kissing your co-workers and other stupid things

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I went to a party over the weekend and was surprised to find a couple of my co-workers there. It was fucking rockin', we all danced and drank and partied our bootays off until the sun came up. However, it has also come to my attention, or at least I have remembered it finally, that I snogged one of them. A lot. Now the sun is shining on Monday, and we're back at work and I don't know if I should mention it or not. We've both managed to studiously avoid saying anything about it for the last several hours, but I feel like it must come up sooner or later, and I'm not at all certain what I should do. Should I instigate the conversation? Should I play it off like nothing happened? Should I say let's do that again? Should I quit and move to Idaho?

― oh hell no, Monday, 10 May 2004 16:31 (twenty-one years ago)

Idaho is nice this time of year.

― hstencil (hstencil), Monday, 10 May 2004 16:34 (twenty-one years ago)

well, it all depends on if you enjoyed it or not and if you like the person.

― todd swiss (eliti), Monday, 10 May 2004 16:41 (twenty-one years ago)

Was it someone of the opposite gender that you normally, uh, snog with?

― The Huckle-Buck (Horace Mann), Monday, 10 May 2004 16:44 (twenty-one years ago)

just apologize.

― i forget, Monday, 10 May 2004 17:02 (twenty-one years ago)

honestly, the longer you wait to confront yr co-worker on this, this worse it'll be.

― The Huckle-Buck (Horace Mann), Monday, 10 May 2004 17:04 (twenty-one years ago)

Everyone else at work is laughing at you already, so what have you got to lose?

― Tracer Hand (tracerhand), Monday, 10 May 2004 17:05 (twenty-one years ago)

don't: 'talk about your feelings'

do: have a mickey of gin sent to her cubicle with a note attached that says "againsies?!"

― mark p (Mark P), Monday, 10 May 2004 17:06 (twenty-one years ago)

Stationary cupboard sex, classic or dud?

― Sick Nouthall (Nick Southall), Monday, 10 May 2004 17:07 (twenty-one years ago)

except for the smell, darkrooms are great.

― The Huckle-Buck (Horace Mann), Monday, 10 May 2004 17:07 (twenty-one years ago)

That's a whole other thread, Hucklebunny.

― Sick Nouthall (Nick Southall), Monday, 10 May 2004 17:09 (twenty-one years ago)

I think I'd quite fancy a 'mickey of gin' and would be prepared to forgive anything if I'd one delivered to me.

― penelope_111, Monday, 10 May 2004 17:11 (twenty-one years ago)

I love the smell of darkrooms in the morning. or at any other time, for that matter

― Morley Timmons (Donna Brown), Monday, 10 May 2004 17:45 (twenty-one years ago)

idaho is the home of people who have snogged a few people too many.

hence the name i-da-ho.

― ken c (ken c), Monday, 10 May 2004 17:51 (twenty-one years ago)

wait, people can TOLERATE their co-workers?

christ, i need that job...

― Kingfish Disraeli (Kingfish), Monday, 10 May 2004 17:52 (twenty-one years ago)

don't say anything, unless your partner in crime brings it up. sometimes there's nothing wrong with good, old-fashioned repression. this is perhaps one of those times.

― lauren (laurenp), Monday, 10 May 2004 18:09 (twenty-one years ago)

haha, lauren is OTM.

i made out with this coworker of mine at this mixed crowd karaoke bar on a thursday night (actually, might have been a sunday) about a year ago. we passed each other on the way in/out of the restroom and she waited for me. we talked and laughed, i finally had to ask (being as it was a mixed crowd) if she was straight or not. she ****** **** and ****** ** **** and said "i'm all about the ****". my friends got me out of there after about 20 minutes, but not before I was invited back to her place. i passed on it (i was pretty messed up), and every time i saw her after that, we exchanged pleasantries but nothing more than small talk. the only time i really got a chance to talk to her one on one again she told me about the new guy in her life. i don't think she works here anymore. the end.

ps: there is a very embarrassing story in the archives, search "co-workers" which is a lot more scandalous.

― gygax! (gygax!), Monday, 10 May 2004 18:21 (twenty-one years ago)

um, ditto.

― mark p (Mark P), Monday, 10 May 2004 18:26 (twenty-one years ago)

SEX with Co-Workers: C/D

― mookieproof (mookieproof), Monday, 10 May 2004 18:32 (twenty-one years ago)

sex with cow workers, classic.

― Ronan (Ronan), Monday, 10 May 2004 18:43 (twenty-one years ago)

Don't make me tell you about the guy I know who deals in bullock spunk.

― Sick Nouthall (Nick Southall), Monday, 10 May 2004 18:45 (twenty-one years ago)

Sandra?

― VengaDan Perry (Dan Perry), Monday, 10 May 2004 18:46 (twenty-one years ago)

Bull-ra?

― Ronan (Ronan), Monday, 10 May 2004 18:47 (twenty-one years ago)

Haha TS: She-Ra vs Mumm-Ra

― VengaDan Perry (Dan Perry), Monday, 10 May 2004 18:48 (twenty-one years ago)

SUN RA.

― hstencil (hstencil), Monday, 10 May 2004 18:49 (twenty-one years ago)

Moth Ra

― The Huckle-Buck (Horace Mann), Monday, 10 May 2004 18:49 (twenty-one years ago)

Martha Ray

― dave225 (Dave225), Monday, 10 May 2004 18:50 (twenty-one years ago)

the Earl of Sandwich: Photocopy your arse! Snog the postboy! It's the Office Xmas Party...

― Tracer Hand (tracerhand), Monday, 10 May 2004 18:54 (twenty-one years ago)

happily, i don't work there anymore: There is a woman from the marketing department currently in my shower.

― mark p (Mark P), Monday, 10 May 2004 19:00 (twenty-one years ago)

Haha wow my opinion on the subject has not changed one bit at all.
Oh well.

I have been grinding my teeth for 7 years.

― TOMBOT, Monday, 10 May 2004 19:03 (twenty-one years ago)

i had no idea what a bad idea this whole kissing coworkers thing was until recently.

i'm guessing, OHN, that you aren't actually facing the person in question, and have to sit looking at each other ALL DAY?

how's that for awkward?

― colette (a2lette), Tuesday, 11 May 2004 12:25 (twenty-one years ago)

awkward is when you, your recent ex, and the newly-kissed coworker all work at the same place--and the two of them didn't even like each other to begin with. ow

― mookieproof (mookieproof), Tuesday, 11 May 2004 14:38 (twenty-one years ago)

actually, i was thinking that having recently kissed co-worker, major ex and his newly ex fiancee, and recent ex all in the same place was awkward. happy birthday!

― colette (a2lette), Tuesday, 11 May 2004 14:40 (twenty-one years ago)

no, that isn't awkward; that is insane!

― mookieproof (mookieproof), Tuesday, 11 May 2004 15:01 (twenty-one years ago)

i suspect the fiancee will bail, so perhaps not as mental as it could be? otherwise it might be the actual scratching-my-eyes-out cliche...

― colette (a2lette), Tuesday, 11 May 2004 15:02 (twenty-one years ago)

I do actually have to sit next to this person all day. Yesterday was painful, and at the end of the day I got the giggles and couldn't stop. I know he thought it had to do with him. We did talk about it a little. I brought up forgetting things you do when you've been drinking and he said no, I remember everything, so I thought well, now's as good a time as any, so said yes, well, about that, do we need to talk or are we forgetting about it or? He said we can talk if you want to. I said well, I'm cool with it, he said he was too. Whatever that means.

― oh hell no, Tuesday, 11 May 2004 15:47 (twenty-one years ago)

two years pass...

revival with a non-work variant of other stupid things! getting drunk, going to a big gay party, and hooking up with someone from your bible study. i feel deliciously scandalous, but christian fellowship stuff could be awkward in the future.

(also, advice on how to figure out christian sexual morality? 'cause i have no idea)

― Maria (Maria), Monday, 23 October 2006 02:23 (eighteen years ago)

don't shit where you eat

― gbx (skowly), Monday, 23 October 2006 02:38 (eighteen years ago)

The corollary ("Don't eat where you shit.") is also wise.

― Young Fresh Danny D (Dan Perry), Monday, 23 October 2006 02:41 (eighteen years ago)

You hooked up with someone from your Bible studies at a gay party? Christ, where has the world gone to?!

― Tuomas (Tuomas), Monday, 23 October 2006 03:48 (eighteen years ago)

What about dancing and snogging with a guy from your uni in front of dozens of other school mates, most of whom must now think you're gay?

― Tuomas (Tuomas), Monday, 23 October 2006 03:50 (eighteen years ago)

what about it tuomas

― RoxyMuzak© (roxymuzak), Monday, 23 October 2006 03:57 (eighteen years ago)

Most of the school flings I've had have thankfully been with people who major in other subjects than me, so I've been spared of the awkwardness of sitting next to them in class.

(also, advice on how to figure out christian sexual morality? 'cause i have no idea)

I don't know about theology students there, but in here they're clearly divided between the more conservative ones and the rather liberal, "Gays should be allowed to have a Christian wedding" type of folks.

― Tuomas (Tuomas), Monday, 23 October 2006 05:23 (eighteen years ago)

I got caught coming out of the ladies loo last week with a colleague, wasn't much I could do but smile at the person. I think it’s slowly being spread around the office as well now.

― not-goodwin (not-goodwin), Monday, 23 October 2006 06:34 (eighteen years ago)

what were you doing there

― latebloomer: Veteran of the Mai Tai Massacre (latebloomer), Monday, 23 October 2006 06:38 (eighteen years ago)

Sex of course.
We used to go twice a week, but a new company has moved onto the floor so we can’t use them now.

― not-goodwin (not-goodwin), Monday, 23 October 2006 06:47 (eighteen years ago)

advice on how to figure out christian sexual morality

There must be volumes written on that. Sex is the big issue for Christianity.

It'd make a good thesis to trace the history of it though: 'Living in Sin': the evolution of Christian attitudes to sexuality'.

― Bob Six (bobbysix), Monday, 23 October 2006 06:47 (eighteen years ago)

I think it’s slowly being spread around the office as well now.

ROFL

― StanM (StanM), Monday, 23 October 2006 07:32 (eighteen years ago)

Oh, the rumor. Nevermind.

― StanM (StanM), Monday, 23 October 2006 07:37 (eighteen years ago)

Oh dear, that does sound bad!
I did mean gossip.

― not-goodwin (not-goodwin), Monday, 23 October 2006 07:39 (eighteen years ago)

Most theologists I've met have been pretty open-minded about sex. But Nordic Lutherans are open-minded in general, I think.

― Tuomas (Tuomas), Monday, 23 October 2006 07:40 (eighteen years ago)

mr shasta is 'all about the cunt'

― -- (688), Monday, 23 October 2006 07:58 (eighteen years ago)

i'm not going to accept any theology that says homosexuality is evil, but accepting that does call into question the whole no-sex-before-marriage deal! also, it is completely useless for the shades of gray in between nothing and sex - are there any liberal christian theologians who deal with that? the only clear christian perspectives i've heard on it are of the "you must NEVER TOUCH a member of the opposite sex until marriage, because holding hands inflames lust" school of thought.

grrr. i'd bring this up as a discussion topic at bible study, but that'd obviously be awkward.

― Maria (Maria), Monday, 23 October 2006 13:50 (eighteen years ago)

A lot of christian theology is about mortifying the flesh, because any desire (aside from a buring desire for Christ) usurps and distracts the christian's focus. Procreative sex inside the confines of a christian marriage can be seen as serving the lord in most christian sects and some allow that even non-procreative sex is blessed. But mostly, christianity is about denying the body's appetites (whether for sex or food or material pleasures), subjugating it to the will of a mind centered on Christ.

― Jaq (Jaq), Monday, 23 October 2006 14:06 (eighteen years ago)

Jaq is right, of course, but Christianity's not often LIVED that way.

― Laurel (Laurel), Monday, 23 October 2006 14:29 (eighteen years ago)

Absolutely. Theology != practicality, pretty much ever.

― Jaq (Jaq), Monday, 23 October 2006 14:38 (eighteen years ago)

This was the first g00gle hit for practical christian theology, and while it has the statistically improbable phrases "positional blessings", "corrective chastisement", and "coming appraisal", it's probably not much help in this matter.

― Jaq (Jaq), Monday, 23 October 2006 14:52 (eighteen years ago)

"coming appraisal"

― You've Got Scourage On Your Breath (Haberdager), Monday, 23 October 2006 14:57 (eighteen years ago)

I struggled with this Maria, mightily, when I was in my late teens and a practicing pre-millenial evangelical christian. In the discussions we had at youth group, we were discouraged from praying together with boyfriends/girlfriends, because "the closer you are in Christ, the closer you want to be physically". All we got were avoidance techniques and far too many too-young marriages. (I was married at 20, and honestly prayed for the rapture to come, but not until I'd had sex please.)

― Jaq (Jaq), Monday, 23 October 2006 15:08 (eighteen years ago)

I've been told that the Bible sez not to do stuff with a married person, but there's nothing in there to prohibit stuff between unmarried people.

Now somebody's going to find a quote to prove me wrong, obv.

― Mädchen (Madchen), Monday, 23 October 2006 15:21 (eighteen years ago)

kissing co-workers to practical christian theology?!?!?

― not-goodwin (not-goodwin), Monday, 23 October 2006 15:24 (eighteen years ago)

v handy if your co-worker is a NUN!!!

― Mark Co (Markco), Monday, 23 October 2006 15:27 (eighteen years ago)

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