Going to shows alone . . . classic or dud?

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I'm going to go see Jarboe tonight in Cambridge, but I don't know anyone who is both old enough to go and interested in going. So I'm going alone. Will I be crying my lonely eyes out by the end of the night?

― faty, Tuesday, 19 August 2003 17:41 (twenty-two years ago)

I go to shows alone all the time. It's way better than going with someone who doesn't really want to be there.

― dave225 (Dave225), Tuesday, 19 August 2003 17:42 (twenty-two years ago)

I do it all the time.
If you're going to hear/see the music, it's no big whoop. If you're going to be seen yrself, well, whatever, dude.

― Horace Mann (Horace Mann), Tuesday, 19 August 2003 17:43 (twenty-two years ago)

Going to shows alone = classic.

Going to shows alone in hope of meeting other singles = my ensuring disappointment is a major dud.

― j.lu (j.lu), Tuesday, 19 August 2003 17:44 (twenty-two years ago)

So long as you don't expect to be talking to anyone, it's a perfectly enjoyable experience. Journey back might be a wee bit intimidating, but's that's about it. Gig shouldn't be any less enjoyable for all that.

― William Bloody Swygart (mrswygart), Tuesday, 19 August 2003 17:45 (twenty-two years ago)

I go to shows all the time and wish that people would come with me...until they actually do. One time a couple of friends came with me to a GSYBE show, and they stood behind me talking shit about it the first half...until i told them to stop being bitches and told them to go sit out in the car. That sucked.

My vote: Classic.

― Spinktor the Unmerciful (mawill5), Tuesday, 19 August 2003 17:46 (twenty-two years ago)

I'm not interested in meeting anyone, I'm just shy.

― faty, Tuesday, 19 August 2003 17:46 (twenty-two years ago)

classic. do it all the time. you see the band, you can skip the opening bnd if you want to and go straight home without being hassled thus preserving the 'magic' of the night. Only felt uncomfortable once and that was in Hoxton - at a very small venue. Nobody is there to see you - they are there to see the band. No worries.

― deathnight, Tuesday, 19 August 2003 17:46 (twenty-two years ago)

Indubitably classic.

None of my lame ass friends would want to go see Blue Oyster Cult anyway, so I just go and party with random people there. The atmosphere might be different at an indie show though. I haven't been to one of those in a while.

― Mr. Diamond (diamond), Tuesday, 19 August 2003 17:47 (twenty-two years ago)

Journey back might be a wee bit intimidating..

Can you clarify that? I'm going to a show alone in London next month - I'm not from there ... Do I need to be careful/worried on the tube after a show? Or is it just psychological?

― dave225 (Dave225), Tuesday, 19 August 2003 17:48 (twenty-two years ago)

Classic, I do it all the time. When I actually make it to a show, it's almost always because I really want to see the band, so they get all my attention. I'm too lazy to go to shows I'm not that excited about.

Seeing bands just because they're friends, however, requires company.

― Jordan (Jordan), Tuesday, 19 August 2003 17:49 (twenty-two years ago)

It is pretty much psychological. I am unbearably timid by nature.

― William Bloody Swygart (mrswygart), Tuesday, 19 August 2003 17:49 (twenty-two years ago)

Can you clarify that? I'm going to a show alone in London next month - I'm not from there ... Do I need to be careful/worried on the tube after a show? Or is it just psychological?

JUST MAKE SURE THAT GUY WHO IS SHOVING PEOPLE ON THE TRACKS LATE AT NIGHT DOESNT GET YA...

― deathnight, Tuesday, 19 August 2003 17:51 (twenty-two years ago)

Depends on the show and what your motivations are for going. If it's a band I adore, I couldn't give a rolling rat fuck if anyone's with me or not (i.e. it won't hamper my enjoyment of the show to be alone)

If it's a band I'm only passively curious about, then it bodes less well.

If your reasons for going, however, are driven by the desire to meet someone, I'd say you're setting yourself up for possible disapointment. Still, on the flip side of that argument, at least you stand the chance of meeting someone with similar interests. It beats randomly meeting someone in a bar, I suppose. At least you have one common thread.

― Alex in NYC (vassifer), Tuesday, 19 August 2003 17:51 (twenty-two years ago)

classic for me -- i like being alone. you go, you drink, you bring your local free weekly to flip through casually between bands. what's the big deal?

― BLACKOUT '03! (Jody Beth Rosen), Tuesday, 19 August 2003 17:51 (twenty-two years ago)

yeah i do this all the time too. occasionally i do wish id meet someone though, especially if theres a hot girl in the crowd. however, last time i tried to talk to an attractive girl at a gig, the girl just shook her head at me. and that was that. so maybe i wont try that again.

― Bob Shaw (Bob Shaw), Tuesday, 19 August 2003 17:53 (twenty-two years ago)

I'm not interested in meeting anyone, I'm just shy.
-- faty

No one's looking at you. No one is saying, "Look at that loser all by himself."

Also, you do tend to get bored waiting for them to fucking start. Take a newspaper with you. Or a yo-yo.

― dave225 (Dave225), Tuesday, 19 August 2003 17:53 (twenty-two years ago)

I do it pretty often. But it kinda sucks, especially if you don't know anyone who's going to be at the show. Prepare to be bored and vaguely embarrassed between bands, during which time I suggest smoking, drinking, and brooding.

― Tom Breihan (Tom Breihan), Tuesday, 19 August 2003 17:53 (twenty-two years ago)

Bringing someone with you if it's a band you give a damn about has it's down sides too. On the one hand, you get to share the experience with someone (ideally making it even more enjoyable). On the flip side, if that person isn't familiar with the artist in question, you run the risk of that person being bored or having a bad time or being clingy etc., thus hampering your enjoyment of the show.

― Alex in NYC (vassifer), Tuesday, 19 August 2003 17:56 (twenty-two years ago)

going to shows alone = totally classic; you can pay attention!

going to shows cuz you have a crush on the lead singer that's bordering on really creepy cuz you call him like 8 times a day even though the two of you have never had any kinda "moment" or anything and then you come to my, er, his shows and stand down front and don't dance but just glare at me, er, him = um I'm gonna say DUD

― nickalicious (nickalicious), Tuesday, 19 August 2003 17:59 (twenty-two years ago)

By the way, most of the people who are alone hang out in front of the stage. (Maybe because those are the people who love the band so much they'll go to a show alone. Or maybe because that's where they feel least conspicuous.)

After you've done it a few dozen times, you don't care about conspicuous.

― dave225 (Dave225), Tuesday, 19 August 2003 18:00 (twenty-two years ago)

CLASSIC. last two shows I went to alone were on vacation. I a) met and got drunk with the band and some local scene people, and b) met a great writer who then made out with me. I recommend it.

― g--ff c-nn-n (gcannon), Tuesday, 19 August 2003 18:02 (twenty-two years ago)

Spinoff: Horror Stories: Taking someone to a show who doesn't care about the band.

― dave225 (Dave225), Tuesday, 19 August 2003 18:05 (twenty-two years ago)

arts cafe is the worse place to go to a show alone ... you feel like you've crashed a party and brought no booze and no friends. but it's good - i like to move around alot at shows and avoid 'talkers' ...

― deathnigt, Tuesday, 19 August 2003 18:06 (twenty-two years ago)

It's okay -- my advice is to bring something to read, esp. if you're going to get their early (unless you're the type to strike up conversations w/ strangers.)

― Mark (MarkR), Tuesday, 19 August 2003 18:07 (twenty-two years ago)

Its classic more then dud. The only problem is when when I do it after going to shows with friends, and find myself drinking a pint in 5 minutes cause no ones talking.

― Mr Noodles (Mr Noodles), Tuesday, 19 August 2003 18:42 (twenty-two years ago)

Same problem here, Noods.

― Alex in NYC (vassifer), Tuesday, 19 August 2003 18:51 (twenty-two years ago)

That's a problem?

― nickalicious (nickalicious), Tuesday, 19 August 2003 19:00 (twenty-two years ago)

Maybe I just don't like it because I always feel conspicuous. But I'm just shy of seven feet tall, so I always am conspicuous. I would feel way lameass reading something at a show. Getting really drunk is, in my experience, a much better way to deal with boredom and self-consciousness. Also makes it much more likely you'll meet someone.

― Tom Breihan (Tom Breihan), Tuesday, 19 August 2003 19:12 (twenty-two years ago)

we just did this a little while back.
classic. ive been to hundreds of shows alone.

also, jarboe in cambridge Mass??? at the jorge center?

― kephm, Tuesday, 19 August 2003 19:13 (twenty-two years ago)

I don't like it. But I have this thing about experiencing art (or entertainment) and not being able to discuss it with anyone cuz nobody else I know experienced it. Plus shows are often boring and it helps to have someone around to talk to. I'm actually going to my first big arena show in ages and am superglad I've found friends who also want to go.

― Anthony Miccio (Anthony Miccio), Tuesday, 19 August 2003 19:17 (twenty-two years ago)

Yes! Do you know what the jorge center is like? I've never been there, and i'm really curious.

― faty, Tuesday, 19 August 2003 19:20 (twenty-two years ago)

ive only been there once, i dont remember a thing.
i may show up tonight. should i look for the loner in the corner??
thing is, it wa advertised in the globe last week for last tuesday, /confused.

― kephm, Tuesday, 19 August 2003 20:16 (twenty-two years ago)

Classic all the way. If it's a non-seated venue, I love to wander around my myself from place to place and see everything that's going on.

― Chris Barrus (Chris Barrus), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 00:30 (twenty-two years ago)

It can be OK but people are way overrating it. It's important to keep in mind that unless you're going to the symphony or something, music usually takes up a small percentage of "show" time. (Even then, it's nice to have someone to talk to before and after.) Especially at small indie bar-type shows, you're basically going to a bar to hang out and a band will show up for a little while at intervals. Most of the time things start an hour late, there are long waits between sets, etc. In honesty, you are probably just as or more likely to meet someone if you're with someone. I'll come out and say that it's only really good if you're already expecting people to be there.

― sundar subramanian (sundar), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 02:03 (twenty-two years ago)

it's mostly classic for me. there have been times when it wasn't, but it pretty much became the norm as time rolled on.

it's really hard to take certain people to shows. i have friends that say, "if you're going to a show, let me know. i'll go." somehow that just doesn't seem right when it's wolf eyes or something else a little more exotic.

i think the most classic example i have of bringing people to the wrong show was when i took my ex-roomies who are basically ex-ravers and 80's pop fans to see hansgrusel's krankenkabinet and big techno werewolves. hahaha.

fan-effing-tastic.
m.

― msp, Wednesday, 20 August 2003 03:32 (twenty-two years ago)

as a member of the greying over 40 sect,going to shows alone is not an option but a reality. my wife isn't interested in seeing anything too extreme but has tagged along to see gybe,low and amc. but rftc,!!!,hot snakes,GbV,aphex twin,SOTL...i'm on my own.

erm......classic. although i do feel a bit uncomfortable until the band starts playing as well as going up to the merch table,but that's just me.

― william (william), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 04:32 (twenty-two years ago)

Going with someone else who's into it > going on your own > going with someone who isn't into it

― Stewart Osborne (Stewart Osborne), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 07:57 (twenty-two years ago)

Neither classic nor dud but unavoidable when you have musical taste like mine.

Can you clarify that? I'm going to a show alone in London next month - I'm not from there ... Do I need to be careful/worried on the tube after a show?

Are you kidding? London's much safer than most towns in Britain - in my experience.

― Dadaismus (Dada), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 10:16 (twenty-two years ago)

That's what I thought. I wasn't worried until Swygart wrote that.

.. When people ask me if they can "tag along" to shows now, I tell them to meet me there. Then if they want to leave, they can. See ya.

― dave225 (Dave225), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 10:25 (twenty-two years ago)

Mostly classic but it depends on what you will see. Like sundar says, there is a waiting time between sets and bands start late and that can be dull.

― Julio Desouza (jdesouza), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 10:34 (twenty-two years ago)

Classic to the power of n.

If you're seeing miserabilists, then you get to drink and brood. If you're seeing happy people, to can get drunk and jump around like a loon!

100 minutes of solitude.

― Johnney B (Johnney B), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 10:52 (twenty-two years ago)

i hitch-hiked alone 200 miles to see a band on creation records, took a load of acid and got stranded somewhere off the M1 with a drunken sunderland football fan, he was cool though

i'll leave it up to you to guess which creation band

― gareth (gareth), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 12:05 (twenty-two years ago)

No one's looking at you. No one is saying, "Look at that loser all by himself."

I used to be convinced this was the case when I started reviewing shows none of my friends wanted to see. started to drink a lot to take my mind off of it, and am pretty glad I'm over that period... I still enjoy going to shows on my own, but I don't do it that often anymore; I still prefer going with friends or meeting friends there (though I prefer journeying to and from the gig on my own, so I can read/listen to walkman)...

I sometimes feel really intimidated going to gigs on my own in the US. When I saw Blood Brothers at the knitting factory earlier this year, totally on my own, I felt really self-conscious, and really clumsy... though the hipster vibe of the show mighta been part of that.

― stevie (stevie), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 12:20 (twenty-two years ago)

I'm amazed at all these people saying "bring something to read" - what kind of venues do you go to? Gigs I end up at, it's always far too dark to do anything but mope, smoke, and Think Deep Thoughts. Which can get pretty dull, but it's the price I pay for being able to set my own gigging schedule. I can see who I like, turn up when I like, leave when I like, and never need to hold my tongue when someone else either adores something I hate or starts abusing a band I thought were fantastic. That makes it classic in my book.

I used to go home on my own from gigs in King's Cross when I was sixteen, so either I've stopped being intimidated or am used to it. Although knowing when the tubes stop running and local nightbus routes == U&K.

(There was an ILE thread similar to this, not that long ago, but my memory isn't up to finding it on the search engine.)

― cis (cis), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 13:09 (twenty-two years ago)

Here's a fucking horror story for you;

I was going to meet a bunch of friends at a club for a Husker Du show. Was around 1988-89, I think. The show was in Boston at The Paradise and it was snowing like a bitch out. I lived outside the city and had to drive 20 miles in a fucking major snowstorm - I actually got to the club only about 15 minutes later than the time we were supposed to meet.

All my friends who were going lived in town and took the T (Boston public transportation) to the club. Now here's where the horror comes in.

My "friend" Dave T. had the tickets for all of us. I get there late because of a blizzard. Where are my freinds? Why they're in the goddamned club! Did Dave think to leave the ticket in my name at the ticket window? NO!!!

I pleaded with the door people/ticket people - to no avail. Not that I blame them. Turns out my *pal* Dave decided to scalp the ticket and went in to see the show. "I figured you couldn't make it dude" he told me the next day. To this day I still think he's a jerk because of that. And I never got to see Husker Du any other time.

― Davlo (Davlo), Thursday, 21 August 2003 00:35 (twenty-two years ago)

Some of the best gigs I've been to I've gone on my own, and I'll still go on my tod if there's no-one else interested.

But it also adds something to the whole experience if you go with mates. And the gig itself often stops being the most important thing.

I'd say it's very similar to going to the match. If it's a shit game but you're there with your friends, have a few beers before and after, have a laugh etc then it doesn't matter. If it's a great game then that obviously adds to it, and it means more that you've shared the experience with someone.

It's the same with going to a gig. So I guess the corollary is that if it's a shit gig and you're on your own then it is a bit dud.

― James Ball (James Ball), Thursday, 21 August 2003 07:20 (twenty-two years ago)

meeting ppl from ILM at gigs => classic!

― Julio Desouza (jdesouza), Thursday, 21 August 2003 07:30 (twenty-two years ago)

Dud. I hate going to shows on my own. It's always the time in between bands that kills me. I'm not the type to talk to random strangers, so I have nothing to do but stand around and drink (which of course amplifies the whole aloneness thing: not only am I alone at a show, I'm drinking alone too).

― Nick Mirov (nick), Thursday, 21 August 2003 20:54 (twenty-two years ago)

More dud than classic but I do it quite a lot anyway.

Last week went to see PJ Harvey on my own and tho she was fantastic I didn't enjoy it 1/10th as much as I did seeing Sleater-Kinney with friends a couple of days earlier.

― mei (mei), Friday, 22 August 2003 09:47 (twenty-two years ago)

I'll add to the Dud rally. If it's a great show, you have no one to share it with, you're stuck explaining it to your friends later like "you should've been there" and that's lame. If it's not a great show, same deal execpt your friends are more happy to hear that they didn't miss anything.

Right now, I'm faced with seeing the Stooges Detroit reunion show alone on Monday because the original date was posponed by the blackout and the person I was going with can't make it on Monday. I'm kinda bummed, but there's no way that I'd miss it.

― BrianB, Friday, 22 August 2003 11:40 (twenty-two years ago)

I met up with someone at a show once - someone I talked to over the internet briefly - since we were both going to the show alone, I said I'd meet him there. But he was this hipster/emo guy who for some fucking reason didn't realize that I couldn't fucking hear his soft-spoken and mumbly voice over .. the band! And he kept talking about all the great shows he'd been to - bands I've never heard of though - like, "Oh it was so cool - I actually got to see blubbidy last month." Like I know who the fuck he's talking about. And pseudo-intellectual emo guys always use the word Actually. I hate that.

So - the point being - I would have been better off alone at that show. Ya see, I was going to suggest that we invent a signal to tell other loners that they should talk to us .. but then I remembered how awful that can be.

― dave225 (Dave225), Friday, 22 August 2003 12:00 (twenty-two years ago)

I hate to fudge things up here but can something really be "mostly classic?" Isn't that an either/or proposition?

― ben welsh (benwelsh), Friday, 22 August 2003 16:17 (twenty-two years ago)

five years pass...

nothing wrong with this really. you can just pretend youre a critic. i however might be going to a club alone tonight as my friend has just told me shes ill. i might force her to go anyway. flu is no excuse.

― titchy (titchyschneiderMk2), Friday, 31 July 2009 15:52 (sixteen years ago)

I go to shows on my own all the time! If I had to find someone to go with to see a band I wanted to, I wouldn't get to see very many bands.

― someone who is ranked fairly highly in an army of poo (Colonel Poo), Friday, 31 July 2009 15:58 (sixteen years ago)

lol i don't know a lot of (any) ppl who would be willing to go to some of the shows i want to go to

― wishes to be referred under the pseudonym of kronos (call all destroyer), Friday, 31 July 2009 15:59 (sixteen years ago)

lol i don't know a lot of (any) ppl who would be willing to go to some of the shows i want to go to

this ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^

― seni seviyorum / senden nefret ediyorum (Masonic Boom), Friday, 31 July 2009 16:00 (sixteen years ago)

i'd like to go to a show with one of these people. isn't that ironic?

― #/.'#/'@ilikecats (g-kit), Friday, 31 July 2009 16:03 (sixteen years ago)

i like doing this, i've been to two shows this year all by my lonesome -- Bill Frisell and Ghost. Though I saw people I'm acquainted with at both, I didn't talk to them, haha.

― tylerw, Friday, 31 July 2009 16:07 (sixteen years ago)

lurker on ILX, lurker in IRL

― gnarly sceptre, Friday, 31 July 2009 16:10 (sixteen years ago)

i guess so

― tylerw, Friday, 31 July 2009 16:20 (sixteen years ago)

http://rileycon.templaro.com/system/files/images/loner.jpg
i go to shows alone

― clouds taste metallica (jdchurchill), Friday, 31 July 2009 16:38 (sixteen years ago)

http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_b2CR704OENE/R5-4uSVm6VI/AAAAAAAACKg/WojCHKoN9z4/s400/6azf33q.jpg

― tylerw, Friday, 31 July 2009 16:39 (sixteen years ago)

Sometimes I see people I know and if I do I say hi, if I don't, no biggie.

Means you can go up the front/not go up the front if you want to and don't have to worry about what your mate(s) want to do. On the other hand if you are with friend(s) you've got someone to hang out and chat with between bands and stuff. Either way is cool with me.

― someone who is ranked fairly highly in an army of poo (Colonel Poo), Friday, 31 July 2009 16:42 (sixteen years ago)

If I had to find someone to go with to see a band I wanted to, I wouldn't get to see very many bands.

Very very true. I took my girlfriend to see Ghost earlier this year (she loved them) and probably going to De La Soul tomorrow night, otherwise I've been solo most of the year. She really would've liked the Juan Maclean tour, pretty disappointed she didn't make it to that one in retrospect!

― I just wish he hadn't adopted the "ilxor" moniker (ilxor), Friday, 31 July 2009 16:57 (sixteen years ago)

yeah my gf rules and will go to most shows w/me but like she's not gonna like arsis or fucked up.

― wishes to be referred under the pseudonym of kronos (call all destroyer), Friday, 31 July 2009 16:59 (sixteen years ago)

I don't think there should be any sort of weird associations with going to shows alone, or pretending your a critic or whatever. 90% of the events I've been to have been alone, which not only grants you a lot more freedom to go where you want when you want how you want and to do what you want, but I don't go to events to talk or to hang out with people, there's far better ways to do that.

― Kommen sie bitte und listen to Kraftwerk (EDB), Friday, 31 July 2009 17:29 (sixteen years ago)

I don't go to events to talk or to hang out with people, there's far better ways to do that.

Couldn't have said it better myself.

― I just wish he hadn't adopted the "ilxor" moniker (ilxor), Friday, 31 July 2009 17:41 (sixteen years ago)

yeah EDB otm. although part of why i go to a lot of shows alone is that i am a critic, but i usually pretend i'm not.

― some dude, Friday, 31 July 2009 17:44 (sixteen years ago)

I like going to shows and movies by myself (tho company can be nice too). I also like shopping alone.

― a muttering inbred (called) (not named) (Abbott), Friday, 31 July 2009 17:49 (sixteen years ago)

music critics are the art of pretend non-criticness

― velko, Friday, 31 July 2009 17:49 (sixteen years ago)

Yeah, my idea of a good conversation doesn't involve paying a bunch of money to yell into someone's ear in a dark, cramped room and still have half of what is said drowned out by music I'm not even listening to (crowd noise is another big pet peeve of mine. How people can be so pedantic and complaintative about sound quality at a venue, but somehow not notice when crowd noise is almost as loud as the music itself?)

I started going out to events alone as soon as I was old enough to be able to go to them, had I not I would have missed out on a lot of formative experiences.

― Kommen sie bitte und listen to Kraftwerk (EDB), Friday, 31 July 2009 17:50 (sixteen years ago)

not really classic or dud for me. depends on how good the show was, I guess. i certainly don't mind going alone if the band is really exciting. certain venues i won't go to alone just because i want some friends backing me up against potential drunk assholes.

― Highly trained BBQ chef (rockapads), Friday, 31 July 2009 18:15 (sixteen years ago)

I do it all the time. nobody I hang with likes the same music i do

― Elvin Wayburn Phillips, Friday, 31 July 2009 21:36 (sixteen years ago)

eight months pass...

I love going to gigs alone because of all the reasons listed above, but tonight I'm considering trying going to a nightclub alone because I want to see Modeselektor, is this a good idea?

― boxedjoy, Friday, 9 April 2010 16:28 (fifteen years ago)

I've never risked clubbing alone, though I've missed a couple of nights I'm sure I would have enjoyed just for the music. I feel like standing on your own at a gig just looks less weird than standing sober in a nightclub at 2am.

― seandalai, Friday, 9 April 2010 18:33 (fifteen years ago)

I go alone. I have plenty friends, but none of them share the same taste in anything with me and I end up spending most of my time with them constantly wondering whether they're enjoying themselves/whether they hate this/whether their perceptions of me have changed because they hate this/whether I hyped it up far too much/whether... etc. I enjoy myself much more if I'm alone.

― kelpolaris, Friday, 9 April 2010 18:57 (fifteen years ago)

I wish concerts came to West Palm Beach, Florida. I'd totally go alone.

― teflon monkey, Friday, 9 April 2010 18:58 (fifteen years ago)

That said, shows I know in which attract a certain crowd (Vampire Weekend = girls) I'll usually go w/ friends b/c I don't dig the band all too much and don't really care all too much if I miss some of them. I wouldn't call my friends "wingmen" but it generally just makes you look less weird if you're with a crowd, and further, especially if you're the best looking one in that crowd. Sort of narcissistic, I know, but it's true.

I'll be doing that with Dr. Dog this coming weekend.... Pavement, in September, I'll be going to alone.

― kelpolaris, Friday, 9 April 2010 19:13 (fifteen years ago)

Going to a show alone (High On Fire/Priestess/Black Cobra/Bison B.C.) tonight.

― Born In A Test Tube, Raised In A Cage (unperson), Friday, 9 April 2010 19:49 (fifteen years ago)

this would be ideal if you could avoid seeing someone you know at the show and having to justify being there alone. "oh, who are you here with?" is p much inevitable at this point in my life.

― samosa gibreel, Friday, 9 April 2010 19:53 (fifteen years ago)

going to see the lol appleseed cast alone in a week

― call all destroyer, Friday, 9 April 2010 19:56 (fifteen years ago)

Well I went, but only because before it I was drinking with friends who were going to a Saturday-night style disco place which was in the same building as Modeselektor. There was a girl doing unnatural things with an LED hula-hoop when I went in so although it was quiet I was able to get chatting to folk about her until it got busy enough that I wasn't noticably on my own. I'd definitely do it again, but only if I knew the event was going to be really busy, and I'd probably have to have a few drinks before going.

― boxedjoy, Saturday, 10 April 2010 11:36 (fifteen years ago)

I'm going to see Peter Hook reminisce about Joy Division and about losing money and etc etc on my own next week. Can't believe I couldn't find anyone to go with me to that.

― Duke Newsom (DavidM), Saturday, 10 April 2010 11:48 (fifteen years ago)

I went to a Dylan concert at a big sports stadium by myself, sat in the nosebleed seats - man that sucked. going to small shows alone is pretty cool though.

― fuck in rainbows, ☔ (dyao), Saturday, 10 April 2010 11:50 (fifteen years ago)

none of my friends like the same music as me, so i was missing out on a lot of bands at first until i just said "fuck it" and went to one by myself. ever since then i probably go to more shows by myself than in a group. sometimes my fiance will be a sport and come with me, but its nice to not have to drag anyone around anymore. i think i only missed having company during the jesus lizard show when i could have used someone to hold my coat for me a couple of times.

― borntohula, Saturday, 10 April 2010 16:18 (fifteen years ago)

I go to shows by myself most of the time. mostly cuz I can only usually be bothered to attend a concert if it's metal, and my friends hate metal.

Often I find myself more distracted if I go with a friend anyway cuz we both feel the need to go "OMG THEY'RE PLAYING <SONG> NOW!"

― Phoenix in Flight (Cattle Grind), Saturday, 10 April 2010 21:33 (fifteen years ago)

I love going to gigs alone because of all the reasons listed above, but tonight I'm considering trying going to a nightclub alone because I want to see Modeselektor, is this a good idea?
― boxedjoy, Friday, 9 April 2010 16:28 (Yesterday) Bookmark

I've done clubbing alone on occassion, when a specific DJ / band I really care about is playing and either the timing/finances etc means I can't anyone to go with. Can be a bit uncomfortable standing in line outside if you're surrounded by groups in front of and behind you having a good time in each other's company, but I either just zone out / listen to headphone or if loosened up enough will try and engage with them. Once inside, it alls about the music so I have no problems dancing by myself.

Used to noise and imprv/jazz gigs myself 'cos I only like to hear this music in a live perfomance setting and would never listen to at home. I basically started to volunteer at this one great venue, so I can be there during gigs now for free!

― De que estas hablando? (Tannenbaum Schmidt), Saturday, 10 April 2010 23:04 (fifteen years ago)

xpost typos:

...means I can't find anyone to go with.....

headphones

Once inside, t's all about the music so I have no problems.....

Used to go to noise and imprv/jazz

― De que estas hablando? (Tannenbaum Schmidt), Saturday, 10 April 2010 23:08 (fifteen years ago)

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