALLMUSIC.COM (ddb), Monday, 25 October 2004 14:07 (twenty-one years ago)

MIXED MESSAGES.

― ALLMUSIC.COM (ddb), Monday, 25 October 2004 14:08 (twenty-one years ago)

MIXED MASSAGES.

― ALLMUSIC.COM (ddb), Monday, 25 October 2004 14:09 (twenty-one years ago)

MAXED OUT MASSAGES

― cutty (mcutt), Monday, 25 October 2004 14:10 (twenty-one years ago)

i miss you two!

― lauren (laurenp), Monday, 25 October 2004 14:14 (twenty-one years ago)

i miss u too LP x 1,000,000,000

― ALLMUSIC.COM (ddb), Monday, 25 October 2004 14:17 (twenty-one years ago)

oh, i'm also dating lauren

― cutty (mcutt), Monday, 25 October 2004 14:17 (twenty-one years ago)

where were you last night, anyway?

― lauren (laurenp), Monday, 25 October 2004 14:18 (twenty-one years ago)

There's nothing wrong with it, as long as all parties are cognizant of the situation and are cool with it. But good luck making that happen!

I've known two separate people who have dated two people at once. In one of the cases, I'm pretty sure that the two datees weren't wholly aware of each other; in the second case, the datees knew about each other but there was massive jealousy and plenty o' tears.

― jaymc (jaymc), Monday, 25 October 2004 14:19 (twenty-one years ago)

http://www.deutsches-filminstitut.de/caligari/dp2fc4839.jpg

― sometimes i like to pretend i am very small and warm (ex machina), Monday, 25 October 2004 14:19 (twenty-one years ago)

where were you last night, anyway?

i was at home, crying in a law book

― cutty (mcutt), Monday, 25 October 2004 14:21 (twenty-one years ago)

as long as you two are just friends.

― lauren (laurenp), Monday, 25 October 2004 14:23 (twenty-one years ago)

i like dating! i feel like i'm in the 50's.

You antique dawg.

― B.A.R.M.S. (Barima), Monday, 25 October 2004 14:24 (twenty-one years ago)

YO I WOULD DAET HILLARY DUFF

― sometimes i like to pretend i am very small and warm (ex machina), Monday, 25 October 2004 14:25 (twenty-one years ago)

This is the stuff that low-rent TV shows are made of.

― Chewshabadoo (Chewshabadoo), Monday, 25 October 2004 14:26 (twenty-one years ago)

So the noize board is down, right?

― Markelby (Mark C), Monday, 25 October 2004 14:49 (twenty-one years ago)

i'm sorry that a discussion i start will elicit responses from associates of mine. i'm sorry that you had to read this thread, mark c.

i'm sorry.

(eat shit)

― cutty (mcutt), Monday, 25 October 2004 14:54 (twenty-one years ago)

Ah fuck off you goldfish-brained loser. You and your little fucking vandal dickhead friends can just shove your ADD druggie toss up your collective arses. Fuck off back to BRIGHT COLOURS AND CAPITAL LETTERS WORLD and everyone'll be happier. Dick.

― Markelby (Mark C), Monday, 25 October 2004 15:01 (twenty-one years ago)

is it not ok to post on two msg boards at once?

― Freelance Hiveminder (blueski), Monday, 25 October 2004 15:02 (twenty-one years ago)

HA.

― ALLMUSIC.COM (ddb), Monday, 25 October 2004 15:02 (twenty-one years ago)

why is it not ok to post on two message boards at once.

discuss.

― ken c (ken c), Monday, 25 October 2004 15:05 (twenty-one years ago)

xpost!!

― ken c (ken c), Monday, 25 October 2004 15:05 (twenty-one years ago)

mark, you've got some serious issues. i post like a normal person on this board. i'm also allowed to post on ILM and my opinions hold equal weight. i don't this thread is bothering anyone else but you. don't read it.

― cutty (mcutt), Monday, 25 October 2004 15:05 (twenty-one years ago)

let's date, stevem

― ken c (ken c), Monday, 25 October 2004 15:06 (twenty-one years ago)

ken: that seems to be what mark is implying. this board is HIS.

― cutty (mcutt), Monday, 25 October 2004 15:06 (twenty-one years ago)

ILX IS FUN TODAY!

YAY!!!!!!!!!

― ALLMUSIC.COM (ddb), Monday, 25 October 2004 15:07 (twenty-one years ago)

also, it's like saying someone who posts on a sheelfuxor/mongrel thread shouldn't post anywhere else.

― cutty (mcutt), Monday, 25 October 2004 15:07 (twenty-one years ago)

It's not just this thread. It's about two dozen of them, all in the last few days, all full of nonsensical one-liners and infinitely repeated pictures. Now you have your own sandpit to play in, why do you have to do it here?*

*I don't mean when you or Jon or whoever posts like normal people obviously.

― Markelby (Mark C), Monday, 25 October 2004 15:08 (twenty-one years ago)

mark's problem is that he is generally a happy dude with a happy life. thus he finds it difficult to identify stuff to get angry about, resulting in you little rascals taking the brunt of some otherwise indisposable energy. it's true guv.

― Dr Fraud (blueski), Monday, 25 October 2004 15:08 (twenty-one years ago)

And my original post was cos you told me to eat shit. That wasn't very nice.

x-post - stevem not too far off the truth :/

― Markelby (Mark C), Monday, 25 October 2004 15:09 (twenty-one years ago)

don't worry be happy!

― Freelance Hiveminder (blueski), Monday, 25 October 2004 15:09 (twenty-one years ago)

so this was necessary?

so the noize board is down, right?

― cutty (mcutt), Monday, 25 October 2004 15:09 (twenty-one years ago)

"goldfish brained loser"?

― cutty (mcutt), Monday, 25 October 2004 15:10 (twenty-one years ago)

to go back on topic, as someone who is currently in a sort of "third guy" situation, I think yes it's totally ok, in fact I think it's so ok you should dump one of them.

― Ronan (Ronan), Monday, 25 October 2004 15:10 (twenty-one years ago)

ihttp://www.wellcarehotline.org/upload/poster_images/goldfish.jpg

― sometimes i like to pretend i am very small and warm (ex machina), Monday, 25 October 2004 15:11 (twenty-one years ago)

look, you insult me, I insult you. You can't complain about that. The noize board comment wasn't directed at you (at all) but just read the dozen or so posts immediately before it. And as I said,it's not just this thread - it just happened to be on this thread that I thought wtf.

― Markelby (Mark C), Monday, 25 October 2004 15:11 (twenty-one years ago)

to be fair mark did answer your question earlier upthread.. i think he was directing the "so the noise board is down, right" remark to the dudes who was like "HA" "HAHAHAHAH" "HAHHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAH" etc. rather than you.

― ken c (ken c), Monday, 25 October 2004 15:13 (twenty-one years ago)

xpost x 10

― ken c (ken c), Monday, 25 October 2004 15:13 (twenty-one years ago)

You're such a fucking douchebag. xpost

― sometimes i like to pretend i am very small and warm (ex machina), Monday, 25 October 2004 15:14 (twenty-one years ago)

I'm pretty conservative about this sort of thing. Love and relationships are about sacrifice IMO and that means loyalty. If you're dating two people then you're a sleazebag.

― Mad.Mike, Monday, 25 October 2004 15:14 (twenty-one years ago)

But you're a sleazebag anyway, so it's academic.

― Markelby (Mark C), Monday, 25 October 2004 15:14 (twenty-one years ago)

This is like that scene in Cyrano De Bergerac/Roxanne, where the big nosed guy finds an insult for everyone in the bar and everyone claps, but worse.

― Alba (Alba), Monday, 25 October 2004 15:17 (twenty-one years ago)

Are you saying I'm not as eloquent as Cyrano de Bergerac?

― Markelby (Mark C), Monday, 25 October 2004 15:20 (twenty-one years ago)

No, I just like big noses.

― Alba (Alba), Monday, 25 October 2004 15:21 (twenty-one years ago)

Mine's quite big.

― Markelby (Mark C), Monday, 25 October 2004 15:23 (twenty-one years ago)

So, when you told me you liked my jumper, what you really meant was...

― B.A.R.M.S. (Barima), Monday, 25 October 2004 15:23 (twenty-one years ago)

It's fine if you're honest about it.

― luna (luna.c), Monday, 25 October 2004 15:24 (twenty-one years ago)

It's funny how Mark feels the need to justify his getting mad but nobody's asked cutty to justify his need to date two people at once.

― TOMBOT, Monday, 25 October 2004 15:28 (twenty-one years ago)

presumably he hasn't made up his mind about them yet.

― Ronan (Ronan), Monday, 25 October 2004 15:29 (twenty-one years ago)

Whatever NARC.

― sometimes i like to pretend i am very small and warm (ex machina), Monday, 25 October 2004 15:29 (twenty-one years ago)

Can they be compared?

Listen, cutty, sorry for overreacting. Bad day etc. but no excuse.

― Markelby (Mark C), Monday, 25 October 2004 15:29 (twenty-one years ago)

ILX SUCKS AGAIN!

BOOO!

― ALLMUSIC.COM (ddb), Monday, 25 October 2004 15:32 (twenty-one years ago)

you've just made it better though so it's ok

― ken c (ken c), Monday, 25 October 2004 15:33 (twenty-one years ago)

you should post a photo and profile of both of them and then we decide who you should dump.

― ken c (ken c), Monday, 25 October 2004 15:34 (twenty-one years ago)

YES!!!!

DO THAT!

― ALLMUSIC.COM (ddb), Monday, 25 October 2004 15:35 (twenty-one years ago)

What do a man's preference for certain looks reveal his character?

Done.

― B.A.R.M.S. (Barima), Monday, 25 October 2004 15:37 (twenty-one years ago)

just be honest from the start. no big deal. i used to think casual sex died when i went monogomoooose, but i have since come back down to earth.

― kephm (kephm), Monday, 25 October 2004 15:38 (twenty-one years ago)

At what point do you offer up the info, though? In other words, at what point does it become someone's business what you do in your time away from them? For instance, if you have kind of casual, one-night stand type sex with someone that you have hung out with before, should you necessarily be all "oh, before this goes on, I had sex with another person recently and may do again." It's sort of ridiculous to even bring up in some cases.

― roxymuzak (roxymuzak), Monday, 25 October 2004 15:40 (twenty-one years ago)

Well if either of the people you're seeing could become a relationship, then you have the responsibility (assuming you're both into monogamy) of either cutting short the other liaison, or being frank with the person and telling them that that's what you're doing. Most people will probably do the former. I think.

― Markelby (Mark C), Monday, 25 October 2004 15:43 (twenty-one years ago)

So is there a window of time there in which you have no obligation to say anything?

― roxymuzak (roxymuzak), Monday, 25 October 2004 15:44 (twenty-one years ago)

yeah it all depends on to what degree you're "dating", like, maybe your date don't even want to hear about your sexual exploits. and how do you bring it up? how's the other person supposed to react? "erm.. well, thanks for the info"???

― ken c (ken c), Monday, 25 October 2004 15:45 (twenty-one years ago)

Cutty, this is fine to do but "seeing" two women is going to be a significant drain on your...errr, motivation.

― adam. (nordicskilla), Monday, 25 October 2004 15:47 (twenty-one years ago)

i'd imagine the point comes yeah probably just before you consider becoming "a couple". the point of this varies with everybody.

― ken c (ken c), Monday, 25 October 2004 15:47 (twenty-one years ago)

Yeah, I think there's some degree of respect involved in just not discussing it at all (if the relationship hasn't gotten tres serious, natch, and if no one's health is at risk, etc.)

― roxymuzak (roxymuzak), Monday, 25 October 2004 15:47 (twenty-one years ago)

In my opinion you don't strictly have an obligation to say anything at any particular time, however you then obviously face the consequences of your choice later. That is to say I can't think of a standard reaction or norm. presumably if one relationship went well and lasted for a few months and the other petered out quickly it wouldn't seem very significant in the end.

― Ronan (Ronan), Monday, 25 October 2004 15:48 (twenty-one years ago)

issue never came up with me. i think maybe it was the general disarray of my living quarters that pointed to a youth gone wild

― kephm (kephm), Monday, 25 October 2004 15:48 (twenty-one years ago)

big xpost yeah, but then again, how do you know until you have the supremely awkward "let's-attach-some-retarded-label-to-our-relationship" talk that ruins everything.

― roxymuzak (roxymuzak), Monday, 25 October 2004 15:49 (twenty-one years ago)

the only serious relationship cutty has had is with TEH CHRONJ.

― ALLMUSIC.COM (ddb), Monday, 25 October 2004 15:49 (twenty-one years ago)

Basically, I don't think it's your responsibility. If you don't want someone to date/screw someone else, it's your responsibility to bring that up. You can't expect someone to conform to *your* idea of what the relationship is if that hasn't been discussed in the open.

― roxymuzak (roxymuzak), Monday, 25 October 2004 15:51 (twenty-one years ago)

I guess you can say that you shouldn't get upset or feel betrayed if you are only casually dating and your date is dating other people - unless you bring it up and request a 'trial monogamy'. If you're not happy about it, stop dating them, but don't feel they've done anything wrong. Of course, I'me giving advice to people who aren't here, so it's a moot point. But I think a general assumption of similar principles would sidestep the 'when do you tell them problem'.

― Kevin Gilchrist (Mr Fusion), Monday, 25 October 2004 15:51 (twenty-one years ago)

although if you're lying on the bed and kissing just for practice, then maybe you should be objective, cos they may be other boys queuing up behind you with a hand over your mouth and a hand over the window. but if you remain passive and she just wants to cuddle, then it should be ok, then you won't get in a muddle.

You're seeing other people, well, at least that's what you say you are doing.

― ken c (ken c), Monday, 25 October 2004 15:52 (twenty-one years ago)

I wish there was no such thing as jealousy and everyone could just huggle and not worry about what to call the huggling.

xpost ken in...some type of shocker

― roxymuzak (roxymuzak), Monday, 25 October 2004 15:53 (twenty-one years ago)

http://www.health.insurence.ws/images/acyclovir_valtrex_herpes_medication.jpg

― TOMBOT, Monday, 25 October 2004 15:53 (twenty-one years ago)

unless you bring it up and request a 'trial monogamy'

if you do please do not phrase it as "a request for a trial monogamy". way to ruin it!

― ken c (ken c), Monday, 25 October 2004 15:54 (twenty-one years ago)

xpost ken in...some type of shocker

aka so the sinister list is down, right?

― ken c (ken c), Monday, 25 October 2004 15:59 (twenty-one years ago)

dood. how can ANYONE do a herpes advert. Desperate Actor?

do you think she has TEH HERP.

She's pretty hot tho.

― ALLMUSIC.COM (ddb), Monday, 25 October 2004 16:01 (twenty-one years ago)

roxy otm re: people needing to be more open about what they want rather than bitching about how other people aren't psychic.

tombot otm re: i dunno haha wtf i love those ads.

― manthony m1cc1o (Anthony Miccio), Monday, 25 October 2004 16:01 (twenty-one years ago)

Oh yeah, I'm a sleazebag. Listen matey - I've been dating the same girl for four years and I've remained loyal even when I've been at the other side of the UK or wherever else. We've had our fights and gone a few weeks without seeing or speaking to each other but we always seem to figure it out and get back together. I can't see into the future but, you know, I personally love the challenge and the devotion involved in being with that special person. And if it goes haywire for me and that is that then I'll do the same all over again because there is no way in hell I'd stoop so low as to abuse another human being's trust by dating two people at once.

― Mad.Mike, Monday, 25 October 2004 16:10 (twenty-one years ago)

― manthony m1cc1o (Anthony Miccio), Monday, 25 October 2004 16:13 (twenty-one years ago)

So she really doesn't have a problem on your disgustingly mysoginistic attitudes, your lusts over chesty actresses, your cheesy, immature comments, your pathological objectification of her gender? Then, dear Calum, she's as much of a braindead retard as you are.

― Markelby (Mark C), Monday, 25 October 2004 16:14 (twenty-one years ago)

shit a lot happened while i was at lunch.

― cutty (mcutt), Monday, 25 October 2004 16:14 (twenty-one years ago)

if you do please do not phrase it as "a request for a trial monogamy"

No, do! And get them to fill out and sign some kind of form too.

― Kevin Gilchrist (Mr Fusion), Monday, 25 October 2004 16:16 (twenty-one years ago)

although if you're lying on the bed and kissing just for practice, then maybe you should be objective, cos they may be other boys queuing up behind you with a hand...

Ken, I was so sure this was turning into bukkake

― chrisco (chrisco), Monday, 25 October 2004 16:18 (twenty-one years ago)

Well, when they perform it live...

― Kevin Gilchrist (Mr Fusion), Monday, 25 October 2004 16:20 (twenty-one years ago)

It all depends Mark... she doesn't take the shit on ILX any more seriously than anyone else with half a brain would. And for the last time - misogynistic is HATRED OF WOMEN. You could argue that I have posted sexist threads but I'd advise you check the meaning of the word misogynistic before labelling anything I've posted as that. Saying you want to lick Holly Valance's thighs = misogynistic??? I mean - REALLY?

― Mad.Mike, Monday, 25 October 2004 16:24 (twenty-one years ago)

I'll do the same all over again because there is no way in hell I'd stoop so low as to abuse another human being's trust by dating two people at once.

calum's gf "hey you've been sleeping with this other girl haven't you???"

calum "erm... no luv, that was 'perverted pete'"

calum's gf "oh that's ok then - let me give you a blow job to make up for doubting you"

calum "Wo0+!"

calum's gf "ok down i go" *CRACK

calum "ow my back! grr i should have had that rib removed like prince did"

― ken c (ken c), Monday, 25 October 2004 16:26 (twenty-one years ago)

No Calum. You don't hate Holly Valance; you just fail, consistently and unabashedly to accord her gender with ANY respect at all that goes beyond how nice their tits are. Who would you rescue from a burning building - a woman or a cat?

― Markelby (Mark C), Monday, 25 October 2004 16:27 (twenty-one years ago)

misogynistic means having japanese food on a pommel horse. you dumbasses.

― ken c (ken c), Monday, 25 October 2004 16:28 (twenty-one years ago)

misogynistic is HATRED OF WOMEN

Precisely.

― Ned Raggett (Ned), Monday, 25 October 2004 16:42 (twenty-one years ago)

misogynistic means having japanese food on a pommel horse

sorry ken had japanese food in his mouth. what he was trying to say was "misogynistic means having japanese food and I pummel whores."

― manthony m1cc1o (Anthony Miccio), Monday, 25 October 2004 16:43 (twenty-one years ago)

Mark with respect you know better than to think of 'Mad Mike' as anything other than a cariacture with little basis in reality re what the character posts here.

― Freelance Hiveminder (blueski), Monday, 25 October 2004 17:02 (twenty-one years ago)

Well Mark, that really all depends on how Holly Valance chooses to present herself doesn't it? If she, by chance, chooses to pose semi-nude for lads mags, make explicit comments about her sexual likings and strip off in her videos then I would imagine judging her by her body is all fine and well. If, on the other hand, she was to lend her talents to healing sick children in third world countries ala Audrey Hepburn or offered to become the face of a movement against animal abuse ala Pamela Anderson perhaps I'd have more aspects with which to judge her.

But, hey, we all look at good looking women as sex objects. I love it when guys do it with my girlfriend - approaching her in a bar or whatever. Good stuff. She's a good looking girl and I'm glad that other men find her attractive. I like being chatted up too. It's flattering. One year another girl sent me a Valentines Day card and it was kinda cool. My loyalty is to my partner, though, and vice versa. But if she wants to comment on how fit Keanu Reeves is, and ask me to sit through (God forbid) The Matrix then why not? I know by now that at the end of the evening I'm the only one who gets a look in.

― Mad.Mike, Monday, 25 October 2004 17:12 (twenty-one years ago)

Oh - and your reply Mark, would still indicate sexism and not misogyny.

― Mad.Mike, Monday, 25 October 2004 17:13 (twenty-one years ago)

This is part of the 99% you post that isn't serious, of course.

― Ned Raggett (Ned), Monday, 25 October 2004 17:15 (twenty-one years ago)

No Ned, i'm being serious just now. You should be able to tell when I'm looking for a rise. It's not hard.

― Mad.Mike, Monday, 25 October 2004 17:16 (twenty-one years ago)

The only time you've looked for a rise is yourself when you go on about my Friendster profile.

― Ned Raggett (Ned), Monday, 25 October 2004 17:18 (twenty-one years ago)

why would you look for a rise? here? deliberately trying to annoy people is a waste of your time no matter how much you think they 'deserve' to be annoyed. silly man.

xpost

― Freelance Hiveminder (blueski), Monday, 25 October 2004 17:19 (twenty-one years ago)

as for the idea of being comfortable with guys constantly hitting on your girlfriend...i'm not sure it's scientifically possible to be THAT confident and secure AND spend as much time as you on message boards. i call fibbery.

― Freelance Hiveminder (blueski), Monday, 25 October 2004 17:21 (twenty-one years ago)

You can call what you want mate. I'm telling you the truth.

Ned, I never wanted to enter into any shit with you in the first place. You seemed to have it in for me as far as I can see.

― Mad.Mike, Monday, 25 October 2004 17:25 (twenty-one years ago)

this is his truth...

― Freelance Hiveminder (blueski), Monday, 25 October 2004 17:27 (twenty-one years ago)

Ned, I never wanted to enter into any shit with you in the first place.

This isn't serious either.

― Ned Raggett (Ned), Monday, 25 October 2004 17:27 (twenty-one years ago)

If hospitals cure
Then prisons must bring their pain
Do not be ashamed to slaughter
The centre of humanity is cruelty
There is never redemption
Any fool can regret yesterday
Nail it to the house of lords
You will be buried in the same box as a killer, as a killer, as a killer
A drained white body hanging from the gallows
Is more righteous that hindley’s crotchet lectures
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The weak die young and right now we crouch to make them strong
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Give them the respect they deserve
Give them the respect they deserve.

― Leon Czolgosz (Nicole), Monday, 25 October 2004 17:34 (twenty-one years ago)

cutty, what have you done????

― tokyo rosemary (rosemary), Monday, 25 October 2004 17:56 (twenty-one years ago)

not what TR, who!!

― ALLMUSIC.COM (ddb), Monday, 25 October 2004 18:16 (twenty-one years ago)

Girls only like cars and money.

― Misogyny Mike (shmuel), Monday, 25 October 2004 18:52 (twenty-one years ago)

Then why do they want to date cutty?

― tokyo rosemary (rosemary), Monday, 25 October 2004 18:55 (twenty-one years ago)

megazing

― Freelance Hiveminder (blueski), Monday, 25 October 2004 19:02 (twenty-one years ago)

zing of kings

― roxymuzak (roxymuzak), Monday, 25 October 2004 19:05 (twenty-one years ago)

Oh wait, am I supposed to keep teh zing on the bright colored world of the noize board?

― tokyo rosemary (rosemary), Monday, 25 October 2004 19:12 (twenty-one years ago)

we'll let it pass this time

― Freelance Hiveminder (blueski), Monday, 25 October 2004 19:14 (twenty-one years ago)

cutty's car is AWESOME. spinny rims and everything.

and his wrists and fingers are hella FROSTED.

― ALLMUSIC.COM (ddb), Monday, 25 October 2004 19:18 (twenty-one years ago)

Ice white shoes, Ice white socks.

― ALLMUSIC.COM (ddb), Monday, 25 October 2004 19:25 (twenty-one years ago)

i have a car and the potential for money$$$.

― cutty (mcutt), Monday, 25 October 2004 19:29 (twenty-one years ago)

CUTTY, IS ONE OF TEH GIRLS in the bad band?

were you carrying a teddy bear and candy heart for her in the front row?

― Carey (Carey), Monday, 25 October 2004 21:35 (twenty-one years ago)

no, that is my ex-girlfriend who i DO NOT have relations with.

― cutty (mcutt), Monday, 25 October 2004 22:48 (twenty-one years ago)

Dude this thread just made me really irritable and it has nothing to do with cutty. cutty, date all of the ladies, I think it's ok as long as no one is under the impression that you are exclusive to them.

― Allyzay Science Explosion (allyzay), Monday, 25 October 2004 23:15 (twenty-one years ago)

THANK YOU ALLY

― cutty (mcutt), Monday, 25 October 2004 23:21 (twenty-one years ago)

cue James Bond theme

― Freelance Hiveminder (blueski), Tuesday, 26 October 2004 08:41 (twenty-one years ago)

the trick is to get a reputation for dating *more* than 2 people at once, so that way the people involved will be pleasantly surprised that there is only one other person in your dating life.

um, i don't know this from experience, or anything.

there's plenty of sensible advice among the annoying stuff on this thread: make an effort not to be hurtful, be honest and straightforward, and be sympathetic to the fact that they might not be as comfortable with the situation as you, and therefore might not be ok with dealing with it indefinitely.

― colette (a2lette), Tuesday, 26 October 2004 08:59 (twenty-one years ago)

the trick is to get a reputation for dating *more* than 2 people at once, so that way the people involved will be pleasantly surprised that there is only one other person in your dating life.

best logic ever

― Freelance Hiveminder (blueski), Tuesday, 26 October 2004 09:05 (twenty-one years ago)

is cutty short for cuthbert?

― Ronan (Ronan), Tuesday, 26 October 2004 09:09 (twenty-one years ago)

Maybe it's a Scottish thing but I find Calum's sexual politics fundamentally sound and am a little mystified by why some people attack them. In many cases responding to a woman as a sexual object is the correct response and in fact it would be a breach of etiquette not to.

― Momus (Momus), Tuesday, 26 October 2004 09:09 (twenty-one years ago)

well people are always attacking you as well (WINKY FACE)

― Freelance Hiveminder (blueski), Tuesday, 26 October 2004 09:11 (twenty-one years ago)

Yes, I've noticed. But you know, many attacks on mysogyny are actually attacks on women disguised as something progressive.

― Momus (Momus), Tuesday, 26 October 2004 09:12 (twenty-one years ago)

~~mysogyny~~ misogyny

― Momus (Momus), Tuesday, 26 October 2004 09:13 (twenty-one years ago)

true of attacks on racism also perhaps. but the 'characters' calum adopts on here still strike me as intentionally odious and 'offensive'.

― Freelance Hiveminder (blueski), Tuesday, 26 October 2004 09:14 (twenty-one years ago)

not to mention tedious, unfunny, unimaginative and dated.

― Freelance Hiveminder (blueski), Tuesday, 26 October 2004 09:15 (twenty-one years ago)

as opposed to 'dating'

― colette (a2lette), Tuesday, 26 October 2004 09:17 (twenty-one years ago)

better date than never

― Freelance Hiveminder (blueski), Tuesday, 26 October 2004 09:20 (twenty-one years ago)

he has a girlfriend you know!!!!!

― ken c (ken c), Tuesday, 26 October 2004 09:20 (twenty-one years ago)

look! she's not stopping me!!
http://www.bbc.co.uk/comedy/guide/images/400/imalanpartridge_3.jpg

― ken c (ken c), Tuesday, 26 October 2004 09:22 (twenty-one years ago)

HAW

― roxymuzak (roxymuzak), Tuesday, 26 October 2004 14:26 (twenty-one years ago)

eight years pass...

It's fine if you're honest about it.

― luna (luna.c), Monday, October 25, 2004 10:24 AM (8 years ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

― before and after broscience (goole), Monday, 17 December 2012 21:28 (thirteen years ago)

― set the controls for the heart of the sun (VegemiteGrrl), Monday, 17 December 2012 21:30 (thirteen years ago)

it's "fine" if you're "honest" about it

― set the controls for the heart of the sun (VegemiteGrrl), Monday, 17 December 2012 21:30 (thirteen years ago)

hahaha

― she was giving it to two friends ...Aaay! (crüt), Monday, 17 December 2012 21:31 (thirteen years ago)

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