Have you ever had a same sex crush?

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Have you ever had a same sex crush? I am asking everyone this question whether you consider yourself gay, straight, bi, or undefined. I am asking because despite being sexually attracted to women for as long as I can remember, in High School I had a powerful same sex crush which manifested itself in me wanting to be around this guy all the time and wanting to dress like him, act like him, talk like him. Overall worshipping him. I struggled with these feelings and tried to make myself come out but aside from my mother I generally remained in the closet. I was still sexually attracted to women and not very sexually attracted to men, although I tried to "make myself" attracted to them to relieve the dissonance I felt.

My sexuality confused and worried me until I eventually just "put it down" and stopped agonizing over it. I told myself that "everyone is bisexual" and that it doesn't mean I am gay. I generally don't think about whether or not I am gay and have since had an equally powerful crush on a girl. (Again, unequited)

I think that my method of not being too hard on myself and doing what feels comfortable and natural with regards to my love life (which seems to be going out with girls, although I'm not very experienced) is the best method for me. I'm still a work in progress though I suppose.

I was just wondering if anyone has ever had an experience similar to mine. Or had any thoughts to contribute...

Thanks.

― Ralph Mc Daniels (Colin Cassidy), Saturday, 12 August 2006 01:55 (nineteen years ago)

Sorry! I intended to post this under ILE!

― Ralph Mc Daniels (Colin Cassidy), Saturday, 12 August 2006 01:56 (nineteen years ago)

I'm gonna repost this...

Feel free to lock the thread, moderators.

― Ralph Mc Daniels (Colin Cassidy), Saturday, 12 August 2006 02:07 (nineteen years ago)

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― paid in cigarettes (paid in cigarettes), Saturday, 12 August 2006 02:28 (nineteen years ago)

Sorry! You intended to post this under I Love Gays

― Sir Dr. Rev. PappaWheelie Jr. II of The Third Kind (PappaWheelie 2), Saturday, 12 August 2006 03:34 (nineteen years ago)

I had a friend in high school (I'll call him Max) who had a similar bond to the one you describe for a male friend of his- Max was straight, had girlfriends, etc. but he really seemed to be in love with this male friend of his for a few years- eventually they were separated and now Max is married with children and seems pretty much like a straight guy to me. As a gay man myself I tend to find the "it's only a phase / you'll grow out of it" line about same sex crushes a homophobic response . . . but . . . in the case of Max it kind of seems to fit the bill, certainly more than the "he's a closet case living a lie" explanation.

― Drew Daniel (Drew Daniel), Saturday, 12 August 2006 06:21 (nineteen years ago)

Blixa. Tom from Mekons. hmmm, there are probably others. elvis in 56. dylan in 64. james taylor as a junkie.

― scott seward (scott seward), Saturday, 12 August 2006 10:56 (nineteen years ago)

Have you ever had a same sex crush?

^ ile version.

― Pashmina (Pashmina), Saturday, 12 August 2006 11:28 (nineteen years ago)

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