how would you feel if, while you were maintaining a healthier diet and being more physically active, your mother said to you "you're gaining weight"?

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and what would you do about it?

― the bad seed, Monday, 28 February 2005 19:28 (twenty-one years ago)

i'd kill her.

― hstencil (hstencil), Monday, 28 February 2005 19:30 (twenty-one years ago)

no, actually, i wouldn't do that. my mom's pretty rad.

― hstencil (hstencil), Monday, 28 February 2005 19:30 (twenty-one years ago)

tell her the fat has been replaced by muscle, then strangle her to death.

― The Argunaut (sexyDancer), Monday, 28 February 2005 19:31 (twenty-one years ago)

I gained 10 pounds since I started running 4 years ago. I feel great.

― peepee (peepee), Monday, 28 February 2005 19:35 (twenty-one years ago)

Stranlge her... WITH FAT

― The Ghost of Dan Perry (Dan Perry), Monday, 28 February 2005 19:36 (twenty-one years ago)

"I guess so, yeah. How's the weather down there?"

― TOMBOT, Monday, 28 February 2005 19:36 (twenty-one years ago)

(specifically STAR JONES' BACK-FAT)

― The Ghost of Dan Perry (Dan Perry), Monday, 28 February 2005 19:36 (twenty-one years ago)

Wait, you don't know the answer to this? "Muscle weighs more than fat." It's true- when you first start working out, you don't lose weight for a little while and sometimes you bump up a tiny bit. Although it's been so long I wouldn't really know.

― Ken L (Ken L), Monday, 28 February 2005 19:37 (twenty-one years ago)

You'd say, "Yeah, thanks for the shitty metabolism, you cunt. Nice fucking genes, bitch."

― dave225 (Dave225), Monday, 28 February 2005 19:47 (twenty-one years ago)

my sister went up two pants sizes when she started getting a lot more exercise. she was happy because she went from having skinny thighs to having badass muscular thighs.

― JuliaA (j_bdules), Monday, 28 February 2005 19:50 (twenty-one years ago)

Wait, is this supposed to be hypothetical?

― Leon the Fatboy (Ex Leon), Monday, 28 February 2005 19:53 (twenty-one years ago)

I'm too lazy to open the gigantic Oscar thread but surely I'm not the only person who saw Star Jones' back-fat last night????

― The Ghost of Dan Perry (Dan Perry), Monday, 28 February 2005 19:56 (twenty-one years ago)

i'm rather glad i didn't.

― JuliaA (j_bdules), Monday, 28 February 2005 19:58 (twenty-one years ago)

I'm still trying to bleach my eyes.

Really though, Star's weight isn't as unattractive as her bulging eyes and insane smile.

― Leon the Fatboy (Ex Leon), Monday, 28 February 2005 20:01 (twenty-one years ago)

I'm not trying to say that her weight makes her look unattractive. I'm trying to say that wearing a dress that looks like it is too small for you is unattractive; that was some poorly-tailored jive about the shoulders.

(Her face is a completely different kettle of fish.)

― The Ghost of Dan Perry (Dan Perry), Monday, 28 February 2005 20:06 (twenty-one years ago)

She always wears clothes that are way too tight for her.

― Leon the Fatboy (Ex Leon), Monday, 28 February 2005 20:10 (twenty-one years ago)

she has the gift of gab

― The Argunaut (sexyDancer), Monday, 28 February 2005 20:10 (twenty-one years ago)

(specifically STAR JONES' BACK-FAT)

That was some freaky HR Geiger shit goin on there. Titties do not belong on shoulder blades. AND I LOVE TITTIES.

― Je4nne ƒury (Jeanne Fury), Monday, 28 February 2005 20:26 (twenty-one years ago)

Titties do not belong on shoulder blades.

TITTIES BELONG EVERYWHERE!

As for the thread question, the exact same thing happened to me a couple of years ago when I was working out regularly. My mom has always had "issues" with "weight," though, so I just ignored her and was silently grateful that I don't find being able to count someone's ribs sexy.

― sugarpants (sugarpants), Monday, 28 February 2005 20:58 (twenty-one years ago)

Ignoring it is the only route to take in cases like this.

― Leon the Fatboy (Ex Leon), Monday, 28 February 2005 21:07 (twenty-one years ago)

she actually told me to go on a diet! but for her "dieting" means "eating weird flavorless diarrhea-inducing synthetic spacefood with no nutritive value other than rapid weight loss." and cottage cheese.

― the bad seed, Monday, 28 February 2005 21:07 (twenty-one years ago)

If that special lady* is draped across my back, I have no problems with titties on shoulder blades.

*NOT STAR JONES EW

― The Ghost of Dan Perry (Dan Perry), Monday, 28 February 2005 21:29 (twenty-one years ago)

Your Star shines brightly for you, Dan. Wish on it.

― Ned Raggett (Ned), Monday, 28 February 2005 21:30 (twenty-one years ago)

ANGER IS AN ENERGY

― Black Johnny Lydon (Dan Perry), Monday, 28 February 2005 21:33 (twenty-one years ago)

I just cried a little, when I saw that...

― Jimmy Mod Has Returned With Spices And Silks (ModJ), Monday, 28 February 2005 21:35 (twenty-one years ago)

I missed the back fat. Someone post a pic please.

― Shakey Mo Collier, Monday, 28 February 2005 21:38 (twenty-one years ago)

I was looking but I couldn't find one!

― The Ghost of Dan Perry (Dan Perry), Monday, 28 February 2005 22:11 (twenty-one years ago)

Me either. Boobies on the back are indeed excellent, Dan. But boobies *growing* on the back are not.

― Je4nne ƒury (Jeanne Fury), Monday, 28 February 2005 22:26 (twenty-one years ago)

You don't really want to look at it, either.

― Leon the Fatboy (Ex Leon), Monday, 28 February 2005 22:26 (twenty-one years ago)

SHAKEY MO NEEDS BACK FAT TO LIVE

― Shakey Mo Collier, Monday, 28 February 2005 22:27 (twenty-one years ago)

When will we be able to say:
SHAKEY GOT FAT?

― Ken L (Ken L), Monday, 28 February 2005 22:28 (twenty-one years ago)

This is what came up when I googled "Star Jones Oscars".

http://members.aol.com/BananasN/bpjpict3.gif

― Jordan (Jordan), Monday, 28 February 2005 22:37 (twenty-one years ago)

Well really, I think anything that could be said has been via that.

― Ned Raggett (Ned), Monday, 28 February 2005 22:38 (twenty-one years ago)

Are you sure you didn't google "Star Jones's Oscar Mayers"?

― Ken L (Ken L), Monday, 28 February 2005 22:39 (twenty-one years ago)

BTW Ned, the wording and timing of your comment is almost as good as Gene Wilder saying "that goes without saying" in Young Frankenstein.

― Ken L (Ken L), Monday, 28 February 2005 22:41 (twenty-one years ago)

You all should check out the Star Jones thread on Fametracker, it's great fun.

― Leon the Fatboy (Ex Leon), Monday, 28 February 2005 22:42 (twenty-one years ago)

man, this kinda thing really bugs the fuck out of me. my wife's parents, and her entire family, are always commenting on her weight, and if any of you saw her, you'd think they're out of their fucking mind. she's anything but heavy, but for some reason they've always felt it was their duty to tell her that compared to her cousin, she's the ugly one or the fat one. i think it's because her cousin is really light skinned (always a beauty factor in almost every culture) and because her cousin is borderline anorexic. gah! this coming from her aunts that really shouldn't be talking about weight. last thanksgiving her super old, super frail grandma that barely talks snapped on one of the aunts (in tagalog) for being stupid or fat to get back at her for making my wife upset. it was pretty rad.

― JaXoN Hole (JasonD), Monday, 28 February 2005 23:03 (twenty-one years ago)

Rah for crusty old relatives who hate BS!

― Ned Raggett (Ned), Monday, 28 February 2005 23:04 (twenty-one years ago)

I'm not condoning the comments, but there are clearly very different cultural attitudes, not just to weight/attractiveness, but also to what is an acceptable commentary on looks etc.

― Spencer Chow (spencermfi), Monday, 28 February 2005 23:10 (twenty-one years ago)

there's also such a thing as "projecting one's own insecurities on someone else."

― jbr (Jody Beth Rosen), Monday, 28 February 2005 23:17 (twenty-one years ago)

which i think accounts quite a bit for our culture's attitude towards weight. it's a vicious cycle -- we're taught to be insecure, and we have to make everyone else feel insecure to keep things on an even keel.

― jbr (Jody Beth Rosen), Monday, 28 February 2005 23:21 (twenty-one years ago)

yeah c'mon jaxon your wife is hOTTTT!!!

oh wait.

― hstencil (hstencil), Monday, 28 February 2005 23:23 (twenty-one years ago)

yeah c'mon jaxon your wife is hOTTTT!!!

tell me about it. i'd prefer her to not even think about dieting. but girls will be girls

― JaXoN Hole (JasonD), Monday, 28 February 2005 23:26 (twenty-one years ago)

glad you didn't take that the wrong way.

― hstencil (hstencil), Monday, 28 February 2005 23:28 (twenty-one years ago)

I'm not condoning the comments, but there are clearly very different cultural attitudes, not just to weight/attractiveness, but also to what is an acceptable commentary on looks etc.

The funny thing is how different cultural attitudes can exist within families, esp in America, with everybody moving around and making different types of money, etc.

― The Argunaut (sexyDancer), Monday, 28 February 2005 23:32 (twenty-one years ago)

I'd pinch myself if this happened. Every time I see my mother she gives me a big hug and she's like "I swear you get skinnier every time I see you." She's probably beginning to think my sporadic communication is down to hardcore drug use. I'm beginning to think I've got a worm.

― Tracer Hand (tracerhand), Monday, 28 February 2005 23:33 (twenty-one years ago)

That takes drugs.

― Ned Raggett (Ned), Monday, 28 February 2005 23:36 (twenty-one years ago)

people who don't do hard drugs always try to chalk-up weight loss to cocaine use. Don't they know shit makes you drink even more?

― The Argunaut (sexyDancer), Monday, 28 February 2005 23:37 (twenty-one years ago)

Hmm I was going to say that I could take Ned's suggestion and fight the worm with hardcore drugs, but I can see where you're coming from, Argunaut.

What's even more irritating is that I'm incredibly unhealthy, I basically haven't exercised beyond walking around in more than a decade. I used to be one of those people who were like "dude I live in New York, I walk everywhere, just going down the subway steps is more aerobics than most people do!" but this is just pleasing cant and everyone knows it, especially when balanced against all the car exhaust, diesel fumes, and generalized horrendous particulate one breathes in each day. And especially balanced against my years of sitting flat on my ass, slumped in front of a monitor. So not too long ago I started doing something, found I could actually do it and liked it, and have a bunch more energy. Now I do a little stretching and some pullups and whatnot, too. End result: SKINNIER. Jeesus motherfucking christ. The end shape isn't the point, and I am healthier in that I've got a bit more energy and can run without getting winded in 5 seconds, but GAH. \\

― Tracer Hand (tracerhand), Monday, 28 February 2005 23:47 (twenty-one years ago)

i stopped eating dairy to lose weight = i got a job in a bar and work for free = no change

― hstencil (hstencil), Monday, 28 February 2005 23:50 (twenty-one years ago)

whoops, freudian slip, that should read drink for free.

― hstencil (hstencil), Monday, 28 February 2005 23:52 (twenty-one years ago)

My mom has nice ways of saying I need to lose weight, like, by pointing out how I should save half of my calzone for later - or, always asking, when I talk to her, "Did you go to the gym today?" My dad does this too, by always saying, "Man, you're pretty - I mean, you need to lose a couple pounds, but you sure are cute!"

It kind of makes me want to inhale croissants.

― jill schoelen is the queen of my dreams! (Homosexual II), Monday, 28 February 2005 23:59 (twenty-one years ago)

I'm looking for star jones back fat picts, but can find none :(

― Jimmy Mod Has Returned With Spices And Silks (ModJ), Tuesday, 1 March 2005 00:01 (twenty-one years ago)

do none of y'alls relatives know what tact is?

― hstencil (hstencil), Tuesday, 1 March 2005 00:02 (twenty-one years ago)

My mom has nice ways of saying I need to lose weight, like, by pointing out how I should save half of my calzone for later

that's not saying you need to lose weight, that's just plain good advice!

― jbr (Jody Beth Rosen), Tuesday, 1 March 2005 00:05 (twenty-one years ago)

well it is true that even skinny americans overeat.

― hstencil (hstencil), Tuesday, 1 March 2005 00:06 (twenty-one years ago)

my relatives wouldn't know tact if it came up and pinched them in the ass.

― jbr (Jody Beth Rosen), Tuesday, 1 March 2005 00:06 (twenty-one years ago)

yeah, jesus you people all have shitty families. Tell 'em to mind their own fuckin business or yr never talking to them again!

― Shakey Mo Collier, Tuesday, 1 March 2005 00:06 (twenty-one years ago)

shit my family (and family friends) have too much tact, they're always telling me I look like I've lost weight (usually when I've just finished eating a great meal with them).

anyway, who cares? be yourself

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― hstencil (hstencil), Tuesday, 1 March 2005 00:09 (twenty-one years ago)

do none of y'alls relatives know what tact is?

That's what I was saying upthread, tact can be very different from culture to culture and family to family. My Chinese grandparents have no reservations at all speaking about weight, whereas my family from Arkansas would never bring it up, except to say something 'positive'.

― Spencer Chow (spencermfi), Tuesday, 1 March 2005 00:12 (twenty-one years ago)

I thought all the mothers in the world comment about how fat or skinny their children are. I ignore it or it leads to fighting.

― isadora (isadora), Tuesday, 1 March 2005 01:59 (twenty-one years ago)

the silent protestants ... you never noticed them?

― The Argunaut (sexyDancer), Tuesday, 1 March 2005 02:03 (twenty-one years ago)

Whenever my mom says something like that, I bodycheck her ass.

― S!monB!rch (Carey), Tuesday, 1 March 2005 02:07 (twenty-one years ago)

http://us.news1.yimg.com/us.yimg.com/p/rids/20050228/i/r1480080844.jpg

"I'ma tear you apart....

....and your friend, too"

― Kingfish MuffMiner 2049er (Kingfish), Tuesday, 1 March 2005 02:39 (twenty-one years ago)

Tracer I'm going to use your "worms" excuse next time anyone in my family or circle of friends comments on my seemingly uncontrollable weight loss.

― Allyzay Dallas Multi-Pass (allyzay), Tuesday, 1 March 2005 04:00 (twenty-one years ago)

And then I'm going to throw worms on them.

― Allyzay Dallas Multi-Pass (allyzay), Tuesday, 1 March 2005 04:01 (twenty-one years ago)

My family can be very funny about it. When I lost a lot of weight once, my brother turned to my boyfriend and said "are you eating her?", then when I put it all back on again (no-one can live on spinach forever) he said "I see you found all that weight you lost."

Cruel, but original at least. Still, this is from someone who eats so little that his colon once went into spasm and he had to crawl downstairs from his apartment to his neighbour's door where he had just enough strength to knock on the door before he passed out. And, as he points out, everyone is always taking the piss out of him for being really thin.

― accentmonkey (accentmonkey), Tuesday, 1 March 2005 07:37 (twenty-one years ago)

My Mom and I recently went to see our new family member, Ali, age one month. (Her granddaughter, my niece.)I took several pictures on my digital camera. I sent them to my mom. When i commented, in a lighthrearted way, that I don't look all that beautiful in some shots, my mother replied:
"Well, I have tried to edit you out of them, but I don't know exactly how to do that. I just wanted to make you feel better."

― aimurchie (aimurchie), Tuesday, 1 March 2005 08:40 (twenty-one years ago)

gah, edit that woman out of your life

― JaXoN Hole (JasonD), Tuesday, 1 March 2005 18:08 (twenty-one years ago)

"I just wanted to make you feel better?"

What, with reverse psychology?

― sugarpants (sugarpants), Wednesday, 2 March 2005 03:58 (twenty-one years ago)

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