c/d when people dont know when the conversation is done

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I was just on the phone at work when i had answered the womans question and just said ok then bye and she was still on the phone, all silent, so i repeated myself in case she wasnt listening ans she went "ok, uh huh..." like that wasnt a good enough answer to her question, so i promptly said "bye" and put the phone down....idiots.

― battlingspacemonkey (battlingspacemonkey), Monday, 4 July 2005 12:33 (twenty years ago)

classic

― Sociah T Azzahole (blueski), Monday, 4 July 2005 12:37 (twenty years ago)

uh-huh

― beanz (beanz), Monday, 4 July 2005 12:38 (twenty years ago)

cheers then.

― mark grout (mark grout), Monday, 4 July 2005 12:40 (twenty years ago)

yeah ....uh huh. mmmm

― battlingspacemonkey (battlingspacemonkey), Monday, 4 July 2005 12:40 (twenty years ago)

Is this where I say 'lock thread'?

― beanz (beanz), Monday, 4 July 2005 12:41 (twenty years ago)

hello?

― mark grout (mark grout), Monday, 4 July 2005 12:41 (twenty years ago)

this also works for wedding receptions when you are stuck with the worlds most boring relative who has only the knowledge of cars/computers as its their job life and hobby and they have no other conversational skill, and a deadpan monotone voice... you try and cut it off, and theyre not getting the hint, so you drink yourself steadily into a coma....and then make an embarresment of yourself.

― battlingspacemonkey (battlingspacemonkey), Monday, 4 July 2005 12:44 (twenty years ago)

Yeah ... so, um ... I'm going now.

― David R. (popshots75`), Monday, 4 July 2005 12:44 (twenty years ago)

or your the boring relative and the other person hasnt been listening quite obv. because youve stopped talking and theyre looking elsewhere still going "uh huh , yeah ..thats nice..."

― battlingspacemonkey (battlingspacemonkey), Monday, 4 July 2005 12:45 (twenty years ago)

where?

― mark grout (mark grout), Monday, 4 July 2005 12:45 (twenty years ago)

ermmmm, toilet its a girl thing , yep... bye

― battlingspacemonkey (battlingspacemonkey), Monday, 4 July 2005 12:48 (twenty years ago)

You robbed her of the whole social dimension of the conversation, the expressions of sympathy, the reassurances that you were there for her, the cheerful "buck up" and the insincere wish to speak with her again real soon. And you didn't offer to meet her for lunch sometime or compliment her on her voice, or grammar or the concision of her question. You insensitive cad.

― Aimless (Aimless), Monday, 4 July 2005 15:43 (twenty years ago)

I'm sick of saying "good bye" and "see you later" all the time. From now on, the second I'm sick of talking to someone I'll just leave or hang up the phone.

― dog latin (dog latin), Monday, 4 July 2005 15:45 (twenty years ago)

It’s nearly as bad as the girlfriend who says, “ No you go 1st” I never got that. Can a girl explain that to me please?

― not-goodwin (not-goodwin), Monday, 4 July 2005 15:47 (twenty years ago)

I only ever saw that one on Friends.

I had a customer service encounter today where the woman was so rude and offhand that I actually wasn't sure we had finished the transaction and had to check with her. I was getting stuff delivered to my mother's house. The woman at customer service filled in the delivery form, took my credit card, asked me to sign the receipt, then left my credit card close to her side of the counter, pushed the delivery docket towards me and without a word turned and started dealing with another customer.

"Is that it then?" I asked.
She looked surprised and said yes. In my shop we hand the customer back their credit card and receipt and say "here is your card and your receipt". We usually add a "thanks" and maybe even a "bye".

― accentmonkey (accentmonkey), Monday, 4 July 2005 15:53 (twenty years ago)

My usual tactic is "anyway, I'll see you/talk to you [some time in the near future]." I was thinking yesterday about how phony "I should let you go" is: you're the one who wants to get off the phone, but you make it sound like it's all a terrible inconvenience for the other person and they're just being too polite to say so.

― jaymc (jaymc), Monday, 4 July 2005 16:00 (twenty years ago)

It’s nearly as bad as the girlfriend who says, “ No you go 1st” I never got that. Can a girl explain that to me please?

Maybe she's afraid that he won't notice the conversation has stopped and will continue talking after she's hung up. Like the way he sometimes comes home from work with crumbs on his face and she wonders if maybe they've been there since breakfast. Sometimes guys just don't notice things.

― accentmonkey (accentmonkey), Monday, 4 July 2005 16:01 (twenty years ago)

i get that silly panic when i have said "bye" at exactly the same time as the other person so i say it again quickly in case they didn't hear and it sounds like i am 8 and trying really hard to get the final word in, like HAHA I GOT TO SAY BYE AFTER YOU I'M THE BEST

― mark s (mark s), Monday, 4 July 2005 16:04 (twenty years ago)

no, you hang up
no, YOU hang up
you
YOU
you
YOU
you
YOU YOU YOU
ARGH!

― dahlin (dahlin), Monday, 4 July 2005 16:16 (twenty years ago)

Yeah, I really hate being on the receiving end of an "I should let you go": you sit there on the other end mentally screaming "No you shouldn't! I have absolutely nothing better than this to do with my life! Offer to buy me dinner or something, c'mon!"

― nabiscothingy, Monday, 4 July 2005 22:26 (twenty years ago)

YOu

its alll YOUOUOUOUOUO!!!!!!

BYe

you go 1st

yes you...far away from here

― battlingspacemonkey (battlingspacemonkey), Tuesday, 5 July 2005 08:02 (twenty years ago)

Oh no! Not another "Flush" thread!

― mark grout (mark grout), Tuesday, 5 July 2005 08:03 (twenty years ago)

Sorry if this sounds like a stupid question, but how *does* one know when the conversation is done?

I find this nightmarish. Conversations with strangers, at all, is difficult enough for me. I can never tell when it's time to end the conversation. Sometimes people just wander off when you think it was all going fine. Sometimes you keep blethering to cover awkward silences. I have no idea! Maybe I should never leave the house again.

― MIS Information (kate), Tuesday, 5 July 2005 08:04 (twenty years ago)

This is making me very sad because my grandparents always use the "I should let you go" line with me. "I don't want to run up your phone bill, so I should let you go."

― walter kranz (walterkranz), Tuesday, 5 July 2005 08:08 (twenty years ago)

It's awkward on the phone because the usual body language hints just aren't there.

― Jarlr'mai (jarlrmai), Tuesday, 5 July 2005 08:14 (twenty years ago)

It's even worse on the phone because I can't see if people look bored. Hence another reason I try to use the things as little as possible. And I'm always dying to get off them when I'm on them.

I have actually ended a phone conversation with "I'm going to go now" - "why? do you have somewhere else to be?" - "No, I just don't want to be in this conversation any more."

― MIS Information (kate), Tuesday, 5 July 2005 08:15 (twenty years ago)

hehhe brilliant. honest. well done.

― dahlin (dahlin), Tuesday, 5 July 2005 08:18 (twenty years ago)

haha kate OTM, i often find myself sort of dragging out sentences while i think "oh fuck what can i say next?" i really envy people who seem able to have instant non-boring conversations with anyone they run into.

― J.D. (Justyn Dillingham), Tuesday, 5 July 2005 08:19 (twenty years ago)

i think "i should let you go now" is just a way to make sure you don't sound brusque; if you say it the wrong way "i'd better go now" is likely to make the other person think they just said something offensive or boring.

― J.D. (Justyn Dillingham), Tuesday, 5 July 2005 08:22 (twenty years ago)

"why? do you have somewhere else to be?"

This is the rudest sentence I've ever read!

I am a complete flake, so "I have to go do... stuff" is actually a plausible ender for me (I hope).

― Andrew Farrell (afarrell), Tuesday, 5 July 2005 08:41 (twenty years ago)

This isn't the same but i was getting a blowjob at a party and it was taking a while and was becoming awkward so i removed myself and said "I have to go get another beer".

― Hari A$hur$t (Toaster), Tuesday, 5 July 2005 10:13 (twenty years ago)

you idiot.

― g-kit (g-kit), Tuesday, 5 July 2005 10:16 (twenty years ago)

Worse than not knowing when the conversation has ended, I hate it when people strike up a conversation with me or phone me because they want me to entertain them. I say some stuff and there's silence on the other end. I say some more stuff. More silence. These days I will actually ask "so what did you want?" to see if there's a point to this.

― accentmonkey (accentmonkey), Tuesday, 5 July 2005 11:33 (twenty years ago)

My parents are awful at winding up conversations. I make it pretty clear, as in ' I have to go now, I am about to wet myself/ burn dinner, see you soon, bye then'. At this point either parent will make acquiesing noises, then suddenly strike up a new topic, such as 'we had a lovely dinner the other night/ your brother came round the other day and tore shit up/ the cat has worms etc'. Then after I've made all the right noises, I reiterate that I have to go and usually use the 'I should let you go, this is costing you loads, seeing as you're calling my mobile'. This does usually work, but may lead to the phone being passed to the parent who I am not speaking to, and it all begins again and my dinner gets burned or worse.

― Raston Warrior Robot (alix), Tuesday, 5 July 2005 11:51 (twenty years ago)

ilx to thread

― ken c (ken c), Tuesday, 5 July 2005 21:48 (twenty years ago)

OTM

― marianna lcl (marianna lcl), Tuesday, 5 July 2005 21:49 (twenty years ago)

Shyeah.

― ken c (ken c), Tuesday, 5 July 2005 21:50 (twenty years ago)

Seriously

― marianna lcl (marianna lcl), Tuesday, 5 July 2005 22:00 (twenty years ago)

Wow, Hari wins, or something.

― Tracer Hand (tracerhand), Tuesday, 5 July 2005 22:01 (twenty years ago)

mark i thought that sounded familiar! what's weird to me is that while you really want the other person to know that you've said goodbye last (?!!) i really want the other person to know i've said it first, yet i never actually do!! (??!!11!?)

When do you say goodbye?

― Tracer Hand (tracerhand), Tuesday, 5 July 2005 22:04 (twenty years ago)

and something very British that i noticed when i was over there, or whatever it is that occurs both in England and Scotland.. something very.. Anglic? is that when you guys say "bye" you usually say it about five times, in increasingly high and frenzied pitches, climaxing with the hanging up of the phone. it's bizarre to an outsider.

― Tracer Hand (tracerhand), Tuesday, 5 July 2005 22:10 (twenty years ago)

well you're not supposed to listen in on other people's phone sex sessions.

― ken c (ken c), Tuesday, 5 July 2005 23:49 (twenty years ago)

This woman at work does a kind of giggle as she says 'bye', possibly in order not to hurt the person she's talking to's feelings as she signs off? It sounds weird and I have to stop myself laughing as she puts the phone down. Telephone (and speech in general) tics are very odd when looked at closely.

― Liz :x (Liz :x), Wednesday, 6 July 2005 07:32 (twenty years ago)

Oh Liz.

― Alba (Alba), Saturday, 9 July 2005 03:05 (twenty years ago)

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